It is that dreaded time of year for stepmothers everywhere -- Mother's Day. It is reasonable that children spend Mother's Day with their mother. Meanwhile, stepmothers are left to justify why they do not care about Mother's Day.
You love your Mom... and you find her alternatively infuriating and embarrassing, irreplaceable and overly dramatic, irksome and endearing. As far as I know, Hallmark hasn't yet created a line of cards expressing familial disharmony.
There are few guidelines for stepmothers and stepfathers about how to understand child development or to parent effectively, instantly. They jump into middle of a kid's development and try to make sense of it. Usually with little support.
When you marry someone with kids, it's understandable to want to win over your new stepkids quickly. But the road to a stable relationship with your s...
It's a rare stepparent who hasn't tried, in their own way, to win over their stepkids. Whether it was snapping up two Justin Bieber concert tickets or...
Think of the fact that nearly 50% of all marriages end in divorce. Second marriages have a higher failure rate than first marriages. Why is this? He...
When Trisha Yearwood joined me on Mondays With Marlo, we had an interesting chat about her role as a stepmother. Trisha told me that she prefers to ca...
As we slide into Mother's Day, it's clear that we're somewhat murky on what we're celebrating. Somehow, we moms are revered and problematic at the same time, and some are more problematic than others.
Mom was in her late 30s when I was born. In the suburbs of the 50s, that could have gone down in Ripley's Believe it or Not, but, it was dealt with directly -- she lied about her age.
What message does the word "stepmother" convey more clearly than "You're NOT a mother"? And why does a father's new wife need to be contextualized in relation to the mother at all? It declares a winner... as if society doesn't already halo moms over non-moms enough.
When I got married, at twenty-three, I became a stepmother to a seven-year-old-boy. I'd known Jonah since he was four, and his parents had divorced wh...
I wouldn't say that I'd been cocky about my aging parents -- I knew at some point they would pass. But for a long time, as I watched my friends strugg...
Old habits die hard, but when it comes to Valentine's Day traditions you had with a former spouse, die they must.
When you're in a subsequent marriag...
Call them blended families, bonus families or para-kin. Just don't call them stepfamilies. The term -- seared into our consciousness through fairy tal...
The stepmother is probably the least-defined role in the contemporary family structure: She is a parent, yet not the parent. A caregiver but not alway...
Stepfamilies often experience extraordinary stress as the holidays--with their pressure cooker of "family" expectations--get underway. So, let go of the Three Big Myths of Stepfamily life.
Being a stepmother can be one of the most challenging roles in society, and one that often receives little support, understanding, and appreciation from others.
Many women suffer from what I call Stepmartyr Syndrome--embracing the notion that they are going to make it all better for everyone, whatever the cost to them personally.
As a psychotherapist and stepmother, I know from both personal and professional experience the difficulties faced by many stepmothers. Have you considered joining a support group?