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Are You Grieving 'Right'? What's Right, What's 'Wrong'... And WTF?

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 04.14.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I have always taken great umbrage at anyone criticizing, questioning or opining on how the widowed handle their grief and their highly individual and intensely personal healing journeys. Unfortunately, there seems to be a lot of it going on.

The Reality of Grief

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 04.09.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

Reality: He is not here. Reality: He is not coming back. Reality: He is not here and won't be here again. Reality: Not ever. Reality sucks.

I Can Find Myself Whole in the Dimension of Grief

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 03.31.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

We sit on her balcony overlooking the ocean and talk and cry together. She suggests we drive into Santa Barbara and do a little shopping. What a delightful idea. But driving through the town overwhelms me with memories

The One Thing You Should Never Ever Say To The Widowed

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 03.31.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

As defined by virtually every dictionary in every language, "ex" means former. The death of a spouse or partner does not nullify a marriage or relationship -- that sort of nullification involves a divorce or a breakup. I assure you that when it comes to widowhood, no one left the marriage willingly

The Real Difference Between Death And Divorce

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 03.24.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Be it biblical or folk; fictional or popular, history in all of its forms has certainly had its share of classic struggles and conflicts: David vs. Goliath; the Hatfields vs. McCoys; Billie Jean King vs. Bobby Riggs; Ginger vs. MaryAnn; the Dallas Cowboys vs. Just About Any Other Team In The NFL and of course, My Hair vs. Humidity. Today, we look at yet another epic 'struggle' and conflict with which countless have taken serious issue.

A Letter to People in Pain: The Early Days of Grief Are a World of Their Own

Megan Devine | Posted 03.12.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

If you're here, in the early days, and the universe has just split open and everything has changed, I'm sorry you're here. Others have come before you, but that doesn't really matter now.

'I Was Dragged Kicking And Screaming Into The Wonder That Has Become Social Media'

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 02.17.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I confess... I am a blonde-haired, green-eyed, modern-day dinosaur.

Have You Heard You're Not Alone in Your Grief? It Isn't Really True

Megan Devine | Posted 04.05.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

You alone carry the knowledge of how your grief lives in you. You alone know all the filaments of life and of love that fly through you. You alone know how deeply your life is now changed. You alone have to face this, inside your own heart.

Why Celebrating Every Birthday Is So Important

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 04.05.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

In earlier years and like so many of you, I fondly remember the goal of getting to the 'next number' on the ladder of life. I remember being ten years old and wanting oh-so-much to be twelve years old because twelve meant the 'sophistication' of junior high school.

Making Promises: What Does a Wedding Ring Represent?

Eric W. | Posted 03.19.2014 | Weddings
Eric W.

She was my fiancée, not my wife. I am widowed, but never married.

The Dauntingly Large Envelope I Received A Month After My Husband's Death

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 03.15.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

It was January, 2001; one month after my husband's death. I awakened one morning to an envelope sent by a dauntingly large law firm; something that no one needs to receive immediately after you have buried your beloved.

Who Is Really To 'Blame' For Your Spouse's Death?

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 03.08.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

It is a sad reality that after losing a spouse, many widowed are the victims of accusation, criticism and actual blame. Whether it comes from the outside (relatives, friends, acquaintances, etc.) or is instead self-imposed, there is a lot of unnecessary pain being inflicted on the widowed; the very people who are in desperate need of support, rather than spite.

10 Must-Have New Year Resolutions for the Widowed

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 02.23.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

It's that time of year again. We are all getting peppered and pelted with those endless ads and commercials designed to help you "start the New Yea...

6 Important Ways For The Widowed To Facilitate Healing

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 02.22.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Because those of us who either are or ever have been a part of Widowed World not only understand... we will never disappear.

How Does Anyone Know I'm Grieving the Death of My Husband? Widows Used to Wear Black

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 02.08.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

I want to walk around with a big sign that says, "I am in mourning, handle with care." I lost my husband, my best friend and my soul mate, all rolled into one.

8 Tips For Handling The Holiday Blues

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 02.08.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Many who are in the midst of loss or life challenges at this time of year have questions about coping with the holidays. How do you handle the holidays; especially if you don't feel like handling them at all? Read on for answers and a few great holiday suggestions:

The Best Black Friday Lesson You Could Ever Learn

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 01.25.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I hate mornings. I hate waking up and having to leave the confines of a warm, comfortable bed. I hate having to be cheerful for those who happily refer to themselves as "morning people" and by whom I seem to be surrounded. I am one of those people who has to slowly and quietly ease back into consciousness. For crying out loud, I was even born at night. I am the Anti-Morning.

What It's Really Like To Live Alone For The First Time

Lisa Condie | Posted 01.23.2014 | Fifty
Lisa Condie

Holding my cup of coffee on a Sunday morning, I looked out my window at the radiant blue sky. Living on the fifth floor of an ancient apartment building affords me excellent views of Florence. And, as evidenced by the Renaissance masters, the ethereal light in Italy is unlike anywhere else.

How To Stop Living A Life Based On Other People's Opinions

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 11.09.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Welcome to Week Five of Bereavement Boot Camp. You have probably noticed that as time goes on, the subject matter and the challenges get a little tougher -- but then again, so have you.

Why Time Alone Can't Heal All Wounds

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 10.26.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Welcome to Week Three of Bereavement Boot Camp. This week, we are going to take an honest look at how proactive you have really been on your Healing Journey, regardless of the kind of loss from which you are recovering or when that journey began for you. Remember that as with any part of Boot Camp, this only works if you are honest with you.

An Important Reminder Everyone Needs To Hear

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 10.19.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Welcome to Week Two of Bereavement Boot Camp; your continued "kick start" on your Healing Journey. Don't worry if you missed Week One (or any week hereafter), you can jump in whenever you like. This week's theme is an important reminder and one that every single one of us (myself included) needs to hear periodically.

Welcome To Week 1 Of Bereavement Boot Camp

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 10.12.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Welcome to Week One of 'Bereavement Boot Camp'. Did I just scare you? Relax. Let me reassure you that that this particular Boot Camp does not include barking drill sergeants and 20-mile hikes.

How To Find Love Again After Loss

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 09.28.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

When I see pictures of onetime widowed looking radiant in a wedding gown or resplendent in a tuxedo, grinning broadly for the camera while reveling in newfound love; when I see people who have endured the machinations of divorce eventually rediscover love and follow their new path with an amazing new someone... it is such a wonderful feeling.

Why Widowers Should Never Give Up On Finding Love Again

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 09.21.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Thank God for my second wife to understand and not be threatened by my love for my first wife. Anyone who doesn't understand and gives you grief about that isn't worth a tinker's damn!

What Happens When You Are Thrust Into Independence

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 08.31.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

It feels like we just got done with New Years, so it is unbelievable to me that we are now preparing to celebrate the Fourth of July; the 237th year of our independence as a nation. Along with my family, I will be celebrating at home with hot dogs and homemade coleslaw.