It would be impossible to have displayed more of a tin ear than Francesa did with his repeated calls for the good old days when men's role was to hand out cigars and get back to the office. It seemed that every father that called in to his show to offer a different perspective only sent Francesa further into his downward spiral.
One way to avoid workaholism is by recognizing that true work-life blend begins in one particular direction: from self to work. Work may come to inform the self over time, but work must first and foremost be designed by the individual if we are to experience meaning and flow, the bedrocks of lasting happiness.
Reflection, small acts of kindness, and ultimately, transformation are just three of the lessons offered in Dickens' A Christmas Carol. On my own reflection, I'm convinced it was that transformed character of Scrooge that my old friend was thinking of when she gave me that tiny statue of Scrooge so many Christmases ago.