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Letting Go of Pieces of the Past

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 07.22.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

What do I do with this dream? And now these thoughts? What part of the past is dragging me down? What part of the past can I let go of?

Do You Have to Be Reasonable When You're Grieving?

Megan Devine | Posted 07.17.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

I could pretend, but that pretending cost me. I could be reasonable, but telling that lie was exhausting. Now, when I read about grief, when I attend conferences that talk about grief, I think about those early days. I think about being reasonable. I think of how ridiculous that is.

'Til Death Do Us Not Part: 5 Ways to Stay Connected to Your Deceased Spouse

Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW | Posted 07.15.2014 | Healthy Living
Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW

You will likely always long for their physical presence, but recognizing that you still have a relationship is one way to soothe the sorrow. Staying connected fortifies you so that you can engage with life, connect to the living, and make meaning out of your loss.

Countdown to the First Anniversary of My Husband's Death

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 07.14.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

Time keeps marching on -- relentlessly. Passed nine months, and it's halfway to ten months. I feel like I am in a Space Shuttle launch countdown seque...

Brown-Eyed Boy

Michelle E. Steinke | Posted 07.11.2014 | Parents
Michelle E. Steinke

Widowhood is full of mixed emotions. On any given day the same situation can hit me a hundred different ways.

Why The Airport Brought My Happiest Memories Rushing Back

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 07.10.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

I did not think JFK would be different from any other airport I have traveled through in the recent months. Hey, look! They all have three letters: BOS, SFO, CLT, RIC, SBA, ETC. My famous battle cry, "How hard can it be?!?!" showed me just how hard it can be.

Lamb's-Head Stew: The Local Treat That Got This Widowed Mom off the Street

Suzanne Skees | Posted 07.02.2014 | Impact
Suzanne Skees

At 44, she doesn't take this work for granted -- it's been a long road from selling food off a street cart to owning her own restaurant.

Is It Possible to Write a Memoir When You're Grieving a Loss? Interview with Artis Henderson of Unremarried Widow

Dorit Sasson | Posted 07.01.2014 | Books
Dorit Sasson

In this blog post, I'll be interviewing Artis Henderson on the writing process for her memoir Unremarried Widow, which began as an essay for The New York Times's Modern Love column.

Love Letters From the Past, or Present or Future

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 06.25.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

The letters were written in 1968. I was 17. They are stream-of-consciousness letters from the late sixties. Love letters.

How To Find Peace On Father's Day When Dad Is No Longer Around

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 06.09.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Father's Day, 2001. A day that did not start out well. A day on which I had never felt more or completely alone. You see, by the time Father's Day 2001 arrived, I had been widowed for all of five months. As if that were not enough, my own father died two weeks prior to Father's Day.

What Financial Steps Should You Take When A Spouse Dies?

Carrie Schwab-Pomerantz, CFP | Posted 06.04.2014 | Money
Carrie Schwab-Pomerantz, CFP

I understand your feelings during this stressful time. There's so much to think about and adjust to, and there are a lot of practical issues that have to be handled. Grief can muddy your thinking, so give yourself some time. And realize that you don't have to do everything yourself.

Widowhood With a Message

Gramma Good | Posted 06.03.2014 | Fifty
Gramma Good

Live with peace surrounding you. Keep your treasures within eye distance. Arrange a "room of your own."

Why So Many People Go Sideways When Death Visits A Family

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 06.02.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

There is another arena where 'armchair quarterbacks' also exist -- except this time, those who sit in the metaphorical armchairs have the ability and occasionally, the actual desire to wreak havoc, cause pain and outright destroy relationships.

Someone to Lean On

Kristin Meekhof | Posted 05.29.2014 | Healthy Living
Kristin Meekhof

Grief uniquely impacts each person. Listening to yourself and respecting where you are at with your journey is important. Grief is complex, and no two situations are the same.

Losing a Spouse to Cancer

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 05.27.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

For all who have lived through these long, protracted battles, I dedicate Memorial Day to our spouses, our loved ones, who finally succumbed. But not with a fight. A national holiday to honor their true fighting spirit. And a way for us to always remember.

New Military Widow Reflects on Parenting Alone

Sarah Smiley | Posted 05.26.2014 | Parents
Sarah Smiley

It was always amazing to me that Theresa was able to write with such clarity so soon after losing her husband. Of course, in many ways, her biggest struggles as a new, widowed mother were yet to come.

Armchair Analysis: Was Your Relationship 'Good' Enough to Warrant So Much Grief?

Megan Devine | Posted 07.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

If you're wrestling with what to share or not share about your relationship, here's what you should know: The reality is, everyone has imperfect relationships.

Why Some People View Widows As 'Threats'

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 07.19.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Immediately after Mike's passing, the demeanor of this once warm and welcoming woman flipped 180 degrees.

My Single Mother

Susannah Lewis | Posted 07.12.2014 | Parents
Susannah Lewis

I thought of my mother, the young widowed mother, who never complained or sighed or rolled her eyes when the sink was full of dishes or when I slammed my bedroom door because I was a pre-teen and hated all of the world and everyone in it.

What Is Absolutely Okay To Do After Becoming Widowed

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 07.12.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

The following is a partial list of what it is absolutely, positively OK for you to do after becoming widowed.

Who Needs to Learn the Lessons Of Grief?

Megan Devine | Posted 07.05.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

There might be lessons here, about trusting your own heart, leaning into the places you are deeply broken. There might be places to explore, ways to find out if any of your deep self remains, given what you have endured. So learn, yes. Study your own heart, yes.

Venting My Grief Can Be So Satisfying

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 07.05.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

We talked of holidays and the ache of getting through them without the one who has been by our side for so long. And we talked of traveling, alone, to places new and places familiar.

Why Even Some Experts Get It Wrong When It Comes To Grief

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 07.05.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

It should come as no surprise that I receive my fair share of invitations to grief workshops, grief conferences, grief seminars and so forth. One such recent invitation included a description of a grief workshop that kind of -- well, horrified me.

One Widower's Poignant Advice To Married Couples

Eric W. | Posted 07.02.2014 | Weddings
Eric W.

Since my original plan didn't work out, I'd like to make one more request: As soon as you see your husband or your wife, stop whatever you're doing, take them in your arms, hum your song, and dance.

Why 'Getting Over It' Is A Myth You Should Ignore

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 06.28.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I had been widowed just over a year and well into my own Healing Journey when my mother gave me some very wise advice (which I both follow and dole out to this day). She told me to stop and look back at how far I had progressed since that awful season in time when my husband passed away. When I actually took the time to stop and examine how far I had progressed to that point (and have progressed since that time many years ago), I started worrying less about being "over it" and started appreciating the healing that I had accomplished instead.