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A Mom's Letter Introducing Her Transgender Daughter

Liz Hanssen | Posted 11.15.2014 | Gay Voices
Liz Hanssen

I am the fortunate parent who lives in awe of her 15-year-old child, whose courage and conviction to live authentically in a largely unfamiliar and often less-than-friendly world is humbling. And as she has grown into herself, so too have those around her.

Transgender Children Today: Shifting the Responsibility for Change Away From Children and Onto Society

Aidan Key | Posted 09.20.2014 | Gay Voices
Aidan Key

How do we change society? We start by listening to the truths of these children and believing, rather than dismissing, them. If we can start by believing the child's clearly stated truth, we are well on our way.

WATCH: Mother Schools Haters Who Don't Understand Her Trans Daughter

The Huffington Post | Noah Michelson | Posted 07.15.2014 | Gay Voices

"My daughter is six years old. She transitioned, which means she changed her outward appearance from male to female and started living full time as he...

My Trans Son: Standing Tall

Todd Greenwood | Posted 09.12.2014 | Gay Voices
Todd Greenwood

As a society, we have just begun to talk about what it means to be transgender, and I, like most men of my generation, knew almost nothing. If there is anything that I've learned, it's that the subject is deeply complex. I think I understand something fundamental, but I really don't.

The Day I Took a Knife to School, and How It Changed Me

Mary J. Moss | Posted 09.04.2014 | Gay Voices
Mary J. Moss

"I might as well be invisible," I thought. I was sitting in my wheelchair in the locker room while the other kids played a sport in gym class. I could hear them and wondered how long it would take for anyone to find me. I felt so alone. I thought I was a burden to my family, and I felt hopeless.

Dispelling Myths, Misconceptions and Lies About Gender-Nonconforming Children

Brynn Tannehill | Posted 08.10.2014 | Gay Voices
Brynn Tannehill

Recently, a video about a transgender child in California went viral. Sadly, like every other conversation about transgender children, the comments section was often unkind. Scanning the comments, I saw the same poorly thought-out ideas keep popping up. I think it's time to put these misconceptions to bed.

Grieving a Child Who Is Still Alive

Mary J. Moss | Posted 08.08.2014 | Gay Voices
Mary J. Moss

My daughter Grace passed away in September 2010. There wasn't an obituary. There wasn't a funeral. There wasn't a casket or even a body to put in it. No one sent me sympathy cards. No one brought me casseroles. This wasn't because no one cared yet. It was because my child was still alive.

Allies and Angels

Jorge R. Petit, MD | Posted 07.02.2014 | Gay Voices
Jorge R. Petit, MD

In their book Allies and Angels: A Memoir of Our Family's Transition, Terri and Vince Cook lay bare their experience and journey of parenting a transgender child. They show us that resolve and steadfast love are what truly define the parental instinct.

She Never Was a Boy

Karen Adams | Posted 05.05.2014 | Gay Voices
Karen Adams

Quickly my mind raced through the catalog of her interests, behaviors and clothing choices, and I saw how many clues I had missed. I saw my new daughter for the first time, through the actions of my nephew.

An Urgent Warning to All Parents: This Gay Man Is Targeting Your Children

Noah Michelson | Posted 04.16.2014 | Gay Voices
Noah Michelson

I don't want you to walk away from this letter thinking that I'm not targeting your children. I most certainly am. Here are just a few things I want your kids to know.

Transgender Family Thanksgiving Celebrations

Wayne Maines | Posted 01.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Wayne Maines

I dream about the day when families with transgender children will be able to have classic Thanksgiving celebrations. Unfortunately, many families like ours celebrate alone or with a few close friends because they are not considered part of the extended family anymore.

I Stand With the Transgender Children of California... Do You?

Parker Marie Molloy | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Parker Marie Molloy

We need the full resources of every LGBT organization in the country. We need all our self-proclaimed allies to start speaking up, calling out those who deal in falsehoods and half-truths. We need to educate the public. I'm going to.

Sharing the Stories of LGBT Youth: Jazz, 12 (PHOTO)

Diana Scholl | Posted 05.14.2014 | Gay Voices
Diana Scholl

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The 7th Annual International Day of Action for Trans Depathologization

Jack Harrison-Quintana | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Jack Harrison-Quintana

The global trans movement has grown exponentially in the years since the campaign started, and the effort to move away from a pathology framework and toward one based on the affirmation of identity has been central to forging the path to liberation.

The Coming Storm: 'Controversial' Transgender Stories

Parker Marie Molloy | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Parker Marie Molloy

In the coming year, as A.B. 1266 goes into effect in California, be prepared to read a lot of stories like this: "Local Transgender Student Provokes Mixed Reactions," about the "controversy" surrounding news that a transgender student would begin attending school presenting as a girl.

Parts Unknown

Leslie Lagerstrom | Posted 11.20.2013 | Gay Voices
Leslie Lagerstrom

Severe pain in my 17-year-old son's abdomen took us to the ER last week. It's one of those situations that everyone dreads, but if you're transgender, there can be an added level of anxiety when the medical professionals aren't current on trans health care. Such was the case for us.

Transgender Students Have New Rights in California

Danielle Kaufman, M.D. | Posted 10.20.2013 | Gay Voices
Danielle Kaufman, M.D.

California Gov. Jerry Brown recently signed legislation allowing transgender students in California to have access to the sports teams and facilities that correspond with their gender identity. This is a critically important move. Let me offer some insight from a trans woman's point of view.

Lost and Found

Alexandra Billings | Posted 10.19.2013 | Gay Voices
Alexandra Billings

The other day I decided to get lost. I decided to drive. Going into the unknown for a day, I wanted to travel far and stop when I needed, see what I wanted, and just keep going. I drove for two or three hours and stopped at some beautiful places, but I couldn't seem to get far enough away.

Into the Toilet

Justine Valinotti | Posted 10.16.2013 | Gay Voices
Justine Valinotti

How do they always end up being about bathrooms? I'm talking about the debates and protests that accompany any attempt to ensure that gender-variant individuals have the same rights as everybody else.

Love More, Fear Less: A Mother and Her Child Share Their Incredible Journey

Franne Golde and Syd Fox | Posted 07.18.2013 | Gay Voices
Franne Golde and Syd Fox

It was a primal scream that went right through me and sent distress signals to my heart. My beautiful 4-year-old daughter stood up in the bathtub as though she were possessed. "Mommy, I'm supposed to be a boy. God made a mistake!" she screamed through heaving tears.

To Go, Or Not To Go, That Is The Question

Leslie Lagerstrom | Posted 04.21.2013 | Gay Voices
Leslie Lagerstrom

For my transgender child and thousands like him, the simple act of relieving themselves in a public restroom at their school is a source of stress, confusion, violence, endless meetings and even lawsuits, just because they identify with a gender that differs from their biology.

A Simple Valentine's Day Dance

Wayne Maines | Posted 04.09.2013 | Gay Voices
Wayne Maines

Nicole was 10 years old, openly attending school as a transgender girl, and Valentine's Day was right around the corner. One evening Nicole came home, and while we were preparing dinner, she announced that there was going to be a father-daughter dance at the town recreation building.

Preparing For A Generation That Comes Out Younger

Josh A. Goodman | Posted 04.02.2013 | Gay Voices
Josh A. Goodman

The average coming-out age has declined from 20-something in the '80s to somewhere around 16 today, and there are many who come out younger -- in some cases far younger. Both the LGBTQ community and society at large need to be thinking about how to meet these kids' needs.

Remaining Hopeful After A Disappointing Court Decision, But How Do I Tell My Daughter?

Wayne Maines | Posted 01.29.2013 | Gay Voices
Wayne Maines

Last week, after five years of struggle, pain, hard work and hope, a Superior Court judge ruled that the Orono school system did not violate the Maine Human Rights Act when it prohibited my daughter Nicole from using the restroom that matches her gender identity.

If You Knew Him

Gretchen Peters | Posted 01.19.2013 | Gay Voices
Gretchen Peters

As the mother of a trans man, I have a hard time dwelling on the fact that hate could drive a person to murder someone like my son. I know what all of us who love our children know: that if you really knew them, you could never hate them. But the fear of what could happen never really goes away.