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Terry K Carr
Terry K Carr is a non-fiction and fiction author living in Los Angeles. Currently, she is pitching a personal narrative memoir about her attempts to find an identity beyond motherhood in 1970.

Before writing non-fiction and fiction, Terry wrote songs and performed regularly with a sketch musical comedy trio at The Comedy Store in Hollywood and The Ice House in Pasadena, California. After embarking on a solo music career, she played the LA club circuit then taught songwriting at Chino Men’s Prison. She later enrolled in a writer’s program at UCLA.

Entries by Terry K Carr

What Sucked Me Into the Great LA Car Chase

(0) Comments | Posted May 25, 2015 | 10:29 AM

Since the financial meltdown I've had to re-invent how I earn and have created work I can do at home. Being my own boss, I give myself breaks when I need to. Sometimes I'll turn on the TV, but not before five PM: A necessary rule as I have a...

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For Charles and the Future Mrs. Manson

(2) Comments | Posted December 1, 2014 | 8:47 AM

Can I just say thank you to you, Charles, and the future Mrs. Manson for announcing your nuptials the same day of my therapy session? The timing had everything to do with uncovering an irrational fear of mine around the concept of safety. A fear I'd never told anyone about,...

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Premonition of a Parent's Worst Nightmare

(8) Comments | Posted July 8, 2014 | 12:18 PM

My son died over 40 years ago on July 6, 1972. He was 7 and had been living in a home for the handicapped. He'd been at home with us when this picture was taken (sitting in front). I was a young divorced single mother with a full-time job and...

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5 Signs I Need to Get the Heck Out of My Comfort Zone

(0) Comments | Posted May 5, 2014 | 3:54 PM

We all crave familiarity, some more than others. Me, I fall in the more-than-others category. My heart will race at the slightest suggestion that I move from my cozy spot; whether it's a rent-controlled apartment in a gone-bad neighborhood, an old idea about who I am or a relationship that's...

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How Fido Can Fill An Ex's Shoes (Yes, I Mean That!)

(3) Comments | Posted March 25, 2014 | 3:55 PM

I love dogs and know the comfort their companionship brings. But my friend, Karen didn't "get" them until she and her husband split. Her story proves that desperation can open doors beyond a 20x16 inch portal at the bottom of a kitchen entrance and lead you to unexpected delights.


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My Woman's Intuition: Witchery or Bitchery?

(0) Comments | Posted March 4, 2014 | 12:18 PM

Last week my friends and I went out for dinner and they brought along a couple I'd never met, a man and woman. Like most writers I know, I tend to listen rather than speak and that night was no exception. While attuned to a lively conversation about a certain...

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Dear Self: Do Not Fear Aging

(1) Comments | Posted January 21, 2014 | 1:10 PM

Dear Self: Do not fear aging. When you look in the mirror and see that your mother's furrowed brow and slacked jaw have masked your own, it'll force you to forgive her and you know that she, and you, require at least that much.

It was when I was in...

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We'll Always Have Paris

(2) Comments | Posted September 23, 2013 | 7:47 PM

Last month I got a new follower on Twitter. Since I'd joined over a year ago, 20 had trickled in and at that rate each gets special attention. Who? I wondered and peeked. Him? The same name as him or, the name he'd assumed when we met in Paris. Lifetimes...

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One Physical Attribute You Really Shouldn't Ignore

(9) Comments | Posted August 9, 2013 | 6:42 PM

Out of all the assets we women have to dazzle the world -- hair, dress, movement, scent and more -- none gets ignored more than the mysterious and sensuous power of our voice. Why then, I ask myself, are so many of us today not using it to its full...

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Move Over Fantasy Dad: This Father's Day I Celebrate My Real Dad

(0) Comments | Posted June 11, 2013 | 10:40 AM

Many of us from divorce carry around a version of our Dad that doesn't always square with the flesh and blood one. He could be cast in your mind as a hero or villain, or somewhere along the edges of either extreme. One of the great attributes of imagination is...

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The One Lie You Really Shouldn't Tell Your Kids

(887) Comments | Posted March 5, 2013 | 1:33 AM

I remember it vividly: My mom and I were at a hot dog stand in Studio City, California. It was a hot summer day. I was four years old. It had been a year since I'd seen or heard from my dad and I had asked for the umpteenth time...

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Top Five Lies You Tell Yourself About Your Divorce

(89) Comments | Posted November 28, 2012 | 2:00 AM

Lying to yourself is a coping mechanism that can be an effective survival tool akin to a seat belt that keeps you from flying out to Crazy Land while you're on the emotional rollercoaster ride of divorce.

First-time, even second-time divorcees need to get through some pretty deep and profound...

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Divorce Runs In My Family

(64) Comments | Posted June 11, 2012 | 3:15 AM

My dad had three different families, but it wasn't until I started writing about how my brother and I were affected by his impulse to extend his lineage that I understood how deep divorce ran in the Carr clan. Believe it or not, it wasn't always clear.


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7 Fibs You'll Probably Tell Your Kids After The Divorce

(27) Comments | Posted May 17, 2012 | 2:00 AM

As a divorced single parent of three, I had an idea that if l were honest with my kids, it would help them. But when I spoke the truth as I saw it, their confused expressions convinced me that sometimes it's just better to fib. Here are seven fibs you'll...

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