I stayed because I thought that if you love someone, you should take the good with the bad. I stayed because at those times when the rest of the world didn't understand him, he said he needed me. I stayed because the prospect of being alone was scary. It felt too hard to climb out.
We're living in a strange in-between period in Chinese history. We grew up in a world where it would have been hard to imagine a woman surviving outside of marriage, socially if not financially. But our daughters live in a new world.
Access to education and literacy rights continue to be a matter of concern across the globe as non-compliant countries continue to use non-education as a tool to subjugate large percentages of the population.
Sometimes, I am the first black woman that someone has interacted with, dated or developed a friendship with. At times, I am that "one" that surprised you. And there are times where it doesn't matter who or what I am, because you knew who I was the instant you saw me.
We as a culture have held fast to the idea that we need to protect the boundaries between male and female. This is wrong, and even dangerous. Instead, we need to be reframing the discussion, and asking: What makes a boy a boy?
In Turkey secularism means state control of Islam and the exclusion of Islam from the public sphere, an enforced privatization of religion. Ataturk's secular republic had shut down all independent mosques.