If we really want to reduce sexual assault in the military and on college campuses, the lessons of respect, consent and bystander intervention need to be instilled in elementary education through high school.
Victim isn't a bad word. It shouldn't imply that someone is a loser, a weakling, a malingerer or a chronic sad sack. For most people, being a victim is a stage in response to experiencing something traumatic that had a victimizing impact on them.
I often hear this "hit back harder" advice from adults who are recalling their own playground brawls from 20, 30, or 40 years ago. The simplicity of this advice fails to consider the complexities of the bully-victim dynamics of today's digital world.
Israel's heart is heavy tonight. There is an overwhelming sadness as the nation attempts to process the difficult end to a heart wrenching chapter that has left many struggling for hope and for answers.
Moving forward, when a sexual assault is reported on a college campus, it is investigated thoroughly and quickly, with an outside party overseeing the procedure. The outside party could be local law enforcement or a federal agency.
I help make it safe for others to open up and tell the truth. I use humor to help deal with tough subjects and shameful emotions. I have the strength to talk about things that others do NOT want to talk about.
To fully eradicate the frighteningly common issue of sexual assault, we must change the rape culture of our society. We cannot stop a crime whose focus is the degradation and objectification of women if we don't stop the problem at its root and eliminate the current attitude toward women.
I invite all the lonely, angry, nerdy little boys out there who are feeling that rage and creating a narrative where they are victims to remember that. I was once one of you. And I was wrong. I was so, so wrong.
Our fascination gets the best of us, and it starts to look a little too much like adulation, as we shower him with headlines and, as of yet, give his victims only a small percentage of the same press attention.
The well-established Los Angeles attorney clearly meant to counter my argument that we need a civil litigation "clients bill of rights," but he was inadvertently proving my key point: most of us have no idea about the "dark side" of civil justice.
It's time for heads to roll in the United States military. President Obama and Secretary of Defense Chuck Hagel must overhaul the system and start firing people. The talk and policy changes are not getting the job done for the thousands of victims of sexual assault in our armed services.
So eager to right the wrongs of bullying, we find ourselves determined to identify and punish the perpetrators, often forgetting that that alone will not mitigate the harm done to the youth who felt bullied.
Every time we ask the "why would someone do that" question, we are putting the victims that we seek to protect in the position of facing judgment, which in effect, makes it seem like the narrative is one of the victim's complicity with the action that has happened to them when it is anything but.