Tamar Abrams has worked as a TV producer, magazine editor and newspaper reporter but has spent most of her career helping nonprofits, foundations and individuals leverage their resources to maximize the power of communications in educating, persuading and motivating their target audiences. She is also a freelance writer and a foster mom. Tamar and her daughter live in Arlington, Virginia.

Blog Entries by Tamar Abrams

Promises Unkept: Obama Administration and a Unified Security Budget

Posted November 19, 2009 | 09:48 AM (EST)


When President Obama was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize, the Nobel Committee explained that he "has created a new climate in international politics...Dialogue and negotiations are preferred as instruments for resolving even the most difficult international conflicts." While many Americans were proud that our president won the award based on...

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An Execution and What Remains

16 Comments | Posted November 10, 2009 | 07:51 AM (EST)


At nine o'clock tonight, in the state where I've lived and played and loved for 18 years, a man will be executed. His name has always been inconsequential here. He is the Sniper. For a month in my daughter's tenth year, he terrorized us. It's hard to believe it all...

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Election Day in Virginia: The Sounds of Silence

1 Comments | Posted November 3, 2009 | 05:24 PM (EST)


Bill Clinton, why don't you call anymore? How about you Governor Tim Kaine? It's election day in Virginia and the silence is deafening. For over two months, I have been bothered morning through evening by a ringing phone. Sometimes it was a live person asking who I was planning to...

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Health Care Coverage: Healthy Topic of Conversation

4 Comments | Posted November 1, 2009 | 03:00 PM (EST)


A teacher, a lawyer and a writer walk into a bar and start talking about their health insurance coverage. Not the beginning of a joke, but the happy reality of life in the fall of 2009. A topic that for so long was just not discussed has been propelled into...

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Remember Privacy?

9 Comments | Posted October 13, 2009 | 11:32 AM (EST)


Remember privacy? I do. I was raised in the '60s and '70s when it was taken to the limit. I had no idea how much money my parents earned or what my friends did after school unless I was with them or called them on the phone.

People went...

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Would it Kill You to Use Your Turn Signal?

7 Comments | Posted September 24, 2009 | 01:53 PM (EST)


It wasn't until my daughter started driving in the spring that I became aware of how sloppy we drivers have become. Many parents my age, driving minivans or SUVs, are chatting on the phone while hauling their brood around town. Way too large a percentage of drivers don't use their...

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National Health Care: Making a Trip to Antarctica Possible

11 Comments | Posted September 19, 2009 | 08:49 AM (EST)


At dinner last night, my parents announced they are going to take a trip to Antarctica. Not your usual vacation destination, but it's been done. The twist is that my parents are 80 and 78 respectively, not an age at which most people choose to hike through Patagonia or look...

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Learning from Laura Ingraham, Believe it or Not

67 Comments | Posted September 4, 2009 | 04:49 PM (EST)


I had the oddest experience this morning. I had agreed to be on the Laura Ingraham Radio Show with my 16 year old daughter to talk about using an image consultant to help my daughter find her fashion style. If you're a loyal Huffington Post reader, chances are good that...

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Memories of Lockerbie Untainted by a Killer's Act

16 Comments | Posted August 23, 2009 | 08:04 PM (EST)


Lockerbie, Scotland was my Brigadoon. A dear friend from Wales and I were driving north to Edinburgh when we encountered heavy fog. As she was doing all the driving, I was quick to agree when she suggested we stop in the next town we came across to spend the night...

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Job Hunting at Midlife: Past My Prime?

4 Comments | Posted August 11, 2009 | 02:36 PM (EST)


It was easy to be vital and an integral part of the fabric of American society during the good times. Middle-class, middle-aged women (and sometimes men) spent easy cash on face-lifts, fast cars to salve their aging egos, second homes and exotic vacations. They were viewed with envy by many...

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Oh Unlucky Day!

8 Comments | Posted August 3, 2009 | 12:23 PM (EST)


I'm not the superstitious type. I've never avoided black cats, have walked under numerous ladders, don't even mind being seated in row 13 in theaters and airplanes. But I confess that I dread August 4 each year. Bad things have happened in my life on August 4 -- two cataclysmic...

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"Birthers" Hit a Nerve

76 Comments | Posted July 27, 2009 | 04:09 PM (EST)


Those damn "birthers" -- they sure know where to stick the knife! Hopefully by now they've figured out that Hawaii is part of the US, and may soon even realize that New Mexico is also a part of the Union. But their cowardly insinuations that President Obama was born outside...

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For One Lost Boy, There's No Place Like Home

5 Comments | Posted July 22, 2009 | 09:35 AM (EST)


The call came around 7 p.m. on a languid July evening as I was settling in with a good book and a big glass of iced tea. My teenage daughter was at a sleepover and the Friday evening stretched ahead quiet and uneventful. And then an Arlington County, Virginia social...

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When Being Jewish is Enough

26 Comments | Posted July 14, 2009 | 02:42 PM (EST)


Let's get this out of the way: I'm Jewish. Not particularly observant, can't speak Hebrew or Yiddish, but I can make a mean brisket and I've always been proud to identify as Jewish. Having grown up in some homogeneous places like Newfoundland, Canada and Wiesbaden, Germany, I am not unfamiliar...

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Baby Boomers Lose Two Icons on One Sad Day

29 Comments | Posted June 25, 2009 | 09:56 PM (EST)


If, like me, you grew up in the 1960s and 70s, the soundtrack of your life included the Jackson Five and Charlie's Angels was must-see TV. So today is a sad day for a generation -- even for those who found Michael Jackson's lifestyle distasteful and Farrah Fawcett bland. They...

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Experts Agree: Death Penalty Not a Deterrent

25 Comments | Posted June 18, 2009 | 11:42 AM (EST)


Like many Americans, I have long had an uneasy sense of the death penalty in this country. In order to fully support it, you have to have complete faith in our justice system and in the value of deterrence. Recently the latter has been strongly challenged: A new study shows...

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My Abortion: It's Time to Tell

597 Comments | Posted June 2, 2009 | 10:24 AM (EST)


I had an abortion in 1975 when I was a college sophomore. I've never told anyone in my adult life - not my parents, my friends and lovers, my siblings or my teenage daughter. I didn't tell my colleagues in the 1990s when I was working at Planned Parenthood, nor...

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Letting Go of a Foster Baby, with Great Reluctance

1 Comments | Posted May 28, 2009 | 01:48 PM (EST)


Today I spent three hours in Hell -- the waiting room of the Family Court at the Arlington County, VA courthouse. As the foster parent of an infant, I was a tiny cog in the cumbersome wheel of a five day hearing which was actually taking place nine days after...

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Dying to Give Life

Posted May 26, 2009 | 09:33 AM (EST)


Women should not die giving life. I'm pretty sure most of us in the U.S. and around the world are in agreement on that. And yet, tragically, more than half a million of the world's women lose their lives during childbirth -- a statistic that has held steady for over...

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Connie Culp: Facing the Nation

4 Comments | Posted May 6, 2009 | 02:18 PM (EST)


When Connie Culp's husband shot off her face with a shotgun, he was sentenced to a mere seven years in prison. She was sentenced to spend the rest of her life faceless in a nation that values beauty. Who got off easier? And yet, she was given a reprieve of...

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