When I was pregnant, I tried to imagine what you'd be like. I thought you might like flowers and the color pink, so I decorated your room in violets and made you a rose-colored quilt. Today, your bedroom is covered in Star Wars posters and pictures of sharks.
Being away from parents is a good thing. It gives kids room to grow and explore in new ways. We will still be the most influential people in our children's lives, but they don't have to be -- and shouldn't be -- our mirror image.
As a single father of 3-year-old twin girls and the founder and owner of the Madison Square Club and David Kirsch Wellness Co., staying fit and healthy is at the top of my list. I have always believed that nutrition plays a major part in one's overall wellness quotient.
"You only snack when you're sad. But the thing is, you're not sad. You're happy," my son replied. "And you feel bad about it. Like you're hurting Dad or you don't deserve it or whatever. Well you're not, and you do. Capeesh?"
My marriage -- much like those of countless heterosexuals -- didn't last. That divorce rendered me single, gay and father to a hilarious, precocious little boy. So, what makes me different from all other divorcées?
Although having a single parent household may not be the most favorable situation, it is reality for a quarter of all kids in America today. Why shower them with negative statistics and lower their expectations and possibilities in life?
I believe that sometimes we pay too much attention to the structure of what used to be the traditional family unit, and not enough to the relationship that can grow between father and child no matter what the living arrangement is.
Melanie's husband died suddenly at 35, leaving her to care for their three sons, ages 8, 4, and 10 months. She had no family nearby. Turns out, she had something just as valuable: A network of friends.
The great post-feminist irony is that in an age of hard-won female opportunity, media is channeling that opportunity to a place of hyper-sexualized stupidity. It's not who you are -- it's how hot you are.
Contemporary divorced mothers -- whether single, remarried or blending families -- worry and wonder about how our decisions will impact the children. Can we mitigate the emotional damage? What kind of parents will they grow up to be?
It's a glorious feeling to be an activist in the name of individual freedom, whether gay or straight. One always feels rewarded by the expressions of support. "I am what I am" is such an easy goal for a liberal mind, but there is a dark spot that bothers me immensely: the plight of single mothers.