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Tamara Shayne Kagel
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Tamara Shayne Kagel is an attorney, writer, Mensa member, and on-air contributor to the HuffPo Live Channel. While in law school, she penned the controversial Tattletales blog which led Maxim Magazine to name her one of the hottest nightlife bloggers.

Her story really begins when her parents led her to believe from a young age that her looks, talent, and abilities were far superior to what they indeed may be. She received a B.S. from Northwestern University where she was twice elected Vice-President of student government (and still denies all allegations made about her in The Daily Northwestern) and obtained a J.D. on an academic scholarship from Pepperdine University School of Law. She then worked as a prosecutor for the City of Los Angeles. Prior to law school, she performed as a contemporary ballet dancer and is also a certified yoga instructor. She is newly married and lives in Santa Monica, California with the love of her life. You can see her wedding day featured on Style Me Pretty. Find out more about her by visiting her website, subscribing to her blog, or following her on twitter @TamaraSKagel.

Entries by Tamara Shayne Kagel

What Do Cheaters Deserve?

(1) Comments | Posted September 29, 2015 | 2:14 AM

One of my closest friends went through an awful breakup last year. She received a forwarded email from her boyfriend (although later she found out another girl had sent it from his computer) that included the entire text history between him and a young college girl. The texts included months...

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10 Things People Don't Understand About 'Serial' Unless You're a Criminal Attorney

(3) Comments | Posted December 24, 2014 | 9:44 AM

Yes, I'm as obsessed as everyone about the most popular podcast ever, "Serial," which has resulted in the inevitable discussions and theory trading with everyone I know. I've even listened to some of the podcasts about "Serial," but in reading and listening to all of the...

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Why You Shouldn't Sign a Prenup

(1) Comments | Posted November 12, 2014 | 12:27 PM

About a year ago, my husband (then fiancé) and I had another couple over when the topic of prenuptial agreements came up. I reflexively said I would never sign a prenup and our friends were shocked. My husband had initially heard me say this when we were just beginning to...

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Why We're All Failing at Life (and a List of Everything You're Supposed to Be Doing to Succeed at It)

(0) Comments | Posted November 6, 2014 | 1:56 PM

A few years ago there was a NY Times article about how busy we all are. The author wrote an accurate indictment of how we so value booking ourselves up that we're all complaining, but really bragging, about how we don't have time to do anything anymore: We've...

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The Feminist's Dilemma: Why We Can't Stop Caring About How We Look

(18) Comments | Posted February 24, 2014 | 4:10 PM

Like most modern feminists, I rail against slut-shaming, tabloid culture and the unfairness of women being rewarded more for their appearance than their brains. But at the same time, I wear makeup, I exercise to stay in shape and I've been known to retake a photo because I thought I...

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Dear Baby Boomers, No, You Do Not Need To Learn To Tweet, Instagram, Vine, Etc.

(5) Comments | Posted December 16, 2013 | 5:20 AM

Dear Baby Boomers,

During a rowdy holiday time family dinner this year, a generational divide was made visible. A relative my parents' age asked: so I get Facebook, but I don't really get Twitter? Am I missing anything by not being on it and all the other ones?

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A Guide to Modern Wedding Planning

(0) Comments | Posted September 13, 2013 | 12:34 AM

It has only been a few months since I have been inducted into the exclusive club of people who are loved or that is to say, people who get to plan a wedding. But I have learned so much in that time that I thought some advice might...

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Letters From the World of Cohabitation

(0) Comments | Posted August 31, 2013 | 10:20 AM

It's been a few months since I've moved in with my boyfriend and I'm happy to report that I couldn't be happier. I was more nervous than I probably let on before it happened but now that it has, I'm ever more resolute that I've made the right decision.

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On TV Dramas, Men Have Secrets, Women Are Crazy

(28) Comments | Posted August 28, 2013 | 2:26 PM

With The Bridge on FX and Ray Donavon on Showtime, the American TV audience desire for antiheroes appears bolstered again, but there is a glaring difference between Hollywood portrayals of male antiheroes when compared to female antiheroes. In the microcosm of American television, men have secrets: Don Draper on Mad...

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In Defense Of Miley Cyrus' VMAs Performance

(292) Comments | Posted August 28, 2013 | 1:46 PM

Yes, I know. She twerked. She stuck a foam finger through her legs. She was raunchy and stuck her tongue out and moved like a stripper. And maybe it wasn't the classiest pop performance out there but this obsessive condemnation of Miley Cyrus's VMA performance is...

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A Pirate Treasure Hunt That Led to Actual Treasure: A Fairytale Marriage Proposal Come True

(0) Comments | Posted July 29, 2013 | 4:02 PM

When you get engaged in today's day and age, one of the first things people ask you is: "Were you surprised?" With more and more couples cohabiting first and women asserting their independence by discussing marriage as an equal partner before the proposal, it seems that for most couples these...

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Facebook Family Photo Album Time

(0) Comments | Posted April 14, 2013 | 11:36 PM

I used to love Facebook. Of course, I would have never admitted it. But the truth is, up until about 2010, Facebook was mainly a website for young people. Young people doing stupid things. And it was glorious. But now, I can't stand it. Now, all it is is one...

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If I Lean In, Will I Still Get Checked Out?

(1) Comments | Posted April 2, 2013 | 2:21 PM

Much of the discussion surrounding Sheryl Sandberg's dictum in her recent book Lean In that women self-sabotage their careers by not speaking up and failing to be assertive has revolved around a woman's struggle to fulfill a desire for motherhood and a career. Having not yet entered that stage of...

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Is Signing a Lease the New Marriage?

(6) Comments | Posted September 15, 2012 | 2:27 PM

I signed a new lease on a house last night and so officially on October 1st, I will move in with my boyfriend and become one of the millions of cohabiting unmarried un-engaged couples that have begun to define my generation's demographics. After an exhaustive, stressful search which required a...

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Why You Should Stop Taking Those High Heels Off

(28) Comments | Posted August 23, 2012 | 9:00 AM

I've come to notice a troubling trend around the office: Women are constantly flinging off their heels for flats or flip-flops, and I just can't stand it any longer. These women wear their heels for about two minutes total and the rest of the day, they're trudging around in shoes...

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Stop Taking Those High Heels Off

(9) Comments | Posted August 17, 2012 | 2:46 PM

I've come to notice a troubling trend around the office: Women are constantly flinging off their heels for flats or flip-flops, and I just can't stand it any longer. These women wear their heels for about two minutes total and the rest of the day, they're trudging around in shoes...

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The P90X of Yoga Has Arrived

(3) Comments | Posted August 15, 2012 | 4:18 PM

For as long as it has been popular in the West, yoga has always struggled to reconcile its noble traditions of using physical postures to bring calmness to the brain with the West's glorification of the aesthetic benefits yoga's postures produce. In other words, many of the millions of people...

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The Lady's Guide To The TSA

(13) Comments | Posted July 19, 2012 | 9:30 AM

I've been doing a lot of traveling lately, almost every weekend for a while now. In addition to a terrible case of jet-lag, I have picked up some tips on how to approach the complications of the TSA without sacrificing your dignity.

With summer travels upon us, many of us...

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Are We Just Moving In or Are We Moving Toward Marriage?

(182) Comments | Posted July 5, 2012 | 2:00 AM

I've told my boyfriend I'm ready. We're beginning the exhausting search for a house so we can move in together. It's taken over three months for me to decide this was the right decision for us, but I've come to the conclusion it is. I'm nervous and scared but very...

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For the Love of God, Just Break Up with Him Already!

(28) Comments | Posted June 18, 2012 | 12:50 PM

There is a culture in our relationship-obsessed young women's world that has obfuscated a dark truth: We are so overly focused on fixing our relationships that we have become completely blind to the fact that we're in terrible relationships. We read articles and talk and think for days about how...

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