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Write the Story You Want to Live

Nancy Sharp | Posted 09.16.2014 | Women
Nancy Sharp

I used to believe that all stories had a beginning, middle and end. While in the most obvious of ways, Brett's death was a finite end; it would take years for me to realize not only that the three of us could make a pleasing new life but that doing so meant rewriting our story.

Moving Into A World of Stark Contrasts After The Death Of My Husband

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 08.27.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

cried during my Tai Chi as I felt the energy of the mountains and Robert fill me. And I played with my horse and danced. And found I could be whole. And found I could be shattered.

Your Grief in Print

Christine Stoddard | Posted 08.22.2014 | Impact
Christine Stoddard

Grief may be private or it may be communal. Either way, it is a personal emotion, experience, and era that you either choose to share or not.

The Widower

Peg Melnik | Posted 10.02.2014 | Good News
Peg Melnik

The longing Barry feels for his late wife, Sue, is palpable. But mid-conversation I notice a shift. He refuses to complain about his loss. Instead, he chooses to be grateful, and gratitude works its magic. It buoys his spirits and mysteriously mends his heart.

A Letter To My Husband In Heaven

YourTango | Christina Rasmussen | Posted 08.04.2014 | Weddings

By Christina Rasmussen for YourTango.com Hubby in heaven, It will be eight years this Monday since the day you left this world. I used to ima...

10 Rules of Thumb For Online Dating

High50 | Posted 09.27.2014 | Fifty
High50

At the age of 50, after two years of being single, I decided it was time to overcome my trepidation about putting myself so "out there" and try online dating. After a few days working out which sites are best for our age group, I was soon 'winking' at and connecting with (and dismissing) so many men, I could barely keep track of what I'd told to whom.

Letting Go of Pieces of the Past

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 09.21.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

What do I do with this dream? And now these thoughts? What part of the past is dragging me down? What part of the past can I let go of?

Do You Have to Be Reasonable When You're Grieving?

Megan Devine | Posted 09.16.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

I could pretend, but that pretending cost me. I could be reasonable, but telling that lie was exhausting. Now, when I read about grief, when I attend conferences that talk about grief, I think about those early days. I think about being reasonable. I think of how ridiculous that is.

'Til Death Do Us Not Part: 5 Ways to Stay Connected to Your Deceased Spouse

Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW | Posted 09.14.2014 | Healthy Living
Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW

You will likely always long for their physical presence, but recognizing that you still have a relationship is one way to soothe the sorrow. Staying connected fortifies you so that you can engage with life, connect to the living, and make meaning out of your loss.

Countdown to the First Anniversary of My Husband's Death

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 09.11.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

Time keeps marching on -- relentlessly. Passed nine months, and it's halfway to ten months. I feel like I am in a Space Shuttle launch countdown seque...

Brown-Eyed Boy

Michelle E. Steinke | Posted 09.10.2014 | Parents
Michelle E. Steinke

Widowhood is full of mixed emotions. On any given day the same situation can hit me a hundred different ways.

Why The Airport Brought My Happiest Memories Rushing Back

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 09.09.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

I did not think JFK would be different from any other airport I have traveled through in the recent months. Hey, look! They all have three letters: BOS, SFO, CLT, RIC, SBA, ETC. My famous battle cry, "How hard can it be?!?!" showed me just how hard it can be.

Lamb's-Head Stew: The Local Treat That Got This Widowed Mom off the Street

Suzanne Skees | Posted 08.31.2014 | Impact
Suzanne Skees

At 44, she doesn't take this work for granted -- it's been a long road from selling food off a street cart to owning her own restaurant.

Is It Possible to Write a Memoir When You're Grieving a Loss? Interview with Artis Henderson of Unremarried Widow

Dorit Sasson | Posted 08.31.2014 | Books
Dorit Sasson

In this blog post, I'll be interviewing Artis Henderson on the writing process for her memoir Unremarried Widow, which began as an essay for The New York Times's Modern Love column.

Love Letters From the Past, or Present or Future

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 08.25.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

The letters were written in 1968. I was 17. They are stream-of-consciousness letters from the late sixties. Love letters.

How To Find Peace On Father's Day When Dad Is No Longer Around

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 08.09.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Father's Day, 2001. A day that did not start out well. A day on which I had never felt more or completely alone. You see, by the time Father's Day 2001 arrived, I had been widowed for all of five months. As if that were not enough, my own father died two weeks prior to Father's Day.

What Financial Steps Should You Take When A Spouse Dies?

Carrie Schwab-Pomerantz, CFP | Posted 08.04.2014 | Money
Carrie Schwab-Pomerantz, CFP

I understand your feelings during this stressful time. There's so much to think about and adjust to, and there are a lot of practical issues that have to be handled. Grief can muddy your thinking, so give yourself some time. And realize that you don't have to do everything yourself.

Widowhood With a Message

Gramma Good | Posted 08.03.2014 | Fifty
Gramma Good

Live with peace surrounding you. Keep your treasures within eye distance. Arrange a "room of your own."

Why So Many People Go Sideways When Death Visits A Family

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 08.02.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

There is another arena where 'armchair quarterbacks' also exist -- except this time, those who sit in the metaphorical armchairs have the ability and occasionally, the actual desire to wreak havoc, cause pain and outright destroy relationships.

Someone to Lean On

Kristin Meekhof | Posted 07.29.2014 | Healthy Living
Kristin Meekhof

Grief uniquely impacts each person. Listening to yourself and respecting where you are at with your journey is important. Grief is complex, and no two situations are the same.

Losing a Spouse to Cancer

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 07.26.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

For all who have lived through these long, protracted battles, I dedicate Memorial Day to our spouses, our loved ones, who finally succumbed. But not with a fight. A national holiday to honor their true fighting spirit. And a way for us to always remember.

New Military Widow Reflects on Parenting Alone

Sarah Smiley | Posted 07.26.2014 | Parents
Sarah Smiley

It was always amazing to me that Theresa was able to write with such clarity so soon after losing her husband. Of course, in many ways, her biggest struggles as a new, widowed mother were yet to come.

Armchair Analysis: Was Your Relationship 'Good' Enough to Warrant So Much Grief?

Megan Devine | Posted 07.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

If you're wrestling with what to share or not share about your relationship, here's what you should know: The reality is, everyone has imperfect relationships.

Why Some People View Widows As 'Threats'

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 07.19.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Immediately after Mike's passing, the demeanor of this once warm and welcoming woman flipped 180 degrees.

My Single Mother

Susannah Lewis | Posted 07.12.2014 | Parents
Susannah Lewis

I thought of my mother, the young widowed mother, who never complained or sighed or rolled her eyes when the sink was full of dishes or when I slammed my bedroom door because I was a pre-teen and hated all of the world and everyone in it.