Men are the "neutral" sex in contemporary Western cultures. This means that (1) the image that pops up in our minds when we say "person" or "human" or "worker" is usually implicitly male, (2) non-sexed representations of people are usually assumed to be male.
Men's opinions of what is sexy and confident evolves as our culture's opinions of what is sexy and confident evolves. If we decide we all need to speak up more and be more aggressive in our career-driven daily lives, we can redefine what is attractive to a man.
For all of us, life is full of complicated, sticky messes. We don't need to demean one person's calling to glorify our own. And pedestals only make it harder to fall, children or no, uterus or lack thereof.
As a stay-at-home mom of two small children, when I say that I need a break, I'm not talking about wanting a vacation or a treat as a reward for doing my job. Needing a break doesn't mean that I'm seeking a respite from my responsibilities or that I want to put my feet up.
Twenty years later, mothers and dads are still waiting. In the meantime, almost every other country around the globe has instituted a form of paid maternity leave. There is a tiny trio of countries that do not: Papua New Guinea, Swaziland and the United States.
I have been so blessed to be able to stay home with my kids over the past year and a half. A few months ago, our circumstances changed and we decided I should start to look for something part-time. I have to admit I felt a sense of panic.
The vast majority of young people desire an egalitarian marriage in which both partners share breadwinning, housekeeping, and child rearing. In practice, however, egalitarian relationships are difficult to establish.
We only get one chance at this life and one of my biggest fears is getting to the end with regrets. The only way to minimize regrets is to take stock of where we currently stand in life and be willing to change, or at least slightly adjust, direction.
How would your parenting decisions stack up in front of a judge? Partners in the parental trenches don't really want to think about this. And many won't need to. But it's wise for all of us to consider the costs of creating families.
According to the scientists behind the study, the result is due not to intentional marginalization, but to "subconscious cultural influences." Are we supposed to be relieved that this discrimination isn't deliberate?
Between the fingernail's worth of Cheetos dust permanently left in my eyeball and the graphite in my thigh, forgive me for feeling a little apprehensive about sending my little girl into the lion's den of public education...