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Straight Spouses

Is Your Husband Gay? Don't Be So Sure

Joe Kort, Ph.D. | Posted 12.01.2014 | Divorce
Joe Kort, Ph.D.

Jennifer discovered from her husband Tom's emails that he was meeting Brad for sex. She came to see me, heartbroken, sure that her marriage to her "gay" husband was doomed. But when I examined Tom, I discovered he wasn't gay.

Rick Perry, This Is What Happens When People Are Forced to Live in the Closet

Juliet Jeske | Posted 08.18.2014 | Gay Voices
Juliet Jeske

Rick, do you ever wonder what happens to gay men and women when they try to force themselves to live a lie? Well Rick, I've got news for you. Most mixed orientation marriages end catastrophically, with both partners greatly damaged. I was in one of those marriages.

When A Gay Husband Is Better Than None

Ana Fuentes | Posted 07.14.2013 | Gay Voices
Ana Fuentes

Three years ago Xiao Qiong married the love of her life, but she has never slept with him. They've never even kissed. Her husband is gay, and she's known it from the start. Xiao Qiong is what's known as a "tongqi," which translates as "wife of a homosexual."

One 'Straight Spouse' For Marriage Equality

Juliet Jeske | Posted 06.01.2013 | Gay Voices
Juliet Jeske

Had my former spouse and countless others felt that they had the option to marry and raise children with a same-sex partner, the plight of many "straight spouses" like me could have been avoided.

Straight Spouses Know That Marriage Amendments Don't Protect Families -- They Hurt Them

Amity P. Buxton | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Amity P. Buxton

Our gay husbands or lesbian wives loved us, yes, but they also felt pressured to follow the one-man/one-woman definition of marriage endorsed by society and, for many, their faith communities. Ultimately, most of our marriages ended in divorce.

'Collateral Damage' In The LGBT Community: Straight Spouses, Still In The Darkest Corner Of The Closet

Amity P. Buxton | Posted 11.20.2012 | Gay Voices
Amity P. Buxton

Tucked in a corner of the lesbian/gay/bisexual/transgender closet is a little-known group: straight women and men in heterosexual marriages whose husbands or wives come out as gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender after marrying them as "the right thing to do."

Gay Marriage Act's Impact on Heterosexual Marriage

Elizabeth Abbott | Posted 09.06.2011 | New York
Elizabeth Abbott

Whether straight men and women know it or not, New York's new Gay Marriage Act will have an enormous impact on them. The reason? It will eliminate or ...

Straight Ex-Spouses: Legalize Gay Marriage

Washington Post | Theresa Vargas | Posted 05.25.2011 | Politics

As the debate over legalizing same-sex marriage in the District grows louder and more polarized, there are people whose support for the proposal is pe...

A Straight Spouse's Perspective on Proposition 8: Why it Should Not Pass

Amity P. Buxton | Posted 05.25.2011 | Politics
Amity P. Buxton

As strong and valid as the cornerstone themes of equality and justice are in speaking against the proposition, there is another compelling argument to vote No that has been conspicuously absent.