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Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW
If you’re looking for guidance, support or information about divorce, please visit Moving Past Divorce. Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW has been a licensed clinical social worker and college instructor for over two decades. The topic of moving past divorce is a personal one for her – divorce goes back five generations in her family. Follow her on Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn.

Entries by Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW

How to Revitalize Love and Passion With Your Partner

(0) Comments | Posted April 17, 2014 | 4:51 PM

Is your relationship with your partner defined more by friendship than passion but you still love each other and haven't given up? Rest assured -- it's common for couples who have been married or committed to each other for a while and have busy lives, to drift apart emotionally and...

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5 Ways to Overcome Your Fear of Commitment

(2) Comments | Posted April 3, 2014 | 3:39 PM

Marriage need not be the institution that defines us as individuals. That being said, many people still seek lasting commitment, often in the form of marriage. This can be a healthy desire if we bring realistic expectations to it. But many adults don't have a healthy template of marriage to...

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6 Ways to Stop the "Blame Game" and Resolve Conflicts With a Partner

(6) Comments | Posted March 14, 2014 | 10:13 AM

Most of us dislike conflict. Very few people were raised with healthy role models for dealing with differences. But while conflict may appear to be a destructive force in relationships, it can actually help us achieve lasting love. Author Kate McNulty, LCSW writes, "Differences can be a source...

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Is Living With a Narcissistic Parent Damaging to Your Kids?

(7) Comments | Posted February 27, 2014 | 4:46 PM

Recently, several books and articles have been written about narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). While these publications have great merit, few have examined the impact on children of living with a parent with narcissistic traits. There is some evidence that children raised by a narcissist can adopt some of...

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Falling Out Of Love: Does It Mean The End Of Your Relationship?

(23) Comments | Posted February 9, 2014 | 5:32 PM

Is your relationship with your significant other defined more by friendship than passion? The good news is that you're not alone and there are some fairly simple things you can do to restore the spark that you once had. In fact, renowned relationship expert Dr. John Gottman reminds...

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Marriage Counseling: Does It Help Or Not?

(4) Comments | Posted January 24, 2014 | 2:46 PM

Recently, the effectiveness of marriage counseling has been called into question by a few Huffington Post contributors. For instance, in an article entitled "Marriage Counseling Made My Relationship Worse," the author leads with: "Does anyone have a good experience with marriage counseling? I hope so. In my experience,...

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I Love You, But Please Change

(3) Comments | Posted January 10, 2014 | 2:06 PM

What makes for a happy, fulfilled relationship? While this is a complex question that doesn't lend itself to a quick answer, there are aspects of successful and lasting relationships that have been studied by experts and many approaches to pick from. The good news is that if you are in...

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10 Tips For Navigating The Holidays With Your Stepfamily

(1) Comments | Posted December 19, 2013 | 2:29 PM

Are you equipped to share the holidays with your parents, spouse, children, step-children and perhaps more than one set of in-laws and other relatives and friends? Stepfamilies often experience unique challenges during the holiday season -- such as blending new family members and in-laws into the mix. It can be...

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How to Heal From Feeling Rejected After Divorce

(30) Comments | Posted December 6, 2013 | 9:15 AM

When a marriage ends because our partner leaves or betrays us, it's natural to experience feelings of rejection. When we are left, it can be a devastating experience and it can leave us feeling angry, sad, and self-critical -- at times, ruminating about what went wrong. We may be in...

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Introducing Your New Partner To Your Kids: Take Your Time

(0) Comments | Posted November 20, 2013 | 8:49 PM

Are you a parent dating again after divorce and looking for guidance? Perhaps you met someone you are compatible with but wonder when you should introduce them to your kids. I've sat by and watched many of my friends and clients introduce their new partner to their children too quickly...

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Overcoming Codependency: Reclaiming Yourself in Relationships

(19) Comments | Posted October 31, 2013 | 2:50 PM

Many people stay in self-defeating relationships too long because they are fearful of being alone or feel responsible for their partner's happiness. They may say they want out -- but they end up staying. Others may leave but repeat the same or a similar self-destructive pattern in a new relationship....

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Getting the Love We Want: It All Comes Down to Gender

(34) Comments | Posted October 17, 2013 | 4:15 PM

For several decades, I've been researching marriage and divorce and have come to the conclusion that men and women have different wants and needs when it comes to love. While these differences may be slight and play themselves out in diverse ways, they can still impact the quality and outcome...

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Vulnerability: The Secret to Divorce-Proofing Your Relationship

(239) Comments | Posted September 30, 2013 | 12:55 PM

In my over 20 years of counseling couples, I've come to realize that vulnerability is the key to a lasting union and that shame and fear are two of the main reasons why couples get entrenched in power struggles that can lead to divorce. Opening up to our partner can...

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Cohabitation With Children: What Are the Risks?

(52) Comments | Posted September 12, 2013 | 11:36 AM

Many authors have written about the benefits and drawbacks of cohabitation in recent years. In my recent Huffington Post article Should I Move In With My Partner?, I write, "While there aren't any easy answers to the question of whether couples should cohabitate, being aware of the risks...

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Mothers and Daughters: A Crucial Connection After Divorce

(31) Comments | Posted August 29, 2013 | 3:32 PM

I've written extensively about fathers and daughters and felt compelled to do so since this relationship is usually impacted the most by divorce. If you've read my articles on this topic, you'll find that most daughters don't have the advantage of a close connection with their fathers after...

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How Can Couples Avoid the Pitfalls That Threaten a Second Marriage?

(43) Comments | Posted August 19, 2013 | 8:59 AM

No one in their right mind would ever remarry if they believed the statistics about the failure rate of second marriages. After all, the divorce rate in which at least one of the spouses has been married once before is between 60 and 67 percent compared to first...

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Should I Move In With My Partner?

(20) Comments | Posted August 2, 2013 | 2:53 PM

This is a common and important question. Cohabitation -- living together without the commitment of marriage -- is on the rise. And it's a good idea to examine your fears and ask questions before making this important step. Although increasing numbers of individuals report less social stigma about cohabitation, many...

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Letting Go of Relationship Traps

(6) Comments | Posted July 18, 2013 | 3:53 PM

Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW

When we get close to someone, it can bring to the surface unresolved issues from the past -- the very things that we might want to avoid dealing with. Over and over again, I've seen relationships sabotaged or crumble because one or both partners are unaware...

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Call Off the Chase: Avoiding the Pursuer-Distancer Dance In the Bedroom

(844) Comments | Posted June 21, 2013 | 1:22 AM

I hear the same complaint over and over again from clients: "Why doesn't my wife want to have sex with me?" Or: "We're just not on the same page sexually."

Rebecca, a willowy blonde dressed in casual jeans and a stylish blouse, has been married to Ethan for over...

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Are You Ready To Let Love Into Your Life?

(19) Comments | Posted June 7, 2013 | 11:37 AM

Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW

I hear over and over from women who email or meet with me: "Why can't I allow myself to be vulnerable with men?" Or: "How come I feel like running every time he seems to take our relationship to the next level?"

Theresa, an outgoing twenty-nine...

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