You could kind of say that by being in this band, I'm married to two men. I have to trust them implicitly or this project simply will not work. The three of us fight and have our moments of not getting our way... we huff and we puff but in the end, we collectively decide what is best for our project and THAT'S what we end up doing.
I once met a man who said he wanted desperately to be a songwriter but "unfortunately, I have a family in Oklahoma to support so it is NEVER going to happen." He said it with such bitterness that I felt so sad for that family. Don't people know that if there's something you want to do with your life, there's no reason you can't find a way to do it on some level?