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Singlism

The Other Marriage Discrimination

Nancy Leong | Posted 09.02.2014 | Politics
Nancy Leong

The move toward equality for everyone who wishes to marry is cause for celebration. It also provides an opportunity to reflect on marital status more generally, and to look for ways to equalize those who wish to marry and those who don't.

The True Meaning of Singlism

Bella DePaulo | Posted 03.11.2013 | Women
Bella DePaulo

Because singlism is built right into American laws, it is not possible to be single and not be a target of discrimination.

It's Complicated: The Psychology of 'Singlism'

Wray Herbert | Posted 03.10.2013 | Science
Wray Herbert

"Singlism" is indeed potent and double-edged. Because most people still do opt for marriage, this bias probably hurts more singles overall. But the intolerance that couple people feel is no less real or harmful.

How to Respond to People Who Ask Why You Are Not Married

Bella DePaulo | Posted 08.18.2012 | Women
Bella DePaulo

When married people get that twisted, pitying look in their eye and ask you why you aren't married -- or, worse still, offer lists of reasons why you are not -- it is time to say, "right back at you!"

Et Tu, Touré? A Critic of White Privilege Is Oblivious to Marital Privilege

Bella DePaulo | Posted 05.07.2012 | Home
Bella DePaulo

So those are my two choices? Either I'm providing for my family or I'm out to boost my ego, my status, and my self-image? Touré, there are around 100 million adults who are not married, and that's just counting the ones in the U.S.

Reports of Singles' Early Demise are Greatly Exaggerated (or Just Plain Wrong)

Bella DePaulo | Posted 10.19.2011 | Healthy Living
Bella DePaulo

A just-published article claims that people who stay single are headed straight to the grave -- and fast. Faster than people who are currently married.

Taking on Singlism: 28 Writers Help Me Display and Slay the Beast

Bella DePaulo | Posted 07.19.2011 | Books
Bella DePaulo

"DePaulo says that 'singlism' -- a term she coined and for which we are prepared to forgive her -- is not just aimed at unmarried women." -Gail Collin...

Latest Survey of Singles: This Is How Stereotypes Are Perpetuated

Bella DePaulo | Posted 05.25.2011 | Divorce
Bella DePaulo

Have you heard about the latest survey of single people? It is based on a nationally-representative sample of more than 5,000 Americans, ages 21 to 65...

Is Marriage that Luxury Cruise Ship Stranded in the Ocean?

Bella DePaulo | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Bella DePaulo

Time magazine calls marriage a 'luxury yacht.' Remember what happened on the last cruise ship? The cover of Time magazine asks, in big bold letters,...

Single Parent? No, Your Kids Are Not Doomed!

Bella DePaulo | Posted 05.25.2011 | Divorce
Bella DePaulo

Most headlines from the recent Pew and Time survey were some variation on "4 in 10 say marriage is becoming obsolete." The full report was titled "The...

Facebook Movie: The Arrogance of Achievement vs. the Arrogance of Inheritance

Bella DePaulo | Posted 05.25.2011 | Technology
Bella DePaulo

The word on the street is that the Facebook movie, The Social Network, ruins Mark Zuckerberg's reputation. I'm not so sure.

What Every New Census Report Shows: More Americans Are Single. But Why?

Bella DePaulo | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Bella DePaulo

How do the stories in the media explain the increase in the number of single people and decrease in the number of married Americans? One explanation did not seem to occur to anyone.

Challenges to the Privileging of Married People, from Across the Ideological Spectrum

Bella DePaulo | Posted 05.25.2011 | Politics
Bella DePaulo

[This post is co-authored by Bella DePaulo and Rachel Buddeberg.] Today marks the beginning of Singles Week (or, more formally, National Unmarried an...

Does the Prop 8 Ruling Make the Case for Ending Marital Privilege?

Bella DePaulo | Posted 05.25.2011 | Politics
Bella DePaulo

My question is this: Why should coupled people, but not single people, have greater access to health insurance, employment benefits, or anything else simply because they are coupled?

The Sometimes Sordid History of the American Quest for Bliss in Marriage

Bella DePaulo | Posted 05.25.2011 | Books
Bella DePaulo

Instead of simply teaching people to have 'healthy' marriages, marriage counseling taught Americans to define marriage itself as a healthy state of being.

Know Your 1,138 Marital Privileges, Courtesy of the Feds

Bella DePaulo | Posted 05.25.2011 | Politics
Bella DePaulo

The report also makes it clear that some of the 1,000+ laws identified "may not directly create benefits, rights, or privileges" for married people.

The Truth about Taxes: Uncoupled Singles Always Pay a Penalty

Bella DePaulo | Posted 05.25.2011 | Politics
Bella DePaulo

Of course, that's not what we hear in the public conversation. But it's official: It's not a marriage penalty, it's a singles penalty.

Is Marriage a Barbarian-Adoption Program?

Bella DePaulo | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Bella DePaulo

Married men are less generous with their friends after marrying. How, does this qualify as acting "more civilized," as the Marriage Mafia claim?

If This Were Your Life, Would You Consider It "Relatively Narrow"?

Bella DePaulo | Posted 05.25.2011 | Politics
Bella DePaulo

You may want to skim this list before reading the Washington Post's summary of its story: "Kagan has many achievements, but her world has been relatively narrow."

Don't Visit the Sins of Coulter on the Other 26 Million Ever-Single American Women

Bella DePaulo | Posted 05.25.2011 | College
Bella DePaulo

Here at the Huffington Post, Michael Rowe posted a lengthy and passionate excoriation of a certain tall, blond Republican woman. I share most of his s...

Are You Single at Heart?

Bella DePaulo | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Bella DePaulo

To be single at heart, I think, means that you see yourself as single. Your life may or may not include the occasional romantic relationship, but you don't aspire to live as part of a couple for the long term.

Now We're Supposed to Fret that She's Not a Mother?

Bella DePaulo | Posted 05.25.2011 | Politics
Bella DePaulo

Are you persuaded that Supreme Court nominee Elena Kagan is not gay, and that it should never have mattered anyway? Good, because now we can move on to her next supposed shortcoming.

'Relationship' Is a Very Big Word

Bella DePaulo | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Bella DePaulo

There's something troubling about the use of the word "relationship" that excludes all relationships but romantic ones. All other adult relationships aren't just excluded in the wording; they're absent from the studies.

Should You Marry that Rude, Stinky, Creepy Person Since You're Not Perfect Either?

Bella DePaulo | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Bella DePaulo

Once upon a time, a reporter for a major magazine declared, in all seriousness, that women should just get married already - even if it means settling...

Shriver Report: Get Married, Have Kids, Then We'll Speak to Your Issues

Bella DePaulo | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Bella DePaulo

I'll highlight some remarkable and conventional-wisdom-defying findings from the report that were published but never headlined.