Up until the patriarchal revolution, both Fridays and 13s were held in the very highest esteem. Both the day and the number were associated with the Great Goddesses, and therefore, regarded as the sacred essence of luck and good fortune.
My own family is certainly not exempt from the syndrome of rushing around to buy presents this time of year. But there are three things we do annually that are far more meaningful and memorable to all of us than a material gift could ever be.
Just as we set our boundaries, hold our ground, and stand firm against unrealistic expectations in other relationships (needy friends, ex-spouses, PTA), we are capable of doing the same with this holiday.