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Tina Swithin
Tina Swithin is an Author, writer and advocate for change in the Family Court System. Tina's book, "Divorcing a Narcissist" has received international attention and has been praised by doctors, attorneys and celebrities alike. Tina published her second book, Divorcing a Narcissist: Advice from the Battlefield in 2014. Her third book, "Rebuilding After the Storm" takes readers on a journey to rebuild their lives in the aftermath of a Narcissist. Tina’s work has been featured in Glamour Magazine, Washington Times,,, and LA Family Magazine and all books hold five-star ratings.

Tina works as an internationally sought after Divorce Coach and resides in San Luis Obispo, California with her husband, Glenn, and their two daughters.

Entries by Tina Swithin

Breaking News: California Judge Orders Immediate Return of Kelly Rutherford's Children

(107) Comments | Posted May 28, 2015 | 9:09 AM

In 2009, actress Kelly Rutherford entered the Family Court system naively believing that the best interest of her two American children would be served by presiding Judge Teresa A. Beaudet. In an unprecedented move labeled by legal analyst Dan Abrams...
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An Open Letter to President Obama: Kelly Rutherford's Custody Case

(0) Comments | Posted May 4, 2015 | 2:22 PM

Dear President Obama,

I know that you are a busy man, but by now I'm sure you've heard about Kelly Rutherford's plight to bring her children home to the United States of America? As you are probably aware, Kelly Rutherford...

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Setting Boundaries with a Narcissist

(0) Comments | Posted September 16, 2014 | 10:41 AM

What does the word "boundary" mean to you? We know it is important to have personal boundaries. We also know people who have no regards for personal boundaries. In our front yard, we set boundaries using fences. Our homes have a front door and lock to keep unwanted guests out....

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Holiday Traditions in San Francisco

(0) Comments | Posted November 11, 2013 | 2:48 PM


Until I had children of my own, I never fully appreciated the beauty and importance of family traditions. Much to my delight, my daughters are at an age where they look forward to the many traditions that we have created over the years....

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Narcissistic Personality Disorder in the Family Court System

(40) Comments | Posted October 9, 2013 | 4:44 PM

Why can't you both just get along for the sake of the children?

Those words are like nails on a chalkboard to anyone who has been through a divorce with someone who suffers from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). While divorce can bring out the worst in a...

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Top 5 California Festivals

(7) Comments | Posted September 13, 2013 | 7:30 AM


California is known for many things, including gorgeous weather, breathtaking landscapes and my personal favorite, the year-round festivals. I recently went on a quest to uncover the top festivals in California and while it was a tough job, someone had to do it! California...
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The Narcissism Epidemic: Do You Know the Warning Signs?

(16) Comments | Posted June 27, 2013 | 5:01 PM

The term, "narcissist" seems to be spreading through the world like an out of control wildfire. The term itself doesn't always have a negative connotation since ironically; we are all narcissistic by nature. There is a certain degree of self-love that is healthy. However, there is a line that separates...

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Exploring Oxnard, California

(0) Comments | Posted June 25, 2013 | 5:48 PM

2013-06-24-ChannelIslands_Oxnard.jpgCaught up in the hustle and bustle of life, many of us drive past the same towns year after year, never taking the time to stop and explore our surroundings. Over the past 30 years, I have driven past Oxnard, California many times...

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Hidden Gem: Sycamore Mineral Springs in Avila Beach

(0) Comments | Posted June 12, 2013 | 11:20 AM

2013-06-10-AvilaBeach13.jpg There are a handful of places that I have been in my lifetime that offer instant relaxation. Sycamore Mineral Springs Resort is one of those magical places. Located in my own backyard, Wine Coast Country, Sycamore Mineral Springs is the...

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Man-tastic Vacations in Paso Robles Wine Country

(0) Comments | Posted May 29, 2013 | 8:55 AM

2013-05-26-_G1R0820.JPG When my husband wants to go on a trip with the boys, they like to have a few items in place: fun, food and well, more fun. I recently set out to explore the perfect man-cation and my trusty "man compass" took me straight...

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The New Discovery Route in Wine Coast Country

(0) Comments | Posted May 20, 2013 | 6:00 PM

2013-05-19-SanSimeon12.jpg I was thrilled to stumble upon the newly unveiled "Discovery Route" which spans 101 miles of pristine coastline and encompasses ten diverse destinations along the way. Each of the ten areas boast their own unique offerings such as wine tasting, outdoor adventures, cultural exhibitions,...

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The Narcissism Epidemic: The Red Flags

(7) Comments | Posted May 9, 2013 | 3:16 PM

Parents are known to deliver an overabundance of advice to their college-age children. I remember heading out into the great big world at the age of 18 knowing the basics. I knew that I shouldn't drink myself into oblivion nor should I accept rides from complete strangers. I understood the...

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Finding Hidden Gems in California: Half Moon Bay

(3) Comments | Posted May 6, 2013 | 11:37 AM

By definition, gemologists are qualified to identify and evaluate gems. I pride myself on finding the hidden gems of California family vacation spots. While I am fortunate enough to reside on the west coast, I am on a lifelong mission to vacation in my backyard and then share these hidden...

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Divorce: To Blog or Not to Blog, That is the Question

(4) Comments | Posted May 2, 2013 | 2:44 PM

I would love to be a fly on the wall in a divorce attorney's office. This profession is privy to the innermost details of a person's life and it probably takes a lot to make a divorce attorney cringe. In 2011, I did something that would make most divorce attorneys...

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Why Our Family Courts are Failing

(174) Comments | Posted March 27, 2013 | 12:44 PM

The family court system in the United States is failing our children. Our appointed judges and commissioners are supposed to act in the best interest of the child, but unfortunately, they are not. My friend, Amie, was able to eloquently express what she deems as the primary issue in our...

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8 Tips for Dealing With A Narcissist In Family Court

(128) Comments | Posted March 11, 2013 | 12:25 PM

Dealing with someone who suffers from Narcissistic Personality Disorder in the family court system is a daunting task that is made even more difficult if you are in pro se, or self-represented. I would personally rather be awake and un-medicated during a root canal if given the option of choosing...

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How I Fell For A Narcissist

(832) Comments | Posted February 12, 2013 | 2:06 AM

How does a person fall for a narcissist? Individuals who suffer from narcissistic personality disorder can generally charm the pants off of anyone, so it is easy to fall into victim mode and blame these emotional con-artists. I've chosen a different path. I've chosen to own my part of the...

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Forgiveness Is Overrated: Accepting The Narcissist

(495) Comments | Posted January 15, 2013 | 11:04 AM

For many divorcees, January brings forth images of fresh, crisp journal pages, in-depth soul searching, and the monumental pressure to forgive. We have been taught by virtually every religion under the sun that there is great power in forgiveness. Most studies on forgiveness tout the health benefits of forgiveness from...

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Communicating With A Narcissist: Using The Narc Decoder

(377) Comments | Posted December 29, 2012 | 2:13 AM

While divorce is generally riddled with varying degrees of conflict, divorcing a narcissist will take the conflict to heights that few can comprehend. People who suffer from Narcissistic Personality Disorder are incapable of compromise and they are overcome with the need to win. This is obviously a bad combination in...

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