The holidays come and go every year. Don't stay stuck in a bad emotional drama. The willingness to do it differently will always create the means and ability you need. Trust yourself and have the courage to step free.
If you have parents, brothers, sisters or cousins and you visit them around the holidays, you can't avoid your destiny: There will be family drama between Thanksgiving and New Year's. This is America. This is how we do it. We like our cars big, our beer cold and our families dysfunctional.