I will come out and say it. I love my job. I really do. And I also realize just how lucky I am to feel that way. The fact is that every single day, I have the privilege of being in service to people in need.
"Cancer doesn't discriminate." I don't know who originally said that quote. It must have been someone who realized how large and diverse a world we live in, and how broad the term cancer is. For as far as the LGBT community has come, there are still those who view us as "other."
If you can't seem to see the glass half-full, surround yourself with people that can. Find a supportive community; look for people with similar interests who understand you and will be able to provide you with the encouraging words you need to hear.
My life partner of 33 years, Ron Winokur, died in 2006. He was 58 years old; I was 56. I looked for prostate cancer support groups for gay men while Ron was still alive, then for support groups for gay men who had lost their partners. There were none. I felt alone.
October is National Breast Cancer Awareness Month. I have learned a lot from the cancer survivors I have interviewed. I am reminded of the real value of life, how precious it is, and how unimportant our mundane challenges really are.
Social media gets criticism for the harm it can do, but social media can be a source for good. One way Facebook is being harnessed for the greater good is by providing support and education for the cancer community.
In truth, I'm happy in the face of what I write because I have an outlet for all my feelings. My upbeat attitude has been shaped by creating a new and different conversation about loss, and the relationship I have with my readers.