Women's sexual desire (and men's, too) is far from simple -- it is more like a complicated puzzle, the pieces of which the pieces we are still trying to put together. Having pervasive sex-negative myths isn't helping anyone.
It doesn't much matter to me if Vagina is a good book, a stupid book, a book based in science or a figment of the author's imagination. It is more important that a productive, respectful conversation about female sexual satisfaction is actually taking place.
Based on my main inputs of TV and movies, it was pretty clear what guys were supposed to want. But what were girls and women supposed to want? What were we allowed to want? And separate from all that, what did we want?
Since Naomi Wolf released Vagina: A New Biography, we've seen an endless number of personal attacks masquerading as critique and a denigration of the author's work, mental health and intelligence -- critiques no man would dare to make, lest he be accused of misogyny.
Lately I have really been deconstructing my views on sexuality to get to the bottom of why women are treated unfairly. I've invited back the gorgeous sex educator Carlin Ross to help me break down my issues.
Lately I've been struggling with my role in the bedroom. Do I really like getting spanked because it feels good, or have I internalized my abusive past? I went searching for answers from the gorgeous Madison Young.
I have always wondered whether there would be the same anger at a story about men choosing to ratchet back their careers -- work less, earn less, climb less of the ladder. It looks like I am getting the chance to find out.