A Widow's fireman husband (he's called Body) dies trying, without success, to rescue a Child trapped in a burning building. Instead of letting his Soul ascend to heaven, she keeps him in what looks like a coffin but is really a grandfather clock.
I believe the "vigil" saps families not only of their energy, but also their ability to make intelligent decisions. I've put together some tips drawn directly from how my son and I chose to cope with our three-week ICU waiting room experience. They may work for you.