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Mothers Are Feminists Too

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Mothers are feminists too. Why would anyone doubt that?

Back in 2012, a debate in the New York Times was printed under the headline, "Motherhood vs. Feminism." Really? We have to make a choice?

Writing in Ms. Magazine, Natalie Wilson said, "Raising children to be pro-peace, consumer-conscious and actively anti-sexist/racist/classist/heterosexist/able-ist can be just as vital as marching on Washington."

Sunday is the 100th anniversary of Mother's Day. It's important to remember that the holiday does have feminist roots. The abolitionist and suffragette Julia Ward Howe was best known for writing "The Battle Hymn of the Republic," but according to juliawardhowe.org,

She was instrumental in creating Mother's Day, which she envisioned as a day of solemn council where women from all over the world could meet to discuss the means whereby to achieve world peace. They would also convene as mothers, keeping in mind the duty of protecting their children.

In 1870, Julia Ward Howe published "A Mother's Day Proclamation" as a call to action. Watch a clever reenactment of the poem here.

Following an intensive lobbying campaign by peace activists and campaigners for women's rights, Woodrow Wilson signed a Joint Resolution designating the second Sunday in May as Mother's Day in 1914.

A lot of people say that Mother's Day is one of those "Hallmark holidays" that don't really exist in the calendar, and I can certainly see their point. The commercialization of Mother's Day doesn't enhance anyone's idea of family. But there's another way that society is "dumbing down" motherhood that we must name and shame.

It's the notion that a woman can't be a mother or grandmother and also a strong and powerful leader. A perfect example of this ludicrous logic is the whispering campaign taking place right now against Hillary Clinton.

As usual, Jon Stewart was right on the money when he called out the media's obsession with the question of whether being a grandmother would impede Hillary Clinton's presidential campaign or ability to do the job. Stewart pointed out that no one asked the same question about Mitt Romney, who at the time he ran for president had 18 grandchildren.

Meanwhile, Michelle Obama was called "a feminist nightmare" by Michelle Cottle, writing in Politico, for having the temerity to be a highly accomplished professional who also called herself the "Mom in chief." Cottle quoted Leslie Morgan Steiner, the author of Mommy Wars:

"Are fashion and body-toning tips all we can expect from one of the most highly educated First Ladies in history?" Observed Steiner, "I for one have seen enough of her upper appendages and her designer clothes, and read enough bland dogma on home-grown vegetables and aerobic exercise, to last me several lifetimes."

It's always a mistake to try to force women into one stereotype or another. Real life isn't an either/or equation -- Hillary Clinton can be a loving grandmother and an outstanding political leader. Michelle Obama can take on a public role of mothering two wonderful girls and be a high achieving, powerful intellect.

You and I can be mothers and feminists.

So how does a feminist celebrate Mother's Day?

Just like everybody else.