The way the stories about Michelle Shocked's homophobic rant and the Indigo Girls' commitment to stand with the trans community at the Michigan Womyn's Music Festival developed exemplifies the difference in power between the gay and trans communities, which are united except when they're not.
I am a queer transgender man planning my wedding to a queer cisgender woman. Man, did my heart ache to think that the world would see me as heterosexual. See Jocelyn as heterosexual. Depending on a given day or situation, it still stings.
This week I had one of those productive conversations on transgender issues with a manager. She confessed that she had deliberately steered away from reading about these issues in the past, though not from squeamishness but because "both sides just seem so angry all the time."
My thoughts on Fallon Fox are rather simple. Fallon is a female fighter who should be able to fight other women in her weight class. This statement is backed up by science, and most people need to educate themselves about transgender people before they say anything different.
I hope Chad Griffin and Jeff Krehely take the time over the next few months to sit with the trans community to find a way past injuries and old wounds. If Israel and Turkey can resolve their differences, surely HRC and the trans community can.
I'd gone to mixed martial arts training and boxed with cisgender guys, and no one had had any clue that I'd been designated as "female" at birth. I don't hide the fact that I'm transgender; I just don't see any reason to bring up my trans status with that group. Allow me to explain.
"I am a survivor of sexual abuse and domestic violence. I'm from the South side of Chicago. You know from a lower-middle-class family. I'm dark skinned. I'm plus-sized. I'm afro-centric and therefore I'm marginalized even within the margins."