I watch his hulking, itching to grow pre-teen body go. He's so far from that little boy in the crib, but there's still some baby left in there. And just like with all the milestones, this leap to teenager is bittersweet.
During the four months before my son turned 18, I think I saw him maybe 12 times. He would leave early in the morning and return late in the evening. When our paths did cross, his eyes were glazed over.
We tell our kids and teenagers all the time that they are special. We do. We tell them they are unique and we work to boost their self-esteem. We want them to be propelled into the world thinking they have advantages over others because of who they are. But what are the downfalls?
Unlike the deep bouts of doubt I once had over whether I was a good actor or singer, or the doubts I can have today over whether I'm a good writer, blogger, gardener or even friend, I don't have too many over my ability as a mother.
School starts for John in a few weeks. He is now in a position to excel. It is my heartfelt hope that all children and teens will get the attention and support they need to sleep better and be at their best.
Your children want to connect with you. They want to show you who they really are. They want to know that you understand what they're going through. Start your dialog with empathy so you can truly help them navigate emotional challenges.
How could I go back and face that lunch table with no ally, no disguise, no excuse to hide behind? I was always hiding, and I suddenly realized I was sick of it. Why should I hide, I thought, when none of this is my fault?
Like most teenagers, music was my passion, and the music I loved defined me. Back when there were record players and 33 RPM albums with creatively rendered covers that opened like books, I collected and listened, read the liner notes and knew the words to hundreds of songs by heart.
Having attended the same public school since kindergarten, after 6th grade I had to move to a new town. I didn't want to hear about going back to school at all, knowing I had to start 7th grade at a Catholic school, where I didn't know anyone.
Having a teenage driver is a hair-raising experience that can keep parents awake at night. And, as if that wasn't enough, parents also get hit with an enormous spike in their auto insurance premium after adding junior to their policy.
I know you think that all of your actions are in the best interest of your child, but I want to share some lessons learned in the hope that you stop doing some of those seemingly well-intentioned things. I was forced to stop. I hope you choose to.
The world has changed a lot in the past few decades, but gay men still face violence and abuse. Anyone cognizant of current events recognizes that we haven't come far enough in trans inclusiveness, and lesbians and bisexual people still get left out in the cold too often.
Around this time of year, many young people are well into summer jobs. Taking advantage of time between school years, they're gaining skills and experience that can translate to future employment success.
In today's world, scenarios like this one are more than frequent. They're everywhere. Being born or living in a different country than the country your parents grew up in has become more and more regular.
Writing about sex for the past 15 years has also given us plenty of time to think about how we'd like to raise our daughters, and how we will talk to them (and in some cases, are talking to them) about sex. Here are the top 10 things we want them -- eventually -- to know and understand.