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Tammy Nelson, Ph.D.
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Tammy Nelson, Ph.D., is a Board Certified Sexologist and Certified Sex Therapist, as well as a Certified Imago Relationship therapist and International Speaker and Seminar Leader. She is the author of several books including, The New Monogamy; Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity.,
Getting the Sex You Want; Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together, and What’s Eating You? A Workbook for Anorexia and Bulimia. as well as an upcoming memoir.
She has been a featured expert in Glamour Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, MSNBC, Healthy Life Magazine, Shape, Men’s Health, Washington Post, , and a source in Rolling Stone and Time Magazine. She writes for several blogs as well as her own and can be followed on facebook at

Tammy is a faculty member at several colleges and universities and gives workshops and Intensives for couples, training around the world on global relational change.

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Entries by Tammy Nelson, Ph.D.

Second Adolescence or Mature Love? 5 Reasons Couples Open Their Marriage

(7) Comments | Posted April 22, 2016 | 4:32 PM

You may be thinking that your marriage has reached a plateau. What was once hot, passionate romance is now maintenance sex a couple of times a month. You still love each other and your family life works fine, but things are not as exciting as they once were. One or...

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Talk To Me: Growing up Girl

(0) Comments | Posted April 8, 2016 | 2:20 PM

My daughter is beautiful, smart and almost sixteen. When she agreed to interview me for #TalkToMe for the HuffPost challenge on Facebook I was surprised. She is somewhat shy like a teenager (except of course when it comes to snapchat and her million followers.)

Her questions were about the...

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Three Steps to Opening Your Marriage: A New Permissive Monogamy

(0) Comments | Posted February 8, 2016 | 4:11 PM

Can we really have it all? A committed partner or spouse and sex partners on the side?

It's a delicate balance; finding a marriage that works and exciting, adventurous sex. But how does one cross the line and venture into the stormy seas of an "open marriage" without losing...

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A New Monogamy? A Fresh Look at Open Marriage for 2016

(22) Comments | Posted January 7, 2016 | 12:35 PM

Rules? What are rules? They no longer apply.

Today marriage can mean many things. It may mean that you marry someone of the same sex. Or that you divorce before death do you part. It could mean that a cheating spouse wreaks havoc when they break your monogamy agreement. Or,...

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Being Transgender in Prison

(0) Comments | Posted October 19, 2015 | 5:21 PM

Robert contacted me, frantic. His fiancée, Paula, is currently serving time in a southern state prison, and has so far served four months of what could be a thirty-six month sentence. Paula is a transgender woman. But Paula was placed in an all male prison to serve out her sentence.

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Life After Ashley Madison

(2) Comments | Posted August 30, 2015 | 4:31 PM

You went on Ashley Madison to check it out. You were curious. You wanted to know what all the hoopla was about. You entered your email; you paid for an account. And now your spouse is sitting across from you in the therapist's office, and you are wondering when the...

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'I Am Cait': Loving Someone Who Is Transgender

(0) Comments | Posted August 19, 2015 | 12:35 PM

In this latest post in my series on "Being Trans and the People Who Love Them," I interviewed Anna Baxter M.A., a Relationship and Gender Counselor practicing in Roswell, Georgia. Anna is a Licensed Associate Professional Counselor and is the founder of Love Positive Counseling, where she works...

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Interview With Grace; Transgender Rights and SCOTUS

(0) Comments | Posted June 30, 2015 | 5:37 PM

From my Series on Transgender Men and Women; And the People that Love them, Work with them and Fight for their Rights

Grace Stevens is a transgender woman and a leader in the transgender community who transitioned at the age of 64. She is a father...

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Being Transgender; the Words That Hurt

(0) Comments | Posted June 9, 2015 | 7:12 PM

Finneus is a female to male transgender person who identifies as a he, and lives in the Georgia area. He volunteered to be interviewed for a series of articles on what its like to be transgender and to answer some questions about how he feels about Caitlyn Jenner's...

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Is it Possible to Get Past an Affair?

(5) Comments | Posted May 26, 2015 | 2:52 PM

Hilary Clinton recently announced she is running for President. Many people still remember when Bill Clinton was President and had his infamous affair with Monica Lewinsky. Hilary chose back then to stay with Bill. Did they really get past the affair? They seem happy enough in public. Perhaps they really...

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Monica Lewinsky and the Price of Sexual Shame

(6) Comments | Posted April 9, 2015 | 11:23 AM

Monica Lewinsky has been shamed and publicly humiliated for decades now. She was blamed for the president's shameful humiliation and dragged through a media storm never before seen in this country when she admitted, or was forced to admit, that she had a sexual affair with the then-president, Bill Clinton.

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Fifty Shades of Feminism: Hot Sex and the New Fairy Tale

(3) Comments | Posted February 23, 2015 | 12:28 PM

I was in Paris last week for the opening of the movie, Fifty Shades of Grey. There were over 2,000 advanced tickets sold for the opening night in Paris, and almost 5,000 tickets sold for the 2:00 p.m. show.

The movie opened to over $100 million in worldwide sales. Tickets...

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I cinque segreti per un sesso migliore

(2) Comments | Posted February 15, 2015 | 9:45 AM

Dei consigli sul sesso potrebbero esservi arrivati parlandone cogli amici, magari googlando alla ricerca di "suggerimenti sexy". O forse nel vostro caso a caccia di trucchetti da utilizzare sotto le lenzuola ci andate quando vi trovate in fila alla cassa del supermercato, sfogliando le riviste sugli scaffali. Ora però lasciate...

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5 Dicas Para O Sexo Ser Fantástico

(5) Comments | Posted February 14, 2015 | 4:17 PM

Especialista em sexo e relacionamentos; Psicoterapeuta; Autora dos livros A Nova Monogamia e Consiga O Sexo Que Você Quer; Palestrante Internacional

Você já deve ter ouvidos conselhos sobre sexo de amigos, quem sabe procurado no Google por "dicas quentes" ou aprendido uma dica de sexo ou outra folheando as revistas...

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최고의 섹스를 위해 기억해야 할 5가지

(1) Comments | Posted February 4, 2015 | 5:52 AM

친구들에게 물어서, 구글 검색으로, 온라인 교육 동영상(‘야동’)으로, 또는 잡지에 실린 글로 섹스를 배워보려 한 적 있는가? 섹스 테라피 박사인 필자가 보기에 이렇게 얻는 조언 중에 쓸만한 것은 그리 많지 않다.

당신이 이성애자든, 게이든, 젊든, 늙었든, 결혼했든, 기타 등등이든 관계없이 최고의 섹스를 하기 위해 유념하면 좋은 팁 5가지를 소개한다.


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The 5 Keys To Great Sex

(17) Comments | Posted January 30, 2015 | 3:57 PM

Your friends have probably given you sex advice, you may have Googled around for "hot tips," or maybe you even get your sex advice standing in line at the grocery store flipping through magazines. Spoiler alert: You can ignore most of what you've heard.

There is a lot of advice...

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The Future of Marriage

(2) Comments | Posted December 4, 2014 | 3:25 PM

The definition of marriage has changed dramatically over the past ten years. In the way we think of and define "marriage," there has never been a more intrinsic and foundational change happening than right now. Our structural definition of the legal, emotional, and sexual act of committed partnership is on...

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Writers Block: The End of Summer Excuses

(0) Comments | Posted September 2, 2014 | 2:32 PM

I put aside time this summer to write my book. I had a house on the beach in Rhode Island, and a firm commitment to finish by the end of August. With outline and laptop packed in my car, I fled the confines of my day to day life and...

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Five Things the World Cup Taught Me About Marriage

(0) Comments | Posted June 30, 2014 | 2:46 PM

The 2014 FIFA World Cup Brazil has reached record numbers of viewers and fans around the world, with the United States showing a surprising new involvement in the sport, as well as Europe, Asia and all of South America, for the first time ever.

And the ways we watch what...

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Saying Goodbye

(0) Comments | Posted June 5, 2014 | 12:47 PM

Ever wondered what saying "Goodbye" in a healthy way might look like? Because it seems like none of us detach very well from relationships. That's why they make frozen yogurt and Netflix, right?

Even as an adult, our adolescent break up strategies carry over into our divorces, into the way...

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