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If you’re looking for guidance, support or information about divorce, please visit Moving Past Divorce. Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW has been a licensed clinical social worker and college instructor for over two decades. The topic of moving past divorce is a personal one for her – divorce goes back five generations in her family. Follow her on Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn.

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9 Warning Signs Your Relationship Is Headed For Collapse

(18) Comments | Posted July 8, 2014 | 2:57 PM

After decades of being a therapist and lover of self-help books, I've come to realize that red flags usually appear fairly early on in a relationship that can signal eventual disaster if they're not dealt with. For instance, most couples report that their relationship problems didn't surface suddenly but are...

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Is Resentment Ruining Your Marriage?

(5) Comments | Posted June 26, 2014 | 3:37 PM

There are many factors that lead to the demise of a marriage. When couples have hurt feelings, it can be a challenge to forgive and forget. Problems in a marriage such as emotional detachment and a lack of sexual intimacy seldom develop overnight. It's often said that resentment is like...

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Message to Dads: Strengthen Your Bond With Your Daughter After Divorce

(4) Comments | Posted June 13, 2014 | 3:13 PM

Father's Day is coming soon and it is a wonderful opportunity to strengthen your relationship with your daughter or heal wounds from the past. Adjusting to your changed relationship after the breakup of your marriage can present new challenges. It's best adopt a resilient mindset and let go of the...

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A Message to Moms: Help Your Daughter Avoid 'Daddy Hunger'

(54) Comments | Posted June 7, 2014 | 2:57 AM

As a child, I was never quite sure about the nature of my father's feelings toward me. When I was very young, I knew that I was Daddy's Little Girl because we used to make special trips to the seashore where we would collect guppies -- putting them into buckets...

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What Makes a Woman a "Keeper"?

(0) Comments | Posted May 29, 2014 | 4:51 PM

Growing up in a house full of women, I've spent most of my life baffled by men's attitudes, behavior and psyches. Additionally, the vast majority of my clients are women and they often try to pick my brain about the male perspective and what they're looking for in a mate....

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How to Move on From Your Parents' 'Grey Divorce'

(0) Comments | Posted April 30, 2014 | 5:56 PM

As divorce rates among adults over 50 continue to climb, many adult children of long-time married parents may have difficulty dealing with feelings of bewilderment and loss -- with few places to turn for advice and support.

In fact, adult children of divorced parents (ACODS) tend to be the forgotten...

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How to Revitalize Love and Passion With Your Partner

(3) Comments | Posted April 17, 2014 | 4:51 PM

Is your relationship with your partner defined more by friendship than passion but you still love each other and haven't given up? Rest assured -- it's common for couples who have been married or committed to each other for a while and have busy lives, to drift apart emotionally and...

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5 Ways to Overcome Your Fear of Commitment

(2) Comments | Posted April 3, 2014 | 3:39 PM

Marriage need not be the institution that defines us as individuals. That being said, many people still seek lasting commitment, often in the form of marriage. This can be a healthy desire if we bring realistic expectations to it. But many adults don't have a healthy template of marriage to...

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6 Ways to Stop the "Blame Game" and Resolve Conflicts With a Partner

(6) Comments | Posted March 14, 2014 | 10:13 AM

Most of us dislike conflict. Very few people were raised with healthy role models for dealing with differences. But while conflict may appear to be a destructive force in relationships, it can actually help us achieve lasting love. Author Kate McNulty, LCSW writes, "Differences can be a source...

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Is Living With a Narcissistic Parent Damaging to Your Kids?

(7) Comments | Posted February 27, 2014 | 4:46 PM

Recently, several books and articles have been written about narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). While these publications have great merit, few have examined the impact on children of living with a parent with narcissistic traits. There is some evidence that children raised by a narcissist can adopt some of...

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Falling Out Of Love: Does It Mean The End Of Your Relationship?

(23) Comments | Posted February 9, 2014 | 5:32 PM

Is your relationship with your significant other defined more by friendship than passion? The good news is that you're not alone and there are some fairly simple things you can do to restore the spark that you once had. In fact, renowned relationship expert Dr. John Gottman reminds...

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Marriage Counseling: Does It Help Or Not?

(4) Comments | Posted January 24, 2014 | 2:46 PM

Recently, the effectiveness of marriage counseling has been called into question by a few Huffington Post contributors. For instance, in an article entitled "Marriage Counseling Made My Relationship Worse," the author leads with: "Does anyone have a good experience with marriage counseling? I hope so. In my experience,...

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I Love You, But Please Change

(3) Comments | Posted January 10, 2014 | 2:06 PM

What makes for a happy, fulfilled relationship? While this is a complex question that doesn't lend itself to a quick answer, there are aspects of successful and lasting relationships that have been studied by experts and many approaches to pick from. The good news is that if you are in...

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10 Tips For Navigating The Holidays With Your Stepfamily

(1) Comments | Posted December 19, 2013 | 2:29 PM

Are you equipped to share the holidays with your parents, spouse, children, step-children and perhaps more than one set of in-laws and other relatives and friends? Stepfamilies often experience unique challenges during the holiday season -- such as blending new family members and in-laws into the mix. It can be...

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How to Heal From Feeling Rejected After Divorce

(30) Comments | Posted December 6, 2013 | 9:15 AM

When a marriage ends because our partner leaves or betrays us, it's natural to experience feelings of rejection. When we are left, it can be a devastating experience and it can leave us feeling angry, sad, and self-critical -- at times, ruminating about what went wrong. We may be in...

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Introducing Your New Partner To Your Kids: Take Your Time

(0) Comments | Posted November 20, 2013 | 8:49 PM

Are you a parent dating again after divorce and looking for guidance? Perhaps you met someone you are compatible with but wonder when you should introduce them to your kids. I've sat by and watched many of my friends and clients introduce their new partner to their children too quickly...

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Overcoming Codependency: Reclaiming Yourself in Relationships

(19) Comments | Posted October 31, 2013 | 2:50 PM

Many people stay in self-defeating relationships too long because they are fearful of being alone or feel responsible for their partner's happiness. They may say they want out -- but they end up staying. Others may leave but repeat the same or a similar self-destructive pattern in a new relationship....

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Getting the Love We Want: It All Comes Down to Gender

(34) Comments | Posted October 17, 2013 | 4:15 PM

For several decades, I've been researching marriage and divorce and have come to the conclusion that men and women have different wants and needs when it comes to love. While these differences may be slight and play themselves out in diverse ways, they can still impact the quality and outcome...

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Vulnerability: The Secret to Divorce-Proofing Your Relationship

(239) Comments | Posted September 30, 2013 | 12:55 PM

In my over 20 years of counseling couples, I've come to realize that vulnerability is the key to a lasting union and that shame and fear are two of the main reasons why couples get entrenched in power struggles that can lead to divorce. Opening up to our partner can...

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Cohabitation With Children: What Are the Risks?

(52) Comments | Posted September 12, 2013 | 11:36 AM

Many authors have written about the benefits and drawbacks of cohabitation in recent years. In my recent Huffington Post article Should I Move In With My Partner?, I write, "While there aren't any easy answers to the question of whether couples should cohabitate, being aware of the risks...

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