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The Cultural Warming of America

Posted: 10/07/10 09:00 AM ET

A few years ago I was giving a talk on the human side of medicine to a large, excited audience at the Mayo Clinic in Minnesota. After the talk a surgeon came up to me and said that whenever they install a new piece of machinery in his part of the hospital, he manages to purchase a beautiful rug or a painting. I thought that was a brilliant maneuver.

Later I discovered a quote from the pre-Raphaelite painter Edward Burne-Jones. He said that for every invention that comes from science he would paint an angel. So, lately I've been referring to this maneuver as the Burne-Jones effect. Any of us could try it: Whenever you get a new machine at work or at home, match it with a piece of art or something beautiful. It doesn't have to cost a lot of money, but it does require imagination.

This idea of responding to the mechanistic style of our times with art and beauty is part of a larger project that I envision as the warming of culture. I am not anti-science or anti-technology. For years when asked to speak against some new piece of technology, I have refused. I am happy to live in the age of the computer and of medical science. But a philosophy of technology, a life defined largely by technology, is a cool life, a life of cool relationships, cool experiences and cool thoughts.

There's nothing wrong with cool, whether you mean the temperature or the style. But if cool gets in the way of warm, we individuals and the culture at large lose important values: connection, empathy, nostalgia, a strong sense of home and civility.

My wife and I recently watched the movie "Kate and Leopold," in which an elegant man (Hugh Jackman) falls through a gap in time and arrives in contemporary New York. It's a charming, romantic movie, and Leopold's most striking characteristics are his exceptional civility and grace. In the movie Leopold's charm seems to be focused on winning a woman, but I saw it as a challenge to a cool, contemporary, mechanistic culture.

I've been called romantic, and the word was meant as a criticism. But I'm in favor of a return to a warmer cultural climate, a world in which civility and manners guide us in our daily relationships. Yes, these things can be superficial, but surface care in the way we relate to each other could be the beginning of a deeper respect. I'm not sure we can get to the second without the first. I'm happy to be a romantic.

For 20 years I've been writing about the soul. I've notice that in history, whenever soul is cultivated, it generates a new kind of romanticism. Think of music of the 19th century, or the films of Merchant and Ivory or Masterpiece Theater. Romanticism is the atmosphere of a soulful life, and civility and gracefulness create a deeper style of living.

Some people would find the Masterpiece Theater image stuffy. I'm the son of a plumber, and it's going to take a lot to make me stuffy. I do think some of our problems would be solved if we would take care with our speech, especially treating our friends and adversaries with basic respect and showing that respect with civil manners. Today we seem to pride ourselves on being spontaneous and casual. Those are certainly virtues worth pursuing, but maybe they are compatible with manners and cultivated speech.

My model of civility is not really Hugh Jackman's Leopold, marvelous as he is, but my 98-year-old father, the plumber. He never learned the niceties of the English language. He loved baseball and tennis and could build a house from scratch. But he taught me with his example to show respect for all people--not just to think it, but to express it in the way you address another person.

Our democracy requires civility. Otherwise we won't listen to each other and discover how to bring our ideas and talents together for our mutual benefit.

While some seem to envision the 21st century as the 20th century on steroids, to use a zesty metaphor of our times, I hope for a warmer, more romantic century, in which we rediscover the importance of civility and beauty.

 

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A few years ago I was giving a talk on the human side of medicine to a large, excited audience at the Mayo Clinic in Minnesota. After the talk a surgeon came up to me and said that whenever they insta...
A few years ago I was giving a talk on the human side of medicine to a large, excited audience at the Mayo Clinic in Minnesota. After the talk a surgeon came up to me and said that whenever they insta...
 
 
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05:11 AM on 11/05/2010
A marvelous piece! It reminds me of the interaction I had some time back on the island of Zanzibar, off the coast of Tanzania. A young man asked me who I was, and I replied in the usual way by telling him what I do for a living - which is how most of us - people from the industrialised world - tend to define ourselves.
His response was friendly, yet stern. ‘I didn’t ask you what you do for a living.’ The young man in Zanzibar looked me straight in the eye. ‘I asked you to whom you are connected. Who is your family, who are your friends? To whom do you go, when life gets tough?’
10:09 AM on 10/16/2010
I agree. Civility is vital and an important way to begin anew, though it’s also important to add that civil behavior can be a mask for devious intentions. Civility can be a strategic, sneaky tactic rather than an exhibition of authentic good will born out of respect. At its worst civil behavior can be a Trojan horse. History and the present day are full of examples of similar sucker punches delivered either directly or indirectly to the undefended. So there are valid reasons why civility seems to be evaporating today. After experiencing so much incivility most don’t have the luxury of stopping momentarily for a cup of tea. One is likely too busy putting ice on one’s wounds or just getting by to care.
06:19 PM on 10/12/2010
Civility, respect, beauty . . . concepts that have the power to end war.
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11:39 PM on 10/09/2010
The miles and miles of strip malls and fast food chains are soul-less. I can't describe it, but there's something impersonal, empty, devoid...of all of that.
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06:26 PM on 10/10/2010
with the cookie cutter neighborhoods we have created, we have lost individual identity so Beaverton or mannasas or Grand Praire all look the same. So what makes us Unique
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SShaw490
A man hears what he wants and disregards the rest
04:46 PM on 10/08/2010
This isn't exactly in the same theme, but I just got back from Baton Rouge, and as I was driving over the I-10 Mississippi River bridge in Baton Rouge, I was looking at the steel girders over the bridge, and I thought, "I'm sure that's structurally sound, but it's ugly as hell." I spent about 200 miles on the road ruminating about how we - especially in the industrial world, and even more particularly in the "Capitalism Is King" south - don't make any effort to create things that are both useful and beautiful.

I've been in instrumentation work for 25 years, and I remember how we used to try to ben and arrange pneumatic tubing specifically to make it a work of art. That stuff was beautiful, all running parallel and angling off in very specific, symmetrical ways, racks and racks of stainless steel tubing that I think any sculptor would be proud to own. Today, though, nobody does that at all. It's all just "get it from here to there". It's all about money, time and, frankly, lack of initiative.

We need to recognize that capitalism, taken to an extreme, subordinates craftsmanship and the joy of work.

Sorry to sidetrack things, but I saw that bridge today and just thought, "This is the best they could do?"
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TheIndependenceParty
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06:21 PM on 10/11/2010
You made me think of the times I've traveled to the South, and I found stark contrasts. As you describe the steel spans over rivers and creeks are utilitarian, ... no doubt. But in Savannah and New Orleans and many Southern cities I recall the gardens and wrought iron railings, ... brickwork, ... and realize that where there was money, there is a sense of beauty in the South, ... as there is on occasion in the North.

I used to see the patterns of tubings on the jet engines my father sold for his company, ... and I found the complexity and patterns beautiful. There was a sort of "hyper-technicality" to all the tubings, just as you describe, ... that was the opposite of random, ... truly complex beyond my understanding, and in a choreographic array around the nozzles and turbines that was artful AND functional.

Great comments, ... thanks!
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quorthon
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12:33 PM on 10/08/2010
What you have just proposed may very well be the antidote to the overall dumbing-down of America. Of course, actually try acting composed and graceful in public, and you're labeled an elitist.
10:07 AM on 10/08/2010
Thank you for your beautiful post. My model is my 76 year old mother who has never uttered a profane word, except in a quotation, and lives a life of elegance and grace despite coming from limited means.
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SarcasticFringehead
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01:52 AM on 10/08/2010
I wish I could see a cultural warming in America, but I'm seeing the exact opposite.

I'm seeing a small but loud minority preaching at the top of their lungs a philosophy that comes down to: "Pull yourself up by you own bootstraps" and "We're all in this completely alone" and "I've got mine, to hel_l with the rest of you."

If anything, this minority seems to be about to gain some control over the levers of government. And I can see nothing positive coming from it. Nor can I see any compromising with these people either. Art, music, the cultivation of the soul, even science is not valued by them.

Money seems to be their be-all and end-all.
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05:49 PM on 10/07/2010
Very nice. I think, though, that the 21st century is becoming more like the 20th century on meth.
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BlueZoo
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03:48 PM on 10/07/2010
The reason that surgeon gets a new piece of art or rug each time his hospital installs a new machine is because he gets a kickback for each test he orders for that machine! Let's not get all gushy about fake altruism here!
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lornabright
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12:10 PM on 10/07/2010
Maybe it's a testament to our evolution that as we're defining things like freedom and marriage, we're beginning to question what words like "casual" and "spontaneous" really mean.
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11:14 AM on 10/07/2010
I think he needs to stick to his model, his 98-year-old father, the plumber.
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10:52 AM on 10/07/2010
Excellent article. I especially like that you speak of a plan of action for achieving the 'warmer' world. It reminds me of Marguerite Yourcenar's comment, which I remember as, "I am not interested in a philosophy of a free man; I'm interested in a technique."