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'Shouldn't You Be Over That by Now?' How to Respond to Judgment on Your Grieving Process

Megan Devine | Posted 04.15.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

Sometimes it just makes it easier on you, easier on your heart and mind, if you simply stop trying to explain. Refusing to explain or defend your grief doesn't mean you let other people go on and on about it, continually telling you how you should live.

Are You Grieving 'Right'? What's Right, What's 'Wrong'... And WTF?

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 04.14.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I have always taken great umbrage at anyone criticizing, questioning or opining on how the widowed handle their grief and their highly individual and intensely personal healing journeys. Unfortunately, there seems to be a lot of it going on.

The One Thing You Should Never Ever Say To The Widowed

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 03.31.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

As defined by virtually every dictionary in every language, "ex" means former. The death of a spouse or partner does not nullify a marriage or relationship -- that sort of nullification involves a divorce or a breakup. I assure you that when it comes to widowhood, no one left the marriage willingly

The Real Difference Between Death And Divorce

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 03.24.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Be it biblical or folk; fictional or popular, history in all of its forms has certainly had its share of classic struggles and conflicts: David vs. Goliath; the Hatfields vs. McCoys; Billie Jean King vs. Bobby Riggs; Ginger vs. MaryAnn; the Dallas Cowboys vs. Just About Any Other Team In The NFL and of course, My Hair vs. Humidity. Today, we look at yet another epic 'struggle' and conflict with which countless have taken serious issue.

A Letter to People in Pain: The Early Days of Grief Are a World of Their Own

Megan Devine | Posted 03.12.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

If you're here, in the early days, and the universe has just split open and everything has changed, I'm sorry you're here. Others have come before you, but that doesn't really matter now.

Healthy Grieving

Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW | Posted 03.05.2014 | Healthy Living
Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW

When someone you love leaves the planet, you are no longer quite the same person. Wishing to return to your old self is an exercise in defeat. Instead, recognize that you are growing into a new self. This new self will integrate love, loss and change. Life is always about change and integration.

Grief and Healing: Will I Ever Recover?

Megan Devine | Posted 02.21.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

For me, any outside source or force asking me when I'll get better is going to be met with irritation. But if I do the asking, if I wonder -- myself -- what healing or recovery might look like, then it becomes a very different question.

'I Was Dragged Kicking And Screaming Into The Wonder That Has Become Social Media'

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 02.17.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I confess... I am a blonde-haired, green-eyed, modern-day dinosaur.

Have You Heard You're Not Alone in Your Grief? It Isn't Really True

Megan Devine | Posted 04.05.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

You alone carry the knowledge of how your grief lives in you. You alone know all the filaments of life and of love that fly through you. You alone know how deeply your life is now changed. You alone have to face this, inside your own heart.

Why Celebrating Every Birthday Is So Important

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 04.05.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

In earlier years and like so many of you, I fondly remember the goal of getting to the 'next number' on the ladder of life. I remember being ten years old and wanting oh-so-much to be twelve years old because twelve meant the 'sophistication' of junior high school.

On Being A 29-Year-Old Widow

Elizabeth Scarboro | Posted 04.02.2014 | Weddings
Elizabeth Scarboro

Wednesday morning, 7 a.m., the radio alarm blaring. Keep your eyes closed. Don't move, because you have miraculously woken up in your old life.

The Important Things We Need To Know About Grief

Megan Devine | Posted 03.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

We need to develop some skillful means both to witness grief, and to live in grief. We need to learn how to support rather than to solve. We need to practice being in there with grief, rather than getting out of it. And we need to hear the distinction between the two.

A Sentence No Parent Should Ever Hear

Eric W. | Posted 03.24.2014 | Healthy Living
Eric W.

A woman from the hospital asked me if I had any friends or family that they could call for me. I shook my head yes. They asked me for the number. I handed them my phone and pointed to my parents in the contact list.

Making Promises: What Does a Wedding Ring Represent?

Eric W. | Posted 03.19.2014 | Weddings
Eric W.

She was my fiancée, not my wife. I am widowed, but never married.

The Dauntingly Large Envelope I Received A Month After My Husband's Death

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 03.15.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

It was January, 2001; one month after my husband's death. I awakened one morning to an envelope sent by a dauntingly large law firm; something that no one needs to receive immediately after you have buried your beloved.

Who Is Really To 'Blame' For Your Spouse's Death?

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 03.08.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

It is a sad reality that after losing a spouse, many widowed are the victims of accusation, criticism and actual blame. Whether it comes from the outside (relatives, friends, acquaintances, etc.) or is instead self-imposed, there is a lot of unnecessary pain being inflicted on the widowed; the very people who are in desperate need of support, rather than spite.

10 Must-Have New Year Resolutions for the Widowed

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 02.23.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

It's that time of year again. We are all getting peppered and pelted with those endless ads and commercials designed to help you "start the New Yea...

6 Important Ways For The Widowed To Facilitate Healing

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 02.22.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Because those of us who either are or ever have been a part of Widowed World not only understand... we will never disappear.

Why We Need To Change Our Approach To Grief

Megan Devine | Posted 02.10.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

The stages of grief were not meant to tell you what you feel, what you should feel, and when exactly you should feel it. They were not meant to dictate whether you are doing your grief "correctly" or not. They were meant to normalize a deeply not-normal time.

8 Tips For Handling The Holiday Blues

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 02.08.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Many who are in the midst of loss or life challenges at this time of year have questions about coping with the holidays. How do you handle the holidays; especially if you don't feel like handling them at all? Read on for answers and a few great holiday suggestions:

Her Friends Want to Set Me Up With Other Women

Eric W. | Posted 01.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Eric W.

And so I dread the possibility that one of her friends will ask me the dating question since I'll never be able to give them the answer they want to hear. At the same time, I do find some comfort in these conversations because I know that they're just trying to look after me in her absence.

How I'm Getting Acclimated To My Empty Nest

Melissa T. Shultz | Posted 12.28.2013 | Fifty
Melissa T. Shultz

Last month, a friend of mine, a widower who lives alone, woke at 5 a.m. with a crushing pain in the middle of his chest. He told me later that three thoughts came to mind.

Reliving A Relationship In Photographs

Eric W. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Eric W.

I have so many pictures from vacations and parties. I should have taken at least one picture of her brushing her teeth before bed. But that won't happen. All I have left is 782 pictures and regrets I can't even begin to count.

Why You Have To Actively Choose To Be Happy

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 11.30.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Welcome to your last week of Bereavement Boot Camp. I hope that it has been a wonderful period of growth, discovery... and perhaps just a little bit of anticipation for the future. As we wrap up Boot Camp, I want to share a brief story that I hope you will take into your heart and incorporate into your Healing Journey -- remembering your past, embracing your today and looking to your future.

A Widow and a Widower Walk Into a Bar

Ryon Harms | Posted 11.27.2013 | Healthy Living
Ryon Harms

We are living the next six months more than 8,000 miles apart. If you believe that coincidences are just coincidences, you'd reason that our odds aren't favorable. But a more provocative interpretation might be that our first encounter was just the tip of our iceberg.