Perspective is important. We should all keep in mind that our problems could be worse, and that all suffering is relative. This can help us feel less overwhelmed by our own challenges, more grateful for our many blessings, and more compelled to empathize with and help others.

So what can we do about our "emotional allergies"? Can we do more than avoid them or weed them out of relationship landscape altogether? I mean, even if you're allergic to roses you might not want to eradicate them from the world's gardens, would you? Grab a tissue and let's see what we can do.

While there certainly are uncontrollable parts about life, the reality is that the majority of your life is the direct result of the decisions you have or haven't made.

Choosing to whine and blame is a choice just as much as choosing to do something about your circumstances, but one is more likely to produce a meaningful result than the other.

Here's the good news: You are not alone. Nearly all good Americans are outraged about something. This is what makes us good Americans.

To change our complaining habit, we have to adjust how we navigate this cycle. Here are seven steps you can take to stop this habit and regain some of your personal power.