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Trudie Styler: 'Sadomasochism Is The New Tantra'

Posted: 12/12/09 07:00 AM ET

Living, breathing, and being present, is the practice that can lead us to having a full and authentic in-the-body experience. If we can shift our perspective from being separate to being part of it all, psychological hang-ups, insecurities, fears, and disorders dissolve. We are left with self-realization and the ability to live fully and authentically with ease.

I don't usually do the "my life is so awesome blog," but with some consideration, I think the best way to extract and attempt a useful contribution this time around is to tell a tale. So here goes.

It was a cold winter's night in New York City. I was sheltered and warm inside the massively gorgeous St. John Cathedral listening to Sting and his wonderful group of musicians perform haunting Christmas tales. He sang dark and reflective poetry suitably married to upbeat and soulful Gaelic tunes from his new album, If On a Winter's Night. His performance was a meditation, an offering and a fantastic use of the Cathedral. If anyone can remind you by example that living in the moment is where it's at, it's Sting. He tapped into the magic, spirit, love and reflection of the season, and brought everyone along for the ride.

After the performance we stepped back into the mercy of the fierce winter that I'm convinced Sting had a hand in stirring up for dramatic effect. The whipping wind seemed inescapable, but soon I found myself again sheltered and warm. A small group of people and the musicians from the performance gathered to share the holiday spirit. I was in shock and wonder as I sat on the den floor listening in on a jam session. Fiddlers, singers, and drummers traded leads and brought the magic. Sting wandered about, joined in on other leads, and led some of his own. His gorgeous wife Trudie playfully stole kisses and glances.

Not ever wanting to leave that room, we finally did. As the elevator doors shut we all looked at each other and completely freaked out. I still can't believe that night actually happened and that I was really there. The gift of music is incredibly powerful.

Last night I escaped the dramatic winter chill again and was warm and sheltered with a group of people celebrating Trudie Styler at her Yoga DVD launch at Donna Karan's Urban Zen Center. An aura of grace, enthusiasm, and ease follows Trudie wherever she goes. She announced in her welcome/award-like acceptance speech, that "Sadomasochism is the new Tantra".

She was referring to her physical, mental, emotional and spiritual training regimen she went through to get her body and mind in top form to shoot the DVD. She said after 20 years of yoga practice, training for her DVD with her teacher James D'Silva whipped her into the best physical and mental shape of her life. Proof once again that yoga really does work.

"People get very silly about the whole idea of what Tantra is. It's using your normal life as a devotional practice. Breathing, walking, eating, making love. . . it's all the same. Practice consciously. Music is my Tantra. It's my way of saying thank you to. . . whatever." - Sting

Happy Holiday Season. I wish you a magically conscious winter.

 
 
 

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Living, breathing, and being present, is the practice that can lead us to having a full and authentic in-the-body experience. If we can shift our perspective from being separate to being part of it a...
Living, breathing, and being present, is the practice that can lead us to having a full and authentic in-the-body experience. If we can shift our perspective from being separate to being part of it a...
 
 
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Suzie Heumann
Tantric Sexuality & Consciousness
01:14 PM on 12/18/2009
Ah, well maybe not the best title, but the point is well taken about the immense feed back loop created by consciousness studies. Whether those be the yogas, Tantra, sex, relationships, one's work, compassionate being and giving, pushing oneself further (sadomasochism is a bit over the top here - pun intended), music, dance - all of life is the palate for the practice. I get it Tara. Thank you for helping us reflect by telling us through your personal experiences. That is all we really have.
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Beka13
Veni vidi vici
11:28 AM on 12/14/2009
With All due respect Tara, I think this post comes across as pretentious and pandering. I might even say as a commerial for Sting and his wife's newest products or maybe you are showing off a little too much about what your practice has given you. Do not get me wrong, I love them and think they have done Western Culture a great service by opening us up to Tantra, Yoga and Eastern Philosophy...However as a Buddhist myself, I think its anathema to make money off of our practice. Everyone who wants to have access to our teachings should be able to have access to them regardless of income. I can understand non-Buddhists selling Buddhist items to make profit for themselves but they are not on the path of Enlightenment. With that said, I think I will have to check out Stings new CD.
01:29 PM on 12/13/2009
can't help but think of this funny moment from Ab Fab:
"Gotta have a life aim dahling...
I've got my two life aims, you know?
Yoga is one. You are witness."
"what's the second one?"
"to have Christmas with Sting and Trudie Styler"
12:16 PM on 12/13/2009
"She said after 20 years of yoga practice, training for her DVD with her teacher James D'Silva whipped her into the best physical and mental shape of her life. Proof once again that yoga really does work."

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doesn't make sense.

if she's been doing it for twenty years and it works, then the 'training' shouldn't have been necessary.
gutteringdawn
It's the Enlightenment, St*pid!
09:09 AM on 12/13/2009
Also, evidently Sarah Palin is the new writing coach.
12:13 PM on 12/13/2009
oh my - could not have said it better. this was just awful.
07:06 AM on 12/14/2009
Yeah...

What just happened? I got dizzy when I read this.

This post should come with a warning to English majors...
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03:56 AM on 12/13/2009
Have given it some time to percolate in my noggin, and that title still cracks me up. Still, I love Sting's music, and if this works for them, then it is OK with me.
(I never for the life of me thought I would see the word Sadomasochism used as a compliment. If one lives long enough, one will see everything, I guess.)
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09:27 PM on 12/12/2009
Another silver spoon-fed lost soul. They search but never know what they are searching for, for everything they need has already been attained. Nothing is more painful than the emptiness that comes from being full...
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04:10 AM on 12/13/2009
Lifestyles of the rich and fatuous.
09:10 AM on 12/13/2009
Or the emptiness that comes from the endlessly judging.
10:02 AM on 12/13/2009
So true.
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OtayPanky
You're welcome
07:54 PM on 12/12/2009
Cardboard is the new chocolate.
08:43 PM on 12/12/2009
Too funny.
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SarcasticFringehead
Mute Nostril Agony
09:13 PM on 12/12/2009
Cardboard boxes may become the new condos too.
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07:51 PM on 12/12/2009
Sorry but the obscure point of this article vis a vis the headline just doesn't "play in Peoria".
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brooklyncitizen
Soror quaerens lucem
11:45 PM on 12/12/2009
...or in Brooklyn.
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06:10 PM on 12/12/2009
I confess to not understanding the article, but the title sure enough got my attention.
OK, I'll bite, what does sadomasochism have to do with yoga, or anything else for that matter?
06:18 PM on 12/12/2009
Me, too. I get the point of the article, but not the title.
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RedDogBear
07:48 PM on 12/12/2009
Unfortunately S&M is now kind of trendy. I prefer the days when people weren't so open about it and only those of us who really know what we are doing were into it.
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Ed and Deb Shapiro
08:32 PM on 12/12/2009
H-e-l-l-o -it's a pun

and it possibly means it is really difficult - painful - challenging and strenuous work to do the yoga postures.

and it feels like being a

sado- cause you are torturing yourself

and a masochist cause you are allowing yourself to doing it

let's all not take ourselves too seriously mates

Ed
10:01 PM on 12/12/2009
oh ok

my bad

i thought puns were supposed to be funny

but i stand corrected

thanks for the clarification
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Tulka2
Solidarity. Courage. Humor.
03:19 PM on 12/12/2009
Inspirational. Thank you.
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RedDogBear
07:51 PM on 12/12/2009
Are you kidding? Beethoven's ninth symphony is inspirational. Davinci's paintings are inspirational.
"I don't usually do the "my life is so awesome blog," but ...I was sheltered and warm ... listening to Sting and his wonderful group of musicians..."
is just bollox.
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Tulka2
Solidarity. Courage. Humor.
11:46 PM on 12/12/2009
It's a mystery to me too.
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Ed and Deb Shapiro
12:23 PM on 12/12/2009
Tara - You are dear to me. You are real, honest and so cool ... and in my heart. Debs as well!

Thank you for sharing your * Night with Sting * & Night with Trudy *

your title is fun .. I like Trudy's great play on words

You are truly Tara (Sanskrit) or Kuan Yin (Chinese)

Namo Kuan Cher Yin Pusa - she hears the sounds of suffering and heals the suffering hearts

Om Tara Namo Namaha

Ed (Swami Brahmananda - Jygme Powa
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Tara Stiles
08:42 PM on 12/12/2009
I love you both. You are so sweet and everything I could ask for in cosmic -spiritual-meditation-yoga-family. I must have done something right in a past life to know you both!

huge hug (one that lingers a little too long!)

:)
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Kzb
08:26 PM on 12/11/2009
Do you call people "Master" in yoga?
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T4Obama
10:48 AM on 12/12/2009
Obi Wan Kenobi called Yoda "Master", I don't think it meant that Yoda kept a gimp mask and a bull whip in his closet at the Jedi temple.
10:59 PM on 12/12/2009
That would be really funny!!!
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01:42 PM on 12/12/2009
If that person has Master all the move and Asana. Just like a Master Carpenter.
07:21 PM on 12/11/2009
Hi, Tara.

What a beautiful blog about the intimate connection between Yoga and music. I have also written about this on my blog, and you are so right about everything:

Flamenco Guitar as Yoga Philosophy
http://wp.me/PlUox-fj

Yoga and Mozart
http://wp.me/PlUox-eR

You have become one of my "must-read" blogs with your great writing. Keep up the great work.

Bob Weisenberg