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Widowhood

Warning: Submerged Obstacles

Abigail Carter | Posted 12.05.2014 | GPS for the Soul
Abigail Carter

We heard footsteps on the roof and the sound of the leaf blower. Huge chunks of debris began flying past the window and onto the ground. I had not eve...

The Art of Widowhood

Sola Agustsson | Posted 12.04.2014 | Arts
Sola Agustsson

"Widow's weeds" originally intended to simplify the female form and shroud a woman's grief, but the Metropolitan's new exhibit "Death Becomes Her" proves that these ensembles did just the opposite.

Breaking Free From Psychics and Mediums

Eric W. | Posted 11.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Eric W.

I've always known that mediums and psychics are all con artists who make their livings exploiting the bereaved. Now that I'm a widower, I've begun to ...

Empowering Widows Across the World

Kristin Meekhof | Posted 11.24.2014 | Impact
Kristin Meekhof

Lord Loomba, CBE, receiving his lifetime achievement award from Abid Qureshi, President, UNA-NY Photography by Melanie Quinn Photography; Used with...

Yagana Shah

The Way This Widower Keeps His Wife's Memory Alive Will Melt Your Heart

HuffingtonPost.com | Yagana Shah | Posted 10.24.2014 | Fifty

It's never easy dining out alone -- but one man has found the perfect, sweetest way to ensure he never feels lonely. Twitter user Madina Bashizadah...

The 4 Stages of Post-Loss Dating

Abigail Carter | Posted 10.23.2014 | Women
Abigail Carter

I stood before a group of 30-40 widows and widowers in a brightly-lit Toronto hotel conference room, my PowerPoint presentation on a large screen behind me, not exactly the atmosphere you might choose to talk about post-loss dating.

Write the Story You Want to Live

Nancy Sharp | Posted 11.16.2014 | Women
Nancy Sharp

I used to believe that all stories had a beginning, middle and end. While in the most obvious of ways, Brett's death was a finite end; it would take years for me to realize not only that the three of us could make a pleasing new life but that doing so meant rewriting our story.

Your Grief in Print

Christine Stoddard | Posted 10.22.2014 | Impact
Christine Stoddard

Grief may be private or it may be communal. Either way, it is a personal emotion, experience, and era that you either choose to share or not.

Rebirthing After the Death of My Husband

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 10.13.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

I find rebirthing to be excruciating. I am consciously participating in its unfolding. That is part of the pain. The awareness. The consciousness. The involvement. It is not going easily or quietly or calmly. It is agony. Filled with bottomless voids, and oh so many memories. Memories of the past and of what could have been. But will not be. And I struggle to make new memories.

The Reward Is In The Risk: Dating A Risk Taker When You're Widowed

Abigail Carter | Posted 10.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Abigail Carter

From Arron, his death and now from Jim, I have learned so much about living life. Doing things that scare you, saying "yes" as much as possible, being exhausted in a good way. From Jim, I have learned that some risks are fun and have adventuresome outcomes and some are not worth taking. The trick is knowing the difference.

Do You Have to Be Reasonable When You're Grieving?

Megan Devine | Posted 09.16.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

I could pretend, but that pretending cost me. I could be reasonable, but telling that lie was exhausting. Now, when I read about grief, when I attend conferences that talk about grief, I think about those early days. I think about being reasonable. I think of how ridiculous that is.

'Til Death Do Us Not Part: 5 Ways to Stay Connected to Your Deceased Spouse

Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW | Posted 09.14.2014 | Healthy Living
Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW

You will likely always long for their physical presence, but recognizing that you still have a relationship is one way to soothe the sorrow. Staying connected fortifies you so that you can engage with life, connect to the living, and make meaning out of your loss.

Countdown to the First Anniversary of My Husband's Death

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 09.11.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

Time keeps marching on -- relentlessly. Passed nine months, and it's halfway to ten months. I feel like I am in a Space Shuttle launch countdown seque...

Brown-Eyed Boy

Michelle E. Steinke | Posted 09.10.2014 | Parents
Michelle E. Steinke

Widowhood is full of mixed emotions. On any given day the same situation can hit me a hundred different ways.

Why The Airport Brought My Happiest Memories Rushing Back

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 09.09.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

I did not think JFK would be different from any other airport I have traveled through in the recent months. Hey, look! They all have three letters: BOS, SFO, CLT, RIC, SBA, ETC. My famous battle cry, "How hard can it be?!?!" showed me just how hard it can be.

Love Letters From the Past, or Present or Future

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 08.25.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

The letters were written in 1968. I was 17. They are stream-of-consciousness letters from the late sixties. Love letters.

Why So Many People Go Sideways When Death Visits A Family

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 08.02.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

There is another arena where 'armchair quarterbacks' also exist -- except this time, those who sit in the metaphorical armchairs have the ability and occasionally, the actual desire to wreak havoc, cause pain and outright destroy relationships.

Someone to Lean On

Kristin Meekhof | Posted 07.29.2014 | Healthy Living
Kristin Meekhof

Grief uniquely impacts each person. Listening to yourself and respecting where you are at with your journey is important. Grief is complex, and no two situations are the same.

Armchair Analysis: Was Your Relationship 'Good' Enough to Warrant So Much Grief?

Megan Devine | Posted 07.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

If you're wrestling with what to share or not share about your relationship, here's what you should know: The reality is, everyone has imperfect relationships.

Why Some People View Widows As 'Threats'

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 07.19.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Immediately after Mike's passing, the demeanor of this once warm and welcoming woman flipped 180 degrees.

What Is Absolutely Okay To Do After Becoming Widowed

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 07.12.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

The following is a partial list of what it is absolutely, positively OK for you to do after becoming widowed.

Who Needs to Learn the Lessons Of Grief?

Megan Devine | Posted 07.05.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

There might be lessons here, about trusting your own heart, leaning into the places you are deeply broken. There might be places to explore, ways to find out if any of your deep self remains, given what you have endured. So learn, yes. Study your own heart, yes.

Venting My Grief Can Be So Satisfying

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 07.05.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

We talked of holidays and the ache of getting through them without the one who has been by our side for so long. And we talked of traveling, alone, to places new and places familiar.

Dating After The Death Of A Spouse, From Dan Savage (VIDEO)

Posted 05.05.2014 | MarloThomas

Dan Savage, Host of Savage Lovecast, had some powerful insights to lend on the highly personal topic of dating after the death of a spouse. “Deci...

Why Even Some Experts Get It Wrong When It Comes To Grief

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 07.05.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

It should come as no surprise that I receive my fair share of invitations to grief workshops, grief conferences, grief seminars and so forth. One such recent invitation included a description of a grief workshop that kind of -- well, horrified me.