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Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW
If you’re looking for guidance, support or information about divorce, please visit Moving Past Divorce. Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW has been a licensed clinical social worker and college instructor for over two decades. The topic of moving past divorce is a personal one for her – divorce goes back five generations in her family. Follow her on Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn.

Entries by Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW

Will Living Together Without Marriage Damage Kids?

(1) Comments | Posted January 22, 2015 | 9:33 AM

In recent years, the rate of adults over the age of 18 getting married has sharply declined and the rate of children being born to never married parents has skyrocketed. The question that arises for many people is: What are the risks to children when their parents remain...

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Are You Crazy in Love Yet Dread Losing It?

(0) Comments | Posted January 8, 2015 | 8:33 PM

Many people fear relationship failure. Real love makes us feel vulnerable and we tend to have fear of the unknown. Putting trust in someone can make us feel exposed. Some people even believe that the more they care about someone, the more at risk they are for being hurt.


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6 Signs Your Partner Is Good Marriage Material

(3) Comments | Posted December 1, 2014 | 4:46 PM

Who we choose to marry is one of the most important and costliest decisions a person will make, yet it's not uncommon for lovers to make errors in judgment. Why does this happen? One reason is that most of us aren't raised with a healthy template of marriage to follow....

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4 Ways Creating Shared Meaning Can Improve Your Marriage

(0) Comments | Posted November 13, 2014 | 11:20 AM

Over the past several years, I've written several articles about how to improve your marriage and prevent divorce. However, it struck me recently that all of these articles were missing an essential element of a lasting marriage -- the ability to create shared meaning, a purpose, or a dream with...

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How Being Too Self-Reliant Can Destroy Your Relationship

(0) Comments | Posted November 3, 2014 | 11:42 AM

Many of us grew up hearing "The only person you can depend on is yourself." We were taught from a young age that it's not a good thing to lean on others too much and that being independent is admirable. The truth is that self-reliance is a double-edged sword. While...

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6 Reasons Why Being Friends With Your Ex Probably Won't Work

(10) Comments | Posted October 2, 2014 | 3:14 PM

As a therapist, I've spent a lot of time explaining to my divorced clients why trying to remain friends with their ex can be problematic. Let's face it, many people are not emotionally ready to move on after a breakup and believe that preserving a friendship with their ex (assuming...

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What Do Women Want From Love and Marriage?

(5) Comments | Posted September 17, 2014 | 4:07 PM

Most observers agree that marriage in the US has been changing. Over the last fifty years, there has been a quiet shift in the landscape of family life in America. Approximately 50 percent of adults over age eighteen marry; this number is compared to 72 percent in 1960, according to

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How Keeping Secrets Can Destroy a Romantic Relationship

(7) Comments | Posted August 7, 2014 | 12:41 PM

Many of my clients tell me they keep secrets from their partner because they think telling the truth will make things worse. Or they believe that their significant other simply couldn't handle the truth and that it might end the relationship.

For instance, Kerry never told Brad that she...

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10 Signs You Are at Risk for a One-Sided Romantic Relationship

(3) Comments | Posted July 24, 2014 | 12:24 PM

I hear over and over from women who e-mail or meet with me in counseling sessions: "Why do I keep picking guys who hurt me?" or "How do I learn to trust my judgment and stop wasting time with guys who aren't right for me?"

Many women consistently put other's...

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9 Warning Signs Your Relationship Is Headed For Collapse

(18) Comments | Posted July 8, 2014 | 2:57 PM

After decades of being a therapist and lover of self-help books, I've come to realize that red flags usually appear fairly early on in a relationship that can signal eventual disaster if they're not dealt with. For instance, most couples report that their relationship problems didn't surface suddenly but are...

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Is Resentment Ruining Your Marriage?

(5) Comments | Posted June 26, 2014 | 3:37 PM

There are many factors that lead to the demise of a marriage. When couples have hurt feelings, it can be a challenge to forgive and forget. Problems in a marriage such as emotional detachment and a lack of sexual intimacy seldom develop overnight. It's often said that resentment is like...

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Message to Dads: Strengthen Your Bond With Your Daughter After Divorce

(4) Comments | Posted June 13, 2014 | 3:13 PM

Father's Day is coming soon and it is a wonderful opportunity to strengthen your relationship with your daughter or heal wounds from the past. Adjusting to your changed relationship after the breakup of your marriage can present new challenges. It's best adopt a resilient mindset and let go of the...

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A Message to Moms: Help Your Daughter Avoid 'Daddy Hunger'

(53) Comments | Posted June 7, 2014 | 2:57 AM

As a child, I was never quite sure about the nature of my father's feelings toward me. When I was very young, I knew that I was Daddy's Little Girl because we used to make special trips to the seashore where we would collect guppies -- putting them into buckets...

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What Makes a Woman a "Keeper"?

(0) Comments | Posted May 29, 2014 | 4:51 PM

Growing up in a house full of women, I've spent most of my life baffled by men's attitudes, behavior and psyches. Additionally, the vast majority of my clients are women and they often try to pick my brain about the male perspective and what they're looking for in a mate....

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How to Move on From Your Parents' 'Grey Divorce'

(0) Comments | Posted April 30, 2014 | 5:56 PM

As divorce rates among adults over 50 continue to climb, many adult children of long-time married parents may have difficulty dealing with feelings of bewilderment and loss -- with few places to turn for advice and support.

In fact, adult children of divorced parents (ACODS) tend to be the forgotten...

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How to Revitalize Love and Passion With Your Partner

(3) Comments | Posted April 17, 2014 | 4:51 PM

Is your relationship with your partner defined more by friendship than passion but you still love each other and haven't given up? Rest assured -- it's common for couples who have been married or committed to each other for a while and have busy lives, to drift apart emotionally and...

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5 Ways to Overcome Your Fear of Commitment

(2) Comments | Posted April 3, 2014 | 3:39 PM

Marriage need not be the institution that defines us as individuals. That being said, many people still seek lasting commitment, often in the form of marriage. This can be a healthy desire if we bring realistic expectations to it. But many adults don't have a healthy template of marriage to...

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6 Ways to Stop the "Blame Game" and Resolve Conflicts With a Partner

(6) Comments | Posted March 14, 2014 | 10:13 AM

Most of us dislike conflict. Very few people were raised with healthy role models for dealing with differences. But while conflict may appear to be a destructive force in relationships, it can actually help us achieve lasting love. Author Kate McNulty, LCSW writes, "Differences can be a source...

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Is Living With a Narcissistic Parent Damaging to Your Kids?

(7) Comments | Posted February 27, 2014 | 4:46 PM

Recently, several books and articles have been written about narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). While these publications have great merit, few have examined the impact on children of living with a parent with narcissistic traits. There is some evidence that children raised by a narcissist can adopt some of...

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Falling Out Of Love: Does It Mean The End Of Your Relationship?

(23) Comments | Posted February 9, 2014 | 5:32 PM

Is your relationship with your significant other defined more by friendship than passion? The good news is that you're not alone and there are some fairly simple things you can do to restore the spark that you once had. In fact, renowned relationship expert Dr. John Gottman reminds...

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