Seventy-three years ago, Henry Luce, the publisher of Time and Life magazines, called on his countrymen to "create the first great American Century." No one today could claim that this is Time's century, or the American Century, or perhaps anyone else's. Even the greatest empires now seem to have shortened lifespans.
Don't get me wrong, Sierra: Appropriation does happen, but gay men didn't steal "your" shit. They helped draw, color, sew, produce and conceive of it in the first place. So when you see white gay men emulating black women, you should be aware that part of what they are responding to is the expression of gay, queer and feminine men.
We all can do better at deploying language, style and dance moves that has cultural attachments that are not our own in such a way that it feels inclusive. There is no one to one scale of oppression that allows any group to place a claim on another's culture even if they share aspects of the same identity.
I realize now, as I hope Tal can someday realize: white privilege isn't about me individually. It's not a personal attack. White privilege is a systemic cultural reality that I can either choose to ignore, or choose to acknowledge and attempt to change. It has nothing to do with my worth as a person or my own personal struggle.