My cancer doesn't have motives, free will, or spite. I find no solace in telling it to f*ck off, or claiming I'm beating/fighting/standing up to it. It's no coincidence that these metaphors are generally the slogans of fundraising campaigns.
More people are getting cancer and more are surviving it. The costs of survivorship -- financial, physical, psychological, social, emotional -- affect not only survivors and their families, but our country and our communities.
When my brother-in-law Mike was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in his 40s, his life, along with his wife (my youngest sister) and their three young children, was turned upside down. The cancer wave rippled out from there. It was a wake-up call for friends and family.