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Joy Out of Sorrow

Stephanie Harper | Posted 11.12.2014 | Healthy Living
Stephanie Harper

But if we're constantly keeping ourselves safe, exercising this concept of self-preservation, then we are also closing ourselves off. We are not letting ourselves fully experience life in community with others. This is a tragedy.

Grieving 10 Years Later

Ronda Lee | Posted 09.30.2014 | Healthy Living
Ronda Lee

Generally, over time sorrow turns into joyful memories. Feeling pain and loss is normal. When grief becomes debilitating, you should reach out to a therapist, counselor, or pastor, who can help guide you through the grieving process.

Am I Allowed To Forget?

Elea Acheson | Posted 11.18.2014 | Parents
Elea Acheson

I bicycled 1,200 miles of this coast in the fall of 2009. My 6-year-old son died that summer, and I was alone for the first time in my life. Not the alone that you find in a quiet moment with a cup of tea and a book. I mean the alone that follows you into crowded rooms and pushes everyone away.

Sometimes a Lesson Is Just a Lesson, or Is It?

Mary Pritchard | Posted 11.17.2014 | Healthy Living
Mary Pritchard

By loving yourself and accepting yourself fully, you are letting go of whatever "mistakes" you might have made in the past. There is no more shame, no self-blame; there is only love. And as uncomfortable as the process that lead me here might be, meditating can help.

Letter To My Daughter On The 10th Anniversary Of Her Passing

Sukey Forbes | Posted 10.19.2014 | Parents
Sukey Forbes

Charlotte, two of the most profound life experiences for me were the day you came into the world as my daughter and the day you left the world as my daughter.

Is It Possible to Write a Memoir When You're Grieving a Loss? Interview with Artis Henderson of Unremarried Widow

Dorit Sasson | Posted 08.31.2014 | Books
Dorit Sasson

In this blog post, I'll be interviewing Artis Henderson on the writing process for her memoir Unremarried Widow, which began as an essay for The New York Times's Modern Love column.

My Middle Child Is an Angel... REALLY

Sukey Forbes | Posted 07.12.2014 | Parents
Sukey Forbes

Since losing one of my precious three children, Mother's Day, like all holidays, is now laced with bittersweet. It continues to be a day of reflection for me. But the reflection is tinged with melancholy for all of the mothering that I did not get to give my daughter who died at the age of 6.

'I Realized I Don't Have to Believe My Thoughts'

Tara Brach | Posted 05.10.2014 | Healthy Living
Tara Brach

Our mindfulness practice is not about vanquishing our thoughts. It's about becoming aware of the process of thinking so that we are not in a trance --...

Love's Contradiction: Embracing Joy and Sorrow

John Thatamanil | Posted 04.19.2014 | Religion
John Thatamanil

To lack joy, to be without an effervescent delight in the sheer fact of being alive with others, is an immense impoverishment. We know this truth in t...

Have You Heard You're Not Alone in Your Grief? It Isn't Really True

Megan Devine | Posted 04.05.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

You alone carry the knowledge of how your grief lives in you. You alone know all the filaments of life and of love that fly through you. You alone know how deeply your life is now changed. You alone have to face this, inside your own heart.

Idiot Compassion and the Power of Sorrow

Susan Piver | Posted 04.01.2014 | Healthy Living
Susan Piver

When we clamp down on our inner experience or avoid emotions, the path to kindness is also obscured. Kindness toward others is actually synonymous with kindness toward self.

Apologies and Forgiveness: Ramping Up the Reality Factor

Deanna Brann, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Women
Deanna Brann, Ph.D.

Saying you are sorry takes a lot of courage because it makes you vulnerable. I know being vulnerable is scary, but if you think about it, it's the price you pay for hurting someone. No one likes to apologize, but no one likes to be hurt either.

'The Reason I Didn't Know I Was Depressed Was Because I Was Happy'

Jennifer Boykin | Posted 10.25.2013 | Fifty
Jennifer Boykin

So, as it turns out, I have depression. Well, actually, I 'HAD' depression, but now that I'm 'all better,' I can tell you about it. The reason I didn't know I was depressed was because I was happy. Or, at least, I felt like I 'should' be happy. After all, we're in our dream house now. I've never lived anywhere as beautiful as this.

Why We Cry

Martha Pasternack | Posted 08.03.2013 | Healthy Living
Martha Pasternack

In my own experience, both professionally and personally, crying is one of the body's ways to bring itself back to balance. It is not necessarily a sign of weakness or even sadness. Infants cry to communicate with their universe. New mothers cry... a lot. And so do the rest of us.

Monday Morning Coming Down

Ron Nikkel | Posted 06.02.2013 | Religion
Ron Nikkel

As I left church following yesterday's service, my heart was filled to overflowing with gratitude and joy. By Monday morning the warm glow of joy and celebration was only a memory as I looked at my schedule and my longer than normal to do list.

Alzheimer's Journal: Tears for Yesterday

Marie Marley | Posted 11.10.2012 | Fifty
Marie Marley

It was the first time I'd felt the full force of having lost Ed to Alzheimer's. The first time I'd cried about it. For in all those years, I'd never realized until right then just how much I'd loved Ed -- and loved him still.

Why I Wish I Were An Opera Composer

Marie Marley | Posted 08.25.2012 | Fifty
Marie Marley

I would write the saddest opera of all time, then find the greatest voices in the world to perform it with the best orchestra in a perfect hall with the most appreciative, music-loving audience.

Family and 'The World Without You'

Nina Sankovitch | Posted 08.18.2012 | Books
Nina Sankovitch

The World Without You is a heart-searing, eye-tearing, and soul-touching novel about loss and resilience, family and individuals, and the enduring connections that bind us together, no matter how awful a wrenching we endure.

Remembrance For Chev

Sayan Sarkar | Posted 06.06.2012 | Healthy Living
Sayan Sarkar

It took the loss of a close friend and young man of 23 for me to continue my pursuit of happiness. But it does not have to be this way for everyone.

A Father (And Rabbi) Loses His Son To A Drunk Driver

Carole Bennett, MA | Posted 05.22.2012 | Religion
Carole Bennett, MA

Redemption and forgiveness are not freely given or passively obtained -- they are earned and require actions beyond jail times, beyond any financial settlement.

The Meaning Of True Strength

Nancy Colier | Posted 04.16.2012 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

To be strong is not to outrun sadness, but rather to learn to embrace it when it is here, to take good care of it so that it can heal. This is a warrior's strength, a wise parent's strength.

What Matters?

Deborah Jiang-Stein | Posted 02.28.2012 | Healthy Living
Deborah Jiang-Stein

Rather than resolutions for the new year right now, I'm looking at a year-end tribute to life, not the sideline distractions.

How to Console a Grieving Friend During the Holidays

Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW | Posted 02.19.2012 | Healthy Living
Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW

Consoling a griever can feel like a frightening task. However, if you follow these six tips designed to open your heart and offer your support, your grieving friend will be most grateful.

Blue Nights and the Solace of Art

Nina Sankovitch | Posted 01.17.2012 | Books
Nina Sankovitch

Blue Nights is the story of Joan Didion's craving for communion between the "I" of her individual event of loss and grief, and the "we" of its universal experience.

St. Hildegard Of Bingen: Honor The Dead By Carrying Them Forward

John Backman | Posted 11.30.2011 | Religion
John Backman

It is more than keeping their memory alive or remembering their birthdays... as important as these practices are; it is about sustaining the ideals, values and passions that they cared about so deeply.