When parents try to convince their children of how competent they are, they often have the exact opposite effect. There is this little thing called reality that children have to confront on a daily basis; life has a way of sending messages about competence that can be in sharp contrast to the outsized messages of competence that parents send their children.
This Thursday many of us will gather with family and friends, filling up on stuffing and stories, perhaps overlooking the real sense of gratitude hidden in the name of the holiday. As I approach an inevitably crowded flight east to be with loved ones of my own, I am reminded of an experience for which I am truly grateful.
Humbled, I've watched my courageous clients tolerate the uncertainty of what is to come and leap off the mountain without looking back. Some have found great success with their next steps, while others have not been as fortunate. If nothing else they now know that they can tolerate failure, they don't have to fear it. They jumped off the mountain and they survived.