How we treat others should be a choice that reflects our character -- not a reaction to other people's character. So, I choose to be kind because my kindness will define me. Not my parents. Not my relationships. Not my sexuality. Not my work. But my kindness.
The benefits of comprehending what an unconditional love means and implementing it in our everyday life seems to be significant, not only to us but also to whomever and whatever we interact with. So let's start the process and see it for yourself.
I'm going to be brave here and tell you exactly what I fear about my dating life now that I'm over 50. I'm terrified there's no one out there for me. That no one who can put up with my nuttiness, my anxieties, my insecurities, my moodiness.
The ridiculous downside to parenting is clear and visceral -- that's why it's so easy and funny to complain about it. But how can I explain the upside, that enormous emotional experience, which compels us to persevere?
What are you doing for Mother's Day this year? Buying a card that extols mom as someone who fed you, changed you, rocked you to sleep, and cheered you on when you were learning to walk and talk, read and write? A beautiful bouquet of flowers?
Today, I still need my scooter and wheelchair to get around. But something inside me has changed. I have a sense of freedom that is in some ways more powerful and sustainable than what I felt when I could walk and dance and run and play.
Here's another thing -- receiving generously a gift of authentic love has nothing to do with deserving. It's called unconditional love for a reason. That love that embraces us, even when we mess up. This love surpasses our calculations of right and wrong.
Somehow, over the last fifteen years, parents have increasingly embraced the idea that rules are for other people's children, and that bending them to make things easier in the short term is a good idea.
Ed, my beloved Romanian soul mate of 30 years, was continuing to decline slowly and was becoming ever more difficult to get along with. I was at the end of my rope. I really was.
In this new consciousness of loving with abandonment, you no longer hope for that Valentine card that never arrives. Instead, Valentine's Day is every day -- it is the energy that draws you to the lover who loves unconditionally as you do.
Every day, call forth the Divine Mother that lives within, the undeniable voice deep inside each of us that calls us to nurture, to love and to protec...
I had a baby, my first, earlier this year. After over a decade of telling parents how to raise their girls, I'm now tasked with raising my own. I have no doubt I'll take back some of what I said from a childless perch -- and hopefully feel gratified about the rest.
People often wonder aloud why other people choose to get up on stage at karaoke, or perform in front of other people in a play or give a speech at a fundraiser, and it's always difficult for me to see why it's so hard for them to understand.
Much of the quality of our lives depends on how we react to what were aware of in life. Every moment we face the choice to either allow our negative emotions to distort how we treat others or let the free flow of love, goodness, and acceptance bathe others with spiritual blessings.
It is precisely into a place of woundedness, failure, fear and brokenness that Jesus wants to come. Faith is not about certainty; it is about vulnerability. It is about having the courage to let Jesus into our screwed up lives, the courage to be loved for who we really are.
My life changed when I finally understood how to access the unconditional love that is always available to all of us. What I came to understand is that love, like the air we breathe, enters our heart by invitation only.
If your family rejects a huge part of you, fine, but they don't get to claim they love you unconditionally. And if you let them get away with it, you're not giving them any reason to change.
What messages are we adults communicating to young people when we seem to live vicariously through them or when we subtly communicate that we care more about what they do than who they are?
To be awesome is to recognize and accept the challenge of being the very best "you" that you can be. Those who live this way serve as an inspiration to others to do and be the very best they can.
My mother died before I ever married, had children of my own, finished graduate school or launched my own career. But the lessons she taught me have been there every step of the way.
Since love sits in us between trust and fear, a commitment to love requires daring to trust and freedom from fear, both risks we are willing to take when we love someone.
If you feel like you have been trying too hard to reach a luminous spiritual state it might be time to simply open and surrender to the creative force of the universe to experience the power of true unconditional love.
Westerners have one day, Valentine's Day, dedicated to love. For the Bhaktas -- every day is Valentine's Day. Bhakti is the practice -- and it does take practice -- of unconditional love.