Far too many children -- especially those known to the child welfare system -- have experienced trauma. Despite the amazing work of the professionals who care for these vulnerable children, we know there's more we can do. Today, I'm pleased to announce a critical step forward.
In our very busy and cluttered lives, it's important to make time to consider how we can help the people around us. Frankly, it's comforting to know that there are people who, despite tragedy, have found a way to help themselves and those around them.
For all of us who work with human beings, our humility brings us always back to: First, do no harm. Sometimes that's hard. Sometimes we make mistakes, notice things we wish we'd known before, or had been able to handle or perform better.
Don't insist a student take a pose s/he doesn't want to do. Don't ask twice. Respect your students' body wisdom. Become unattached to that teacher/student hierarchy. Teach your students to trust themselves. That's how they'll make friends with their bodies. That's how they'll heal.
Right now there is a teenager riding the 4 subway train through New York City, wondering where to go. Nestled between you and me on our train home from work, her belly is too small for us to notice. She feels invisible. But she has rights, and she is not alone.
When the hurt is internal, the tendency is to slip under the radar and "pretend" that everything is okay. However, the level of your hurt runs deep, and it has to heal in the same way cuts, scratches, and bruises would.
This is an interview with Crystal Hinton, who started her yoga service career caring for her younger sister, Chanda, when Chanda moved to Colorado in 2000. A shooting accident at the age of 9 left Chanda paralyzed, a C/6 injury.
I kept my secret for eight years. For eight years I suffered in silence through the horrors of my own personal Hell. I endured close to a decade of rage, tears and ultimately self-destruction. The memories are nauseating, the shame unparalleled. The trauma didn't stop when my abuse did.
According to Wikipedia, "wanderlust is a strong desire for or impulse to wander or travel and explore the world." I suspect that if you're reading this, you are likely to have at least a mild case of this condition. Did you ever wonder where this feeling comes from?
The phrase "she's so drama" is used to needle someone who acts too "girly" by expressing more emotion than social conventions allow. But we might ask ourselves whether he (or "she") could be the victim of a social trauma, the trauma of being viewed, treated, and dismissed as "like a girl."
Children and families in the days and weeks after recovery face a new and unique challenge.If the process is hard for families, what about the missing? What will they have to do to reintegrate into their new/old lives?