I came to the realization that I was living a life of mediocrity after working for thirteen years in a field I loved but had no particular impact on. I would come up with ideas that I thought were brilliant and that my friends thought were great, but I never really acted on them.
Most days I don't get my whole to-do list done, and some days I don't do any of the list at all. But it's not the end of the world -- I always have the list to come back to, like a compass showing me the right course, and know that these are the things in my life that matter to me.
What happens when we move back deadlines? Research suggests we have a lot of difficulty using our newly-found time wisely. We wind up facing the same problem again -- only now we've gone an additional week, or month, or year without reaching an important goal.
The people who "come out of nowhere," triple their business "overnight" or made some simple decisions and transformed their lives "nearly instantly" were hard at work before any of us had any clue who they were.
All year round, our over-scheduled, over-sported, over-stimulated, helicoptered children are told time and again how they need to cram in more if they are going to be good enough. Well, guess what? I'm not buying any of it.
If you're like me, and you find that your life has become more about pursuing peace and relaxation than giddy excitement, rest assured that you aren't missing out on happiness. Your happiness has evolved, just as you have.
You've connected with a potential client, explained your services, and they seem excited to move forward. They even requested a proposal, promised to review it and get back to you posthaste. Then, nothing.
Here's something that might surprise you, and I find it to be true across the board -- people who are both successful at what they do for a living and contribute positively to the lives of others have plenty of time on their hands.
Let's not kid ourselves about our offices and meetings. Let's not pretend that our interaction needs don't often trump our business needs. Let's not pretend we're getting it all done efficiently. Let's accept it and feel less frustrated.
At the Inbound Conference, held recently in Boston, Arianna Huffington spoke about how success is often measured in terms of money and power but wisdom, physical well-being and giving back are equally important measures of a life well lived.
When it comes to careers, we have more choices than we often realize. Can you think of someone who doesn't like their job much? Well, perhaps you can help them by pointing them to the choice of six boxes for their career.
The Dalai Lama's message is that by allowing yourself to experience those negative feelings, you begin understand them and figure out how to transform them. Don't drown or ignore or block the negative feelings, but use them to move forward. Keep working on it.
She called home before the holidays and said she wouldn't be home for Christmas. Some of the family members were amazed she'd "do that" to the family. Didn't she know better? Everyone knew better than anyone the holidays were a time for family and that she should be home.
If we are willing to admit that we see ourselves in hierarchical positions with just about everyone, if we recognize that hierarchy is institutionalized in our world, if we recognize that it's a damaging perspective, is there anything we can do about it? Absolutely.
We can create ideas, innovate, and become competitive in a shorter time than ever before. The world is a collection of unlimited wealth and resources; the question is how we make those resources relevant to who we are. The more we have, the more we can give.