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The Mermaids' Song

Posted: 08/12/11 04:53 PM ET

Many years ago I stayed with some friends in Washington while I attended a national convention. My hosts were well connected in diplomatic circles, and invited me to a fancy reception. As we walked into the reception, one person in our little group said to me, "If anyone asks you what convention you're attending, you may want to hurry and change the subject."

Because my convention was for aerobic dance instructors.

I became an instructor in my forties, because I could not be counted on to exercise unless someone was waiting for me, clapping for me, and paying me as well, and oh yes, I had to be in charge so that I could use my own favorite music and do simple moves that I, and everyone, can remember.

So imagine my surprise to hear I was not to mention my occupation at this elegant Washington reception. Did my pals consider us instructors stupid? Bimbos?

I was truly taken aback. For me, one of the highest callings a person can have is leading exercise classes. The whole country should thank them by approving huge salaries for them. An MBA basketball star gets millions a year to throw a ball in a basket for you, and what have you got when you leave the game? Probably a bigger tush and damaged ears. You leave your exercise class (if you go... honey... if you go) and what have you got? A happier soul, a healthier body, and a lot more energy. Next time you go to class, kiss your instructor.

This particular convention in Washington was for instructors who wanted to lead the same sort of class, but in the water. I was enjoying the whole experience, and learning so much about muscles, and water resistance, and the healing properties of water, and the fun of designing a class with superb music. All my creative juices were in full flow. I learned how to take full advantage of Peggy Lee's Fever, and Perry Como's Papa Loves Mambo, and on and on. Roger Miller's King of the Road and Tennessee Ernie Ford's Sixteen Tons were just made for increasing upper body strength in water, to say nothing of the inner thighs!

I look back on that evening now, and have to laugh, remembering the lovely party, and the distinguished diplomats I met. When one gentleman from an African country asked me what my job in Washington was, I told him I was just visiting, and then I told him the exact truth. His response was, "This sounds wonderful! I would like to be in a class like this! How can I join this class? Can I get one started in my own country? Everyone needs this class!" My well-connected friends were dumfounded.

That was over thirty years ago, and my class and I have been together in summertime ever since. The year my ladies and I became amphibious, my husband and I were just building a new home, and we added an outdoor pool. When I told the architect I wanted a bar in the pool, meaning a ballet bar running along both sides, I got another surprise: he had drawn in a fancy alcohol bar, poolside. But we got it all straightened out, and fourteen of us dance in that turquoise water whenever summer comes and my time permits.


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Anne, the oldest of us is now 88, and moves like a teenager. She says her secret to staying young is keeping company with younger friends, and never missing her morning water class all winter at the community pool ("It keeps my body from feeling creaky"). She never wastes a breezy day, and gets her kite out and calls my sister to come help her send it up to the sky.

We share stories, sadnesses, garage sale announcements, good movies and books, and family foibles. We give each other therapy. Those in their eighties counsel the mother of sassy teenagers that this too will pass. At the end of summer, we hold a potluck lunch. (We're trying not to repeat the day that every single person brought brownies. ) And we sit around the table and share our lives.

We are getting wrinkled, and not just from being in the water. Our hair is thinning. Some of us are fighting cancer and determined to win but know that either way, we're living life to the fullest.

We are getting forgetful. Vicky says she was on her cell phone, shouting to her son that she'd lost her cell phone. As she dug around in her purse, the phone cradled to her ear, her son asked, "Mom, what are you talking on, then?"

But the best story of the day was from Ruth. Ruth is 78, and taking care of her mother, who is 98, and forgetting most things these days. One day Ruth came in and her mother said, "Hello, Virginia." Now Virginia is Ruth's sister, so Ruth went over to her mom and put her hands on her shoulders and said, "Now Mom. Who am I?"

Her mother looked at her and then patted her, saying, "You just give yourself a minute, honey. It'll come back to you."

I think it's the best advice in the world.


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Many years ago I stayed with some friends in Washington while I attended a national convention. My hosts were well connected in diplomatic circles, and invited me to a fancy reception. As we walked ...
Many years ago I stayed with some friends in Washington while I attended a national convention. My hosts were well connected in diplomatic circles, and invited me to a fancy reception. As we walked ...
 
 
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SirCoolBreeze
GOP'ers = Alleged Unindicted Co-conspirators
09:46 AM on 08/20/2011
What a great story. Thank you.
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Terrell Dougan
08:23 PM on 08/24/2011
And thank YOU, Sir Cool Breeze....
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FireRaven
Seriously Silly
09:40 PM on 08/19/2011
Here's proof that beautiful mermaids come in all shapes and sizes. Keep swimming, gentlewomen -- you're an inspiration!
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Terrell Dougan
08:24 PM on 08/24/2011
Thanks for a great response.
XOXO
07:25 PM on 08/18/2011
I love, love, love this article. I have been a fitness instructor for many years and my husband and I put a pool in this summer. We have been talking about doing backyard water aerobics in a few years. I took the liberty of highlighting your post in my blog. I hope you don't mind.
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Terrell Dougan
08:24 PM on 08/24/2011
I am honored, my friend. Thanks so much.
11:56 AM on 08/18/2011
This really works, dancing in water is fun, feels good and shows results. No more sweaty land workouts, boring & tedious, such stressful nonsense. Take to the water ladies, don't let any know-it-alls deter you from joyous good health. Water works wonders for all ages !
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Terrell Dougan
08:24 PM on 08/24/2011
Thanks so much, Adeledance!
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prestonsturges
Lights! Camera! Action!
04:27 PM on 08/16/2011
That's the secret: one way or another, never stop moving and doing something. And never stop reading and doing mind puzzles. Exercise your brain and your body! And drink Guinness [one a day]!
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Terrell Dougan
08:25 PM on 08/24/2011
Thanks so much for the comment. I am curious about your blog name, as he was certainly a fabulous screen and play writer!
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prestonsturges
Lights! Camera! Action!
09:22 PM on 08/24/2011
That's why I chose it!
02:56 PM on 08/16/2011
I agree, we had a pool put in B4 the " Little houses made of tick-tacky " filled in around us, and I have not been going swimming due to other activities, but it IS my favourite exercise, now that I can't ski anymore, Right ON Ladies !!!!!
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Terrell Dougan
08:25 PM on 08/24/2011
Thanks so much for your fine comment!
OX
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Terrell Dougan
08:37 PM on 08/24/2011
Glad you're one of us, musefire. Thanks!
01:57 PM on 08/16/2011
This is one of the most pleasant articles I've read on HP. :-)
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globalviper
~Life is good even when its Bad~
01:09 PM on 08/16/2011
wonderful : ) Would be nice if everyone who gets old can enjoy this and live happy : ) I hope to move to good music while in the water when I get old : ) Looks like good fun : )
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Terrell Dougan
08:38 PM on 08/24/2011
Thanks for your comment, and I hope you'll give it a try!
Best regards from my pool.....
Terrell
12:51 PM on 08/16/2011
This article brought tears to my eyes as I am on the cusp of my golden years. I know the time will come( as I am already seeing a little decrease in my memory) when I won't always be as with it as I am now. lol.
I belong to my local YMCA and do deep water aerobics in the fall, winter and spring. Our instructor calls it the liquid weight room. You get out of it what you put in to it. Some women come to socialize and some come to workout and burn calories. I like it because there is no impact on the joints which have started to bother me from my years of running.
Also I can do exercises with the buoyacy of the water that I can't or don't want to do in the weight room.
Loved the article and ladies I wish you many more years of doing what you love and reaping the benefits of good health in the process.
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Terrell Dougan
08:39 PM on 08/24/2011
Thanks so much for the lovely words. Liquid weight room is great! I'm going to steal it!!
Thanks for posting.
Best regards and keep splashing!
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hedonistnutritionist
11:55 AM on 08/16/2011
This is the best exercise ever! When I was 30 and pregnant and developing toxemia, water aerobic helped me enormously! I was amazed how the exercises seemed effortless (all gain, no pain) but when I got out of the pool, my legs were shaking as if I had just been waterskiing for an hour!
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Terrell Dougan
08:40 PM on 08/24/2011
Wow! I was toxemic too! I wish I'd known then. Never mind: my baby is now almost 50 and healthy, and I am blessed.
Thanks for posting.
XO
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hedonistnutritionist
03:45 PM on 08/25/2011
Terrell: I am so glad everything turned out well for you!
11:32 AM on 08/16/2011
YOU GO GIRLS. I have noticed ~ while attending water aerobic classes ~ how the seniors in the class without exception ~ all improve significantly after joining us. It is an amazing transformation to see.
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Terrell Dougan
08:41 PM on 08/24/2011
You are so right! It does keep the twinges from the hinges.
XOOXO
Thanks for posting.
11:30 AM on 08/16/2011
Our water aerobics classes attract not only the elderly among us. Many in their thirties also find this a good way to exercise without damaging joints and to get a two-fer: everything you do in water is working your core.

Water exercise classes tend to share one aspect not common in floor classes: the class members talk! Some of them all the time, all of them some of the time. I think this is the aspect that makes these classes especially good for making friends.
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Terrell Dougan
08:42 PM on 08/24/2011
Judith:
You are so right! Thanks so much for posting.
XO
T.
10:30 AM on 08/16/2011
good for them , happy face
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Terrell Dougan
08:42 PM on 08/24/2011
Thanks!
10:12 AM on 08/16/2011
Wow, what a wonderful story amidst all these others! You go girl! I have just hit my forties, I like to say I am 21 years old with 20 years of experience! I can relate to wanting to be in charge, my music and getting paid to work out! Thank you for this story, it is wonderful!
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Terrell Dougan
08:43 PM on 08/24/2011
We are apparently control freaks. I wish you good luck in your life (and secretly hug you in sister bonding.)
XOXO
StevenRussell1
Christian Pilot
09:53 AM on 08/16/2011
"He who believes in the Son has everlasting life; and he who does not believe the Son shall not see life; but the wrath of God abides on him" (John 3:36).