White parents that espouse "love is enough" are, in fact, doing Black adoptees a huge disservice, potentially exposing their children to a high degree of racial identity confusion and a poor ability to effectively cope with race-based mistreatment.
We don't assume pat answers are adequate for enabling our children to learn to navigate relationships, nutrition, sexuality, religion, emotions or any other challenging reality. Why should race and racism be any different?
As Black History Month comes to a close, I thought I would share some resources for talking to kids about racism, in terms of both the historical context of our country and the present-day issues of prejudice.
As a liberal, white woman, this is not an easy thing for me to address. I am the product of much progressive diversity training and I've always followed other people's lead in how they want to discuss their race. I don't know how to begin the conversation.
Alejandra's father is black. I'm Latina. He ate grits and greens. I ate chorizo and tortillas. Before we had children, we had lengthy discussions about how we would raise our kids. Now that Alejandra is in pre-kindergarten, she wants to know where she fits in among her peers.