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5 Ways to Help Those Remembering Baby Loss in the Holiday Season

Tara Shafer | Posted 12.03.2014 | Parents
Tara Shafer

Many holiday traditions represent light and birth, and for a family coping with pregnancy or infant loss, the ironies and companion absences can be too stark to bear easily.

Moms Share How Counting to 10 During Pregnancy Saved Their Babies

Healthy Birth Day | Posted 11.26.2014 | Parents
Healthy Birth Day

We were five Iowa moms determined to make a difference. We met after we lost daughters within months of each other due to pregnancy complications or stillbirth. Through a series of conversations with doctors and each other, we realized one thing that could help save babies: Counting Kicks.

When Nurses See More Than Birth and Babies

Shelly Lopez Gray | Posted 10.31.2014 | Parents
Shelly Lopez Gray

Perinatal nursing is sweet and magical and everything you think it would be. But everyone only thinks of the birth and the babies. No one ever thinks or talks about the pain of pregnancy, the heartbreak of infertility or the difficulty of death.

Life After Losing a Baby: Kate's Story

Healthy Birth Day | Posted 10.30.2014 | Parents
Healthy Birth Day

October is infant and pregnancy loss remembrance month, a time every year I reflect upon my life after loss.

he Storm That Follows a Lost Pregnancy

Tina Donvito | Posted 12.15.2014 | Parents
Tina Donvito

The snow did indeed come, and as we hunkered down at home I was glad the world was howling along with me. The storm was an aberration against nature, just as losing my baby was. Snow in October is not supposed to happen. Losing your baby is not supposed to happen.

The Other Quiet Mom

Nancy Davis Johnson | Posted 12.15.2014 | Parents
Nancy Davis Johnson

Stories that end with "and then they couldn't find the baby's heartbeat" generally stop a conversation. So these recollections tend to be kept inside, ratcheting up the aloneness that feels like it can smother a mother who has lost a child.

Telling Stories of Loss on National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day

Tara Shafer | Posted 12.15.2014 | Parents
Tara Shafer

On the night of my son's stillbirth, I experienced a range of emotions I could live several lifetimes and never really begin to describe. I felt absolutely separate from my body. I felt intermittently like a witness to events.

A Story of Pregnancy Loss

Kelly Fig Smith | Posted 12.15.2014 | Parents
Kelly Fig Smith

Many of the feelings I experienced soon after our loss were expected: sadness, deep grief, anger. But what surprised me most, and what I wasn't prepared for was the shame -- the overwhelming feeling that I had failed in the way that mattered most, and that it could never be forgiven.

Yoga Practice as a Tool for Coping With Baby Loss

Tara Shafer | Posted 12.13.2014 | Parents
Tara Shafer

In the months following my son's death, yoga enabled a pathway for me to experience myself in my body again. In a rich and saffron-hued yoga studio, lit in the evening with candles, I learned to stay in a moment even as I yearned to escape it.

The Last Days of Mommymilk

Andrea Meyer | Posted 10.07.2014 | Parents
Andrea Meyer

I stopped breastfeeding my son when he was 2 years, 7 months and 12 days old. It wasn't easy.

What NOT To Say After Miscarriage or Child Loss

Seleni Institute | Posted 09.30.2014 | Parents
Seleni Institute

When someone you love loses a baby, you may feel helpless and uncertain about how to respond. And you might not get it right. If you've never experienced such a loss yourself, how can you know what your friend or family member needs at this terrible time?

Dads Suffer Too: Helping Bereaved Fathers Cope With Loss

Em & Lo | Posted 08.12.2014 | Parents
Em & Lo

With Father's Day upon us, it is time to speak to the unacknowledged grief of men who suffer baby loss.

Why You Should Watch What You Say on Mother's Day

Lori Holden | Posted 07.02.2014 | Parents
Lori Holden

I know you worked really hard on that homily about Mother's Day/Father's Day. It's a time of joy and appreciation and community for almost everyone you address. You may not know this, but there are likely other outliers receiving your message.

How to Support Someone After a Stillbirth

Nitzia Logothetis | Posted 06.22.2014 | Parents
Nitzia Logothetis

Most of us understand what happens when we lose a person close to us. We revisit the memories of our time together. We cry over the relationship we had and the future we have lost. When someone loses a child to stillbirth, that relationship didn't even have a chance to develop.

I Finally Understand Why I Don't Want Another Baby

Andrea Meyer | Posted 02.18.2014 | Parents
Andrea Meyer

I do still wish, more than anything, that I had two children: Aidan and Nina. But now I know that longing for the daughter I lost does not mean I want a replacement.

An Unwanted Expertise: Tips to Help Parents Survive Pregnancy After Perinatal Loss

Carissa K | Posted 11.08.2013 | Parents
Carissa K

I wish I didn't have this expertise. Oh, so many times I've made this wish. Yet it's mine and it's one that I'm glad to use if doing so can help someone be better able to provide a bit of a peace to parents at a time when their world is falling apart. So I sat on this panel sharing my experience and owning my expertise.

Every 21 Minutes This Happens To A Mother

The Huffington Post | Lisa Belkin | Posted 10.30.2013 | Parents

New mothers are not supposed to leave the hospital with empty arms. To arrive in labor and depart in mourning is to upend the way the world is suppose...

To an Invisible Mom

Lea Grover | Posted 12.15.2013 | Parents
Lea Grover

Whether or not you hold your own baby in your arms, squirming with life and constant need, you are still a mother. With the weight of your loss, you are not diminished. You are not other. You are one of us -- one of the club.

Why Our Hearts Will Always Be In Two Places At Once

Kathryn Catalino | Posted 01.23.2014 | Parents
Kathryn Catalino

Our beautiful, perfect daughter, Callie Elizabeth Catalino, was born at 8:03 p.m. on May 31, 2011. I whispered to her that I loved her and that I would miss her every day of my life. I asked her to give us strength to continue on, to make it through each minute of our "new normal."

Mother's Day: On Loss and Joy

Carrie Goldman | Posted 07.08.2013 | Parents
Carrie Goldman

This morning while I was running, my thoughts drifted back to Mother's Day 2003. It should have been my first Mother's Day, but life had been unkind, and instead I was clawing my way back from losing the baby.

What A Valentine's Day Tragedy Taught Our Family About Love

Carissa K | Posted 04.09.2013 | Parents
Carissa K

Valentine's Day is a tricky holiday for my husband and me. Seven year's ago, in 2006, Valentine's Day stopped being Valentine's Day and started being simply "the day."

'The Real L Word', Episode 3: Losing Charlie

Kacy Boccumini | Posted 09.26.2012 | Gay Voices
Kacy Boccumini

We belong to a group of people that no one wants to belong to -- the parents of lost children -- and we were going to be the voice for their story, regardless of how difficult.

New York State To Start Issuing Stillbirth Certificates

Posted 03.21.2012 | New York

In an effort to provide comfort to grieving parents, New York will begin issuing stillbirth certificates to parents who have lost children in birth. ...

Worst Expectations: Motherhood Lost

Serene Jones | Posted 05.25.2011 | Religion
Serene Jones

In the midst of your Mother's Day celebrations, take some time to remember your cousin in Houston whose fertility treatments are failing, your next-door neighbor who had a stillbirth three years ago, or your grandmother who lost a child but could never bring herself to tell anyone.