We all have a wounded self -- our ego -- that we developed as we were growing up, to protect us from pain. Our wounded self becomes activated when we get scared -- scared of rejection, of engulfment, of being hurt.
Addicts under the addictive spell of smoking always have a reason or an excuse to smoke, whether these make sense or not. The real question is whether they truly believe their lives will be better if they free themselves from the familiar thrall that smoking reliably provides them.
Relationships are fertile ground for learning about ourselves -- about our unloving behavior that creates the very disconnection we don't want, and about the loving behavior that brings aliveness, joy and passion to our relationship.
Obama, from many accounts, will be using a tactic in his primetime speech that I would call "muddying the waters." The president is going to have a more complicated withdrawal schedule than one might have expected.
I have wondered why the White House hasn't been making some political hay over the success of the withdrawal timetable in Iraq. But I now see they wanted to roll this news out when people were actually paying attention.
The House approved $33 billion for a 30,000-troop escalation in Afghanistan this week and in doing so took money away from other places it was desperately needed: public schools, green energy and job creation.
Some military analysts agreed with a U.S. Army General's promise that there will be a decline in casualties from IEDs. The public should keep an eye on what happens to determine how much credence to put in Army claims.