Maybe you feel like I do: even if you've been working through the summer, September is all about getting back to your "doer," worker-bee self. In that spirit, today, I want to talk about a super-easy way you can play bigger in your career this year: Your words....
This is a post about a *very* helpful little question.
The question is: "What are you making this mean?"
As we walk through our lives, lots of ouches happen:
He didn't call back.
She snapped at me.
They gave the job to someone else.
Those are the facts.
Today I'm delighted to bring you a conversation with my friend and mentor, Jen Louden. Jen's work has spanned many topics dear to my heart: women and comfort, retreating, creativity and writing. Recently, she's been turning her attention to teaching. She's helping service-minded women and men to start teaching now....
Several months ago, I lost a friend. Her death was caused by a messy knot of physical, emotional, and financial problems: emotional wounds that led to addiction, addiction that led to physical problems and that made it hard to earn a living, then inner blocks and financial limitations that kept...
I notice that many people want to teach about or speak about or write about something, but think they can't do that until they've mastered the that thing.
It sounds something like this: "I want to help women who struggle with overeating, but how can I do that when I...
Up until I was about 30, I didn't know I had "an inner critic." Yes, I had heard the term here and there. Yes, I was mildly aware that sometimes cruel words about myself chattered away in my head, but that was it. Meanwhile, my inner critic was...
Ellen Goodman is one of our most wise and most widely read columnists. She's a Pulitzer Prize winner and was the first to open up the Op-Ed pages to women's voices. She has written extensively about social change in America specifically about...
A few weeks ago, I sat down to talk with Tracy Mack-Askew, a vehicle line manager and rising star at General Motors. Tracy had some wise words to share about how to find mentors and the mentorship mistake so many women make.
TARA: What role has mentorship played in...
A few weeks ago, I sat down with General Motors' Vehicle Line Manager Tracy Mack-Askew and Aerodynamic Development Lead Engineer Suzy Cody to talk with both women about what it's like to be a woman building cars in Detroit.
Here's what they had to say.
TARA: Tracy, How did...
A few weeks ago, I sat down with one of my greatest teachers, best-selling author and spiritual teacher Marianne Williamson, to talk about women, politics and her upcoming, unprecedented event Sister Giant.
This is part two of our conversation (you can read...
Today I want to share with you a concept I teach in my Playing Big leadership program for women.
A while back I started to notice a particular kind of pathology in myself and in the women around me.
waiting waiting waiting...
Today I want you to meet a very special woman who has written a very important new book.
Grandmother Power, published this week, documents a remarkable global phenomenon. Around the world, grandmothers are coming together to change their societies and ensure a better world for their grandchildren.
Women often wonder: How do I know if I'm hearing my inner critic or if I'm just being realistic?
Is that my inner critic telling me that I am not ready to start the business -- or is that realistic thinking?
Is that my inner critic telling me that I...
Have you ever wondered why your inner critic speaks up so suddenly -- and so viciously -- in moments when you least expect it?
In this video I share when you are likely to hear from that mean voice of self-doubt and what to do to quiet its voice....
In this video, I'm sharing my favorite teaching about fear, which comes from the late Rabbi Alan Lew. This simple, little-known idea about fear has been life-changing for the women and men I work with.
Watch it here:
As discussed in the video, Rabbi Alan Lew explains that in biblical Hebrew, there are several different words for fear.
Pachad is "projected or imagined fear," the "fear whose objects are imagined." In contemporary terms, that is what we might think of as overreactive, irrational, lizard-brain fear: the fear of horrible rejection that will destroy us or the fear that we will simply combust if we step out of our comfort zones.
There is a second Hebrew word for fear, yirah. Rabbi Lew describes yirah as "the fear that overcomes us when we suddenly find ourselves in possession of considerably more energy than we are used to, inhabiting a larger space than we are used to inhabiting." It is also the feeling we feel when we are on sacred ground.
If you've felt a calling in your heart, or uncovered an authentic dream for your life, or felt a mysterious sense of inner inspiration around a project or idea, you recognize this description.
We often conflate or confuse the two types of fear and simply call what we are experiencing "fear." But we can discern them more closely, and in doing so, more effectively manage fear so it doesn't get in our way.
Next time you are in a moment that brings fear:
1. Ask yourself: What part of this fear is pachad? Write down the imagined outcomes you fear, the lizard-brain fears. Remind yourself that they are just imagined, and that pachad-type fears are irrational.
2. Savor yirah. Ask yourself: What part of this fear is yirah? You'll know yirah because it has a tinge of exhilaration and awe, while pachad has a sense of threat and panic. Lean into -- and look for -- the callings and leaps that bring yirah.
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Are you wondering how to discover your calling?
In this video, I share seven simple ways that women can identify their callings -- including three surprising ones that nobody talks about!
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