My thoughts scattered my brain, causing a mismatch of thoughts that led to the feeling of a pit lodged in my stomach. But how do you control something like that? How do you defend yourself against a feeling that seems so miniscule yet so overwhelming and disastrous at the same time?
Worry has historically played a vital role in our survival and it helps us cope with many of the challenges we face today. At the same time, worry that is too intense and too unrelenting can definitely cut down on your happiness and enjoyment of life.
Why is excessive worry such a big regret? Because, according to the elders, worry wastes your very limited and precious lifetime. By poisoning the present moment, they told me, you lose days, months, or years that you can never recover.
Worrying about decisions you don't have to make yet creates an anxiety-producing talk track in your head. It impedes your performance because it distracts you from being fully present and it has a chilling effect on others.
As a GPS for the Soul editor -- someone who reads, writes, Tweets and preaches about stress management all day -- I have my own tools that work when stress rears its repugnant head. But this doesn't mean I don't stress.
How can we stop worrying when part of us seems convinced that if we only do enough of it we'll stay healthy, safe, and successful for the rest of our lives? By recognizing that worry is a poor substitute for knowledge, intuition and inspiration.
Stop and think about it. You have to make choices and decisions in life. There's no guide that tells us how to do this best, or how to make no mistakes, or keep everyone around you happy. You just have to choose and ride it out.
Worrying is actually a socially acceptable way of saying you live in fear of what may happen in the future. Most likely, you also lack present-moment consciousness, since you cannot be here now while constantly projecting catastrophically into the future.
Make a conscious choice to not go on the wild goose chase anxiety can launch, but know that you're better off without it. Instead, downgrade the importance of worry's messages and switch lines. The one without worry moves a lot faster.
Certain words can heighten your energy whereas others can dramatically lower it. I've come to realize that the word "worry" is a prayer for chaos. Watch this video and learn how to use words to amplify your life.
It is hard work to keep our hearts open when it feels it has been broken by the karate chop of a bad hand dealt. Yet here is the challenge of our generation: Can we dream, in spite of our present reality, of a greater and greater vision for our lives and never give up on pursuing happiness?