The Secret To Getting What You Want
One of the interesting things about yoga is you can see most everything about a person by the way they practice. When you become aware of this fun psychoanalytic fact, you can start learning all kinds of useful things about yourself. You have the ability to change your practice and your life.
We all know that the body and mind are connected. But when we really take the time to reflect on how much they are in sync, we start to understand that they're actually the same. Have you ever gotten a headache from stress and thought about how that happened? Maybe you got stuck in the middle of a frustrating situation. You had a thought that sparked a series of thoughts that developed into stress and tension. That tension had no place to release and gave you a headache. If we can give ourselves headaches with our thoughts what else can we do?
The power of being a positive person is an essential tool that everyone should develop. Good actors have the ability to trick their brains and nervous systems to live truthfully under imaginary circumstances. Imagination is their preparation and kick-start. Once they have that going their body is able to respond naturally. The fun part is that your body doesn't know you're imagining. Your nervous system isn't able to differentiate whether you are an actor in a scene fighting with your boyfriend, or having the time of your life. You systems all align together with your thoughts. In a way, we can use imagination to fake it 'til we make it. Our perception of feelings, including pain, pleasure, anxiety, complacency, is all a choice. We can choose to go along with what we feel if that's what we want, or choose to amend our thoughts and direct ourselves in a way that we want.
When you're in a challenging yoga class, or in the middle of a long run or any other physically demanding activity there is a moment when your brain will tell you your body is uncomfortable and you should quit. That's the moment of choice, if you notice it. Without noticing, you may just react by checking out immediately. When you actually notice those reactions, you get to choose what response is really best for you. If you learn to stay calmly with challenges (when your brain is so sure you must instantly quit) you will become stronger mentally and physically, in all kinds of situations. If you quit, well, you know the rest.
Self-reflection and awareness aren't easy. Everyone wants to be told what to do. It keeps the psychics in business. But even if someone told us the best diet, the keys to our success, and how to actually sustain happiness, it still wouldn't work for us. We have to figure it out for ourselves. That's the hard part. We can find good teachers but we have to do the work. No one is going to lose 30 pounds for you, or hand you the perfect job, house, and family. If they were everyone would have what they want. People would complain a lot less and stop blaming others for their misfortune. It takes a lot of hard work to stay on track and no one can guide us but ourselves.
Things get easier the more effort you put in. In class this morning I asked everyone to bind their arms in an extended side angle pose. The ones having trouble were in a much too shallow stance. It's hard to maintain a wide stance, bring your front thigh parallel to the ground and keep the back leg stable and lifted. It's much easier to stay in a shallow stance and keep comfortable. But you can't bind in a shallow stance. When you move deeper it gets harder. But then you can bind so eventually it becomes easier. Ease takes effort on and off the mat. You're in charge of your own work ethic.
So take a cafe break. That's my corny acronym of the day. When you go to the cafe you're on your way to lining up your intention and cruising toward your ultimate you. Here's what it stands for.
Compassion. Without compassion for yourself and others you can become a not-so-nice person, pile-driving toward your goals without awareness or perspective. Compassion allows you to weather challenges, help others to do the same, and get real enjoyment out of success.
Alignment. We need to put our bodies in the right alignment to get the most benefits from a pose. The same holds for finding the best approach in any situation. It takes effort, intuition, and the ability to control your mind.
Focus. Without focus we're a prisoner of our thoughts. We can get wrapped up in them and they take over our actions. Practice lets us handle our thoughts deliberately, giving us a chance to make the choices we want.
Effort. Hard work will give you rewards. Whether you are working to lose weight, finish deadlines on time, or be a kinder person, goals take work. No one can do it for you but you - but with compassion, alignment, and focus, you've got everything you need!
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"The power of being a positive person is an essential tool that everyone should develop...
Our perception of feelings, including pain, pleasure, anxiety, complacency, is all a choice. We can choose to go along with what we feel if that's what we want, or choose to amend our thoughts and direct ourselves in a way that we want."
Oh my, that paragraph is magnificent. Exactly what the world needs now. So many people are slaves to their emotions. Television enforces the "fact" that human beings are driven by anger and hatred and violence. Angry people swear that it is "natural" to live lives of constant conflict. "Human nature" is their excuse to choose anger and negativity.
Real humans choose bliss. As often as possible.
I was right with you until the last sentence.
Putting people in to catagories such as 'unreal' as opposed to 'real' dehumanizes them.
Yeah, you got me. It was meant as a joke. I guess it didn't work!
Not really, because using the will in this matter only creates more unconsciousness, in those who surrender without finding themselves and their own energy.
In class you use the energy of your teacher. But in life you create your own energy, your own witness.
One does not really do Yoga in class because of this. It's only when your alone by yourself, that you Yoga happens. Where you create your own energy without the energy of a teacher. Without relying on anthing or any energy from the ouside.
When your by yourself, all alone, for year after year, decade after decade, that you learn to create your own awareness, your own energy.
It's not so easy. Going to a Yoga class, can be supportive in this process, but its only a beginning.
This is a good one! What happens in a yoga class really is the same as everywhere else - it's a great place to see yourself and adjust.
Great article - I can do it!
Great article!
Great article! Even with the ego-grabbing teaser title. ;-)
You point to a very deep truth, however, which is that when things get uncomfortable, our usual tendency is to try to escape the discomfort in any way possible instead of just staying with the situation and working it out. Very insightful article, thanks.
Listen to this woman. I believe she was David Caratines mentor.
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