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Rebirthing After the Death of My Husband

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 08.13.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

I find rebirthing to be excruciating. I am consciously participating in its unfolding. That is part of the pain. The awareness. The consciousness. The involvement. It is not going easily or quietly or calmly. It is agony. Filled with bottomless voids, and oh so many memories. Memories of the past and of what could have been. But will not be. And I struggle to make new memories.

The Reward Is In The Risk: Dating A Risk Taker When You're Widowed

Abigail Carter | Posted 08.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Abigail Carter

From Arron, his death and now from Jim, I have learned so much about living life. Doing things that scare you, saying "yes" as much as possible, being exhausted in a good way. From Jim, I have learned that some risks are fun and have adventuresome outcomes and some are not worth taking. The trick is knowing the difference.

Do You Have to Be Reasonable When You're Grieving?

Megan Devine | Posted 07.17.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

I could pretend, but that pretending cost me. I could be reasonable, but telling that lie was exhausting. Now, when I read about grief, when I attend conferences that talk about grief, I think about those early days. I think about being reasonable. I think of how ridiculous that is.

'Til Death Do Us Not Part: 5 Ways to Stay Connected to Your Deceased Spouse

Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW | Posted 07.15.2014 | Healthy Living
Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW

You will likely always long for their physical presence, but recognizing that you still have a relationship is one way to soothe the sorrow. Staying connected fortifies you so that you can engage with life, connect to the living, and make meaning out of your loss.

Countdown to the First Anniversary of My Husband's Death

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 07.14.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

Time keeps marching on -- relentlessly. Passed nine months, and it's halfway to ten months. I feel like I am in a Space Shuttle launch countdown seque...

Brown-Eyed Boy

Michelle E. Steinke | Posted 07.11.2014 | Parents
Michelle E. Steinke

Widowhood is full of mixed emotions. On any given day the same situation can hit me a hundred different ways.

Why The Airport Brought My Happiest Memories Rushing Back

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 07.10.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

I did not think JFK would be different from any other airport I have traveled through in the recent months. Hey, look! They all have three letters: BOS, SFO, CLT, RIC, SBA, ETC. My famous battle cry, "How hard can it be?!?!" showed me just how hard it can be.

Love Letters From the Past, or Present or Future

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 06.25.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

The letters were written in 1968. I was 17. They are stream-of-consciousness letters from the late sixties. Love letters.

Why So Many People Go Sideways When Death Visits A Family

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 08.02.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

There is another arena where 'armchair quarterbacks' also exist -- except this time, those who sit in the metaphorical armchairs have the ability and occasionally, the actual desire to wreak havoc, cause pain and outright destroy relationships.

Someone to Lean On

Kristin Meekhof | Posted 07.29.2014 | Healthy Living
Kristin Meekhof

Grief uniquely impacts each person. Listening to yourself and respecting where you are at with your journey is important. Grief is complex, and no two situations are the same.

Armchair Analysis: Was Your Relationship 'Good' Enough to Warrant So Much Grief?

Megan Devine | Posted 07.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

If you're wrestling with what to share or not share about your relationship, here's what you should know: The reality is, everyone has imperfect relationships.

Why Some People View Widows As 'Threats'

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 07.19.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Immediately after Mike's passing, the demeanor of this once warm and welcoming woman flipped 180 degrees.

What Is Absolutely Okay To Do After Becoming Widowed

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 07.12.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

The following is a partial list of what it is absolutely, positively OK for you to do after becoming widowed.

Who Needs to Learn the Lessons Of Grief?

Megan Devine | Posted 07.05.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

There might be lessons here, about trusting your own heart, leaning into the places you are deeply broken. There might be places to explore, ways to find out if any of your deep self remains, given what you have endured. So learn, yes. Study your own heart, yes.

Venting My Grief Can Be So Satisfying

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 07.05.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

We talked of holidays and the ache of getting through them without the one who has been by our side for so long. And we talked of traveling, alone, to places new and places familiar.

Dating After The Death Of A Spouse, From Dan Savage (VIDEO)

Posted 05.05.2014 | MarloThomas

Dan Savage, Host of Savage Lovecast, had some powerful insights to lend on the highly personal topic of dating after the death of a spouse. “Deci...

Why Even Some Experts Get It Wrong When It Comes To Grief

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 07.05.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

It should come as no surprise that I receive my fair share of invitations to grief workshops, grief conferences, grief seminars and so forth. One such recent invitation included a description of a grief workshop that kind of -- well, horrified me.

Why 'Getting Over It' Is A Myth You Should Ignore

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 06.28.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I had been widowed just over a year and well into my own Healing Journey when my mother gave me some very wise advice (which I both follow and dole out to this day). She told me to stop and look back at how far I had progressed since that awful season in time when my husband passed away. When I actually took the time to stop and examine how far I had progressed to that point (and have progressed since that time many years ago), I started worrying less about being "over it" and started appreciating the healing that I had accomplished instead.

'Shouldn't You Be Over That by Now?' How to Respond to Judgment on Your Grieving Process

Megan Devine | Posted 06.15.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

Sometimes it just makes it easier on you, easier on your heart and mind, if you simply stop trying to explain. Refusing to explain or defend your grief doesn't mean you let other people go on and on about it, continually telling you how you should live.

Life in a Bubble With Pain and Grief

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 06.14.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

They don't want to see inside. They don't want to see my pain. To them I am on a girls' night out. They forget while they go home to their respective husbands, I go home to an empty house.

Are You Grieving 'Right'? What's Right, What's 'Wrong'... And WTF?

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 06.14.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I have always taken great umbrage at anyone criticizing, questioning or opining on how the widowed handle their grief and their highly individual and intensely personal healing journeys. Unfortunately, there seems to be a lot of it going on.

The Reality of Grief

Jamie Greenebaum | Posted 06.09.2014 | Fifty
Jamie Greenebaum

Reality: He is not here. Reality: He is not coming back. Reality: He is not here and won't be here again. Reality: Not ever. Reality sucks.

If It Isn't Meant to 'Cure' Grief, What Good Is Therapy?

Megan Devine | Posted 06.03.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

A good therapist is a wonderful thing: They know that there is nothing about you that's wrong. They know their role is to listen and validate, to come up alongside you and provide support.

'I Was Dragged Kicking And Screaming Into The Wonder That Has Become Social Media'

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 04.19.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I confess... I am a blonde-haired, green-eyed, modern-day dinosaur.

You Aren't Here Now: How Grief and Mindfulness Don't Mix

Megan Devine | Posted 04.13.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

This is the life you are called to be present for. This is the moment that asks for your awareness. Not because you are improved by what has happened, not because you needed it, not so you can turn it into some kind of gift.