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Move Over, First Families: 'Blended' Families Are the New Game in Town

Beverly Willett | Posted 09.17.2014 | Divorce
Beverly Willett

Ads like Honey Maid's, however, place moms like me and dads like my ex potentially on the defensive, maybe even to be labeled bigots. But why should I ever need to defend myself for wanting to make sure that my children know that their dad is 'Dad' and their mom is 'Mom.'

What if We Could All be Like Brangelina?

Barbara Goldberg | Posted 09.03.2014 | Entertainment
Barbara Goldberg

What if Brad had been a woman who had taken on the responsibility of her man's children? Uh oh! Now, that woman would be labeled a stepmother, and we all know what that means. She would be looked upon as a mistress for the rest of her life.

Doin' the 2-Step When Your Stepkids Are Ruining Your Marriage

Diane L. Danois, J.D. | Posted 08.25.2014 | Divorce
Diane L. Danois, J.D.

Most parents will admit that their darling, little angels have, at one point or another, caused a riff in their relationship. Raising children, whether as single parents, as dual parents or as a co-parenting team of several adults, can be challenging and stressful.

When a Stepmother Has Her Period

Barbara Goldberg | Posted 08.05.2014 | Divorce
Barbara Goldberg

I see all the stepmothers running to spas and hotels for seven days a month. Then, over time, all of the stepmothers' periods would start to coordinate to the same week each month (The McClintock Effect). Now, the world would be without any stepmothers for one week every month.

How My Stepdaughters Toppled My Great Big Daddy Ego

Doug Zeigler | Posted 03.16.2014 | Parents
Doug Zeigler

To me, raising sons was easy. I'm a man, and I used to be a boy. I can relate. Girls, though... Not a clue.

3 Days in the Life of a Blended Family of Seven

Elizabeth Denham | Posted 03.15.2014 | Divorce
Elizabeth Denham

I am a planner. Google calendar is my friend. I have five kids' and two adults' calendars on my phone, with alerts programmed to mine and theirs (thou...

7 Tips for Getting Along Better With Your Stepkids

Ann Blumenthal Jacobs | Posted 03.10.2014 | Divorce
Ann Blumenthal Jacobs

Let the kids have plenty of alone time with their dad. They need to talk to him and no matter how long you've been in the picture, you are still not part of the child-father equation.

Letting Go of the Custody Agreement

Amy Arndt | Posted 02.22.2014 | Divorce
Amy Arndt

The schedule is so complex I'm convinced the attorneys who wrote it up did it during a drinking game where each time a schedule change happened, somebody drank, and when it was finished, they were sloshed.

10 Tips For Navigating The Holidays As A Blended Family

Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW | Posted 02.18.2014 | Divorce
Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW

The Holiday season doesn't have to be a time of stress overload for stepfamilies.

A Stepmom Learns From Nelson Mandela

Barbara Goldberg | Posted 02.12.2014 | Divorce
Barbara Goldberg

I am not a historian or politician. From a distant view, there appears to be a few lessons that we may be able to apply to our own lives. Here are a few lessons about leadership that may give us cause to consider.

New Spouse Income and Child Support in California

Mark Baer | Posted 02.03.2014 | Divorce
Mark Baer

Imagine how you would feel if the amount of child support you pay to your ex-spouse increases by virtue of the fact that they later marry someone who earns enough income to place them into a higher income tax bracket.

An Open Letter to My Step Kids for Thanksgiving

Diane L. Danois, J.D. | Posted 01.26.2014 | Divorce
Diane L. Danois, J.D.

I am so very thankful for this weird, dysfunctionally functional, blended family of ours. Because for the last six years, whether you've hated me or loved me, you've always made me feel like a real mom. And for that alone, I am eternally grateful. I love you with all my heart.

'Being a Stepmother Is Nothing Like I Thought It Would Be'

Jenifer Fox | Posted 01.23.2014 | Divorce
Jenifer Fox

I still feel disingenuous calling them my children. They aren't. Even though they have bedrooms in our house, I sometimes feel like a guest at the dinner table.

The 3 Lies We Tell Ourselves About Mother's Day

Barbara Goldberg | Posted 07.08.2013 | Divorce
Barbara Goldberg

It is that dreaded time of year for stepmothers everywhere -- Mother's Day. It is reasonable that children spend Mother's Day with their mother. Meanwhile, stepmothers are left to justify why they do not care about Mother's Day.

A Stepmom's Secret Confession

Jenna Korf | Posted 06.15.2013 | Divorce
Jenna Korf

Stepmoms, do you find yourself up against a mental block when it comes to cleaning up after your stepchild or nurturing her?

A Stepchild’s Sad Confession

Mary T. Kelly, M.A. | Posted 03.22.2013 | Divorce
Mary T. Kelly, M.A.

Having a "blended" family isn't a sign of success, but children who know they are seen for who they are, understood and their feelings respected, is.

The Secret To Being A Great Stepmom

Tracy E. Clifford | Posted 11.19.2012 | Divorce
Tracy E. Clifford

My mother and I grew up in divorced homes, and we endured the experience of having both stepmothers and stepfathers. This was, of course, a situation neither of us desired as children, and it caused us both to deal with a great amount of adjustment as adults.

What Kind of Impact Are You Making on Your Kids?

Kathy Kaehler | Posted 07.07.2012 | Parents
Kathy Kaehler

What we do now as parents is going to play out in our kids' lives later on. I witnessed this in something that just happened with my teens.

Bubba and Me

Don McNay | Posted 06.09.2012 | Sports
Don McNay

Bubba's wife and son couldn't make the Masters ceremony. Instead they get the rest of their lives to have Bubba in his role as an adoptive dad. It's not as exclusive as being a Masters winner but in making any impact on the world, it's more important.

WATCH: How To Stay Connected To Your Stepkids Post-Divorce

Posted 04.05.2012 | Divorce

Video by Janie Lacy for YourTango Are you getting divorced? Do you love your stepchildren as if they were your own? Are you afraid that the end o...

What it Means to be a 'Mature Mom'

Ann Blumenthal Jacobs | Posted 05.21.2012 | Fifty
Ann Blumenthal Jacobs

Mom was in her late 30s when I was born. In the suburbs of the 50s, that could have gone down in Ripley's Believe it or Not, but, it was dealt with directly -- she lied about her age.

How Much Money Should You Give Your Step Kids?

Suzanna de Baca | Posted 04.29.2012 | Divorce
Suzanna de Baca

Today, blended families are a dime a dozen, but the politics and etiquette of paying for stepchildren is still unique to each family. Which parent pays for what -- and for whom -- can be complicated.

In Praise of Stepfamilies

Janice Van Dyck | Posted 10.11.2011 | Parents
Janice Van Dyck

Stepparents have bad reputations. Just ask Cinderella and Snow White. But from my arguably unenviable position of stepmother, I'd like to talk about the better side of stepfamilies.

English Lacks Vocabulary for Safe Discussion of Stepchildren

Tony Phillips | Posted 09.25.2011 | Weird News
Tony Phillips

English, in all its richness and intricacy, includes no safe vocabulary for talking about one's stepchildren, not, at any rate, if one is talking about one's stepchildren to their mother.

Confessions Of A Wicked Step-Mother

Nina Lorez Collins | Posted 09.20.2011 | Divorce
Nina Lorez Collins

When I got married, at twenty-three, I became a stepmother to a seven-year-old-boy. I'd known Jonah since he was four, and his parents had divorced wh...