I seem to have experienced a role (model) reversal: after working for women I thought--in my naiveté and lack of experience--were "bad" mothers, I've turned into exactly the sort of mother I said I would never be.
It's a complaint that's been around for as long as there have been classics for teachers to assign to students -- kids just don't want to read them. Hawthorne? Like pulling teeth. Bronte? Pure torture!
If teens are not allowed 20% of their time to be less structured, they are robbed of the opportunity to sink into the deeper recesses of their minds to "make something up" or explore their inner selves.