The first step in healing the destruction in our world is healing the destruction in our own thoughts. Moving on from that to positive thinking we have discovered an infinite world of possibility that creates real change in human relations that emerges from inside the resilient human brain.
Mindfulness is awareness of what is happening in the present moment, including awareness of thoughts, without any attachment to whatever you notice. Mindfulness is helpful because it creates space between thoughts and actions.
Now's the time to change the stories that could be sabotaging you. It may seem unexpected or inconvenient, but the more you power others with your kindness, authenticity and inspiration, the more you'll be powered to accomplish your dreams.
When we no longer hold our partner responsible for the fulfillment of our needs, everything changes. This is easier said than done, but it is perhaps the single most important thing we can do to insure that our relationship will be mutually satisfying.
Knowing that experiences come and go in a meaningless, impersonal fashion makes me far less likely to attach much to them. I can be in the middle of a "this is so frustrating" story and see that the frustration I'm feeling is thought-created, not a new-house creation.
If I think positive thoughts and take positive actions toward my goals, my destiny can be one of joyful and uplifting, with moments of gleefulness. I might fall and get a few bruises along the way, but if my habit is to get up one more time than I fall, my destiny will be one of success.
We don't need to solve our problems as much as we need to transcend them and see the truth about them. Solving problems in the world gives us a momentary high and then an empty place for the next problem to fill; transcendence gives us freedom.
The light floods the room as she flips on the switch. Here, these lights are my friends, though in other areas -- dressing rooms in particular -- their harshness can tell as many blunt lies as I do if you bend me in a house at a carnival.
The first step is to realize that we have these different voices offering up their advice. They all want things to be done their way. The challenge is to get this "committee" to come together in a consensus so we can make a decision that's for the highest good for all of our parts.
We all have many parts to our personalities and getting those parts to work in harmony is the essence of emotional health. Leave out certain voices and you're in for strikes, rebellions, hypocrisy, and, eventually, brutal attacks.
If you forego the mental strategy (and avoid adding more thought), your head will empty, insights arise, and you will feel better. After all, you, like all human beings, are designed to regulate to clarity without effort.
To be honest, as I've worked on this so far I've found that most of our millions of thoughts are actually pretty irrelevant. They aren't about being smart, and they aren't even all that clever. They are just an ongoing, buzzing distraction that keeps me from fully enjoying things.
Let's say that at this moment you are having a thought about a friend, something specific that she did, and what you want to say to her in response. That friend who you are thinking about is not experiencing your thought. If you don't engage with that thought, it will literally not exist.