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Do You Have to Be Reasonable When You're Grieving?

Megan Devine | Posted 07.17.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

I could pretend, but that pretending cost me. I could be reasonable, but telling that lie was exhausting. Now, when I read about grief, when I attend conferences that talk about grief, I think about those early days. I think about being reasonable. I think of how ridiculous that is.

Love Letters From the Past, or Present or Future

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 06.25.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

The letters were written in 1968. I was 17. They are stream-of-consciousness letters from the late sixties. Love letters.

How To Find Peace On Father's Day When Dad Is No Longer Around

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 06.09.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Father's Day, 2001. A day that did not start out well. A day on which I had never felt more or completely alone. You see, by the time Father's Day 2001 arrived, I had been widowed for all of five months. As if that were not enough, my own father died two weeks prior to Father's Day.

Why So Many People Go Sideways When Death Visits A Family

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 06.02.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

There is another arena where 'armchair quarterbacks' also exist -- except this time, those who sit in the metaphorical armchairs have the ability and occasionally, the actual desire to wreak havoc, cause pain and outright destroy relationships.

Someone to Lean On

Kristin Meekhof | Posted 05.29.2014 | Healthy Living
Kristin Meekhof

Grief uniquely impacts each person. Listening to yourself and respecting where you are at with your journey is important. Grief is complex, and no two situations are the same.

Why Some People View Widows As 'Threats'

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 07.19.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Immediately after Mike's passing, the demeanor of this once warm and welcoming woman flipped 180 degrees.

What Is Absolutely Okay To Do After Becoming Widowed

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 07.12.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

The following is a partial list of what it is absolutely, positively OK for you to do after becoming widowed.

Venting My Grief Can Be So Satisfying

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 07.05.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

We talked of holidays and the ache of getting through them without the one who has been by our side for so long. And we talked of traveling, alone, to places new and places familiar.

Why Even Some Experts Get It Wrong When It Comes To Grief

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 07.05.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

It should come as no surprise that I receive my fair share of invitations to grief workshops, grief conferences, grief seminars and so forth. One such recent invitation included a description of a grief workshop that kind of -- well, horrified me.

Are You Grieving 'Right'? What's Right, What's 'Wrong'... And WTF?

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 06.14.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I have always taken great umbrage at anyone criticizing, questioning or opining on how the widowed handle their grief and their highly individual and intensely personal healing journeys. Unfortunately, there seems to be a lot of it going on.

The Reality of Grief

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 06.09.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

Reality: He is not here. Reality: He is not coming back. Reality: He is not here and won't be here again. Reality: Not ever. Reality sucks.

I Can Find Myself Whole in the Dimension of Grief

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 05.31.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

We sit on her balcony overlooking the ocean and talk and cry together. She suggests we drive into Santa Barbara and do a little shopping. What a delightful idea. But driving through the town overwhelms me with memories

The One Thing You Should Never Ever Say To The Widowed

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 05.31.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

As defined by virtually every dictionary in every language, "ex" means former. The death of a spouse or partner does not nullify a marriage or relationship -- that sort of nullification involves a divorce or a breakup. I assure you that when it comes to widowhood, no one left the marriage willingly

The Real Difference Between Death And Divorce

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 05.24.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Be it biblical or folk; fictional or popular, history in all of its forms has certainly had its share of classic struggles and conflicts: David vs. Goliath; the Hatfields vs. McCoys; Billie Jean King vs. Bobby Riggs; Ginger vs. MaryAnn; the Dallas Cowboys vs. Just About Any Other Team In The NFL and of course, My Hair vs. Humidity. Today, we look at yet another epic 'struggle' and conflict with which countless have taken serious issue.

A Letter to People in Pain: The Early Days of Grief Are a World of Their Own

Megan Devine | Posted 05.12.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

If you're here, in the early days, and the universe has just split open and everything has changed, I'm sorry you're here. Others have come before you, but that doesn't really matter now.

'I Was Dragged Kicking And Screaming Into The Wonder That Has Become Social Media'

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 04.19.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I confess... I am a blonde-haired, green-eyed, modern-day dinosaur.

Have You Heard You're Not Alone in Your Grief? It Isn't Really True

Megan Devine | Posted 04.05.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

You alone carry the knowledge of how your grief lives in you. You alone know all the filaments of life and of love that fly through you. You alone know how deeply your life is now changed. You alone have to face this, inside your own heart.

Why Celebrating Every Birthday Is So Important

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 04.05.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

In earlier years and like so many of you, I fondly remember the goal of getting to the 'next number' on the ladder of life. I remember being ten years old and wanting oh-so-much to be twelve years old because twelve meant the 'sophistication' of junior high school.

Making Promises: What Does a Wedding Ring Represent?

Eric W. | Posted 03.19.2014 | Weddings
Eric W.

She was my fiancée, not my wife. I am widowed, but never married.

The Dauntingly Large Envelope I Received A Month After My Husband's Death

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 03.15.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

It was January, 2001; one month after my husband's death. I awakened one morning to an envelope sent by a dauntingly large law firm; something that no one needs to receive immediately after you have buried your beloved.

Who Is Really To 'Blame' For Your Spouse's Death?

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 03.08.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

It is a sad reality that after losing a spouse, many widowed are the victims of accusation, criticism and actual blame. Whether it comes from the outside (relatives, friends, acquaintances, etc.) or is instead self-imposed, there is a lot of unnecessary pain being inflicted on the widowed; the very people who are in desperate need of support, rather than spite.

10 Must-Have New Year Resolutions for the Widowed

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 02.23.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

It's that time of year again. We are all getting peppered and pelted with those endless ads and commercials designed to help you "start the New Yea...

6 Important Ways For The Widowed To Facilitate Healing

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 02.22.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Because those of us who either are or ever have been a part of Widowed World not only understand... we will never disappear.

How Does Anyone Know I'm Grieving the Death of My Husband? Widows Used to Wear Black

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 02.08.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

I want to walk around with a big sign that says, "I am in mourning, handle with care." I lost my husband, my best friend and my soul mate, all rolled into one.

8 Tips For Handling The Holiday Blues

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 02.08.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Many who are in the midst of loss or life challenges at this time of year have questions about coping with the holidays. How do you handle the holidays; especially if you don't feel like handling them at all? Read on for answers and a few great holiday suggestions: