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Tom Bartolomei
Tom Bartolomei, aka Mr. Von B, is the husband, dresser, manager, driver, porter and jack of all things drag for Vivian Von Brokenhymen. Along with these duties Mr. Von B is the Chief Financial Officer of Viv Inc. Mr. Von B and Vivian live in Columbus, Ohio, with their two four-legged kids: Klaus and Luki. You can catch the Von Bs at any of the local bars that features the art of drag.

If you would like to follow their adventures in drag, be sure to read, and follow Mr. Von B on twitter @vonbrokenhymen.

Mr. Von B also writes for SocialColumbus a local website featuring everything Columbus Ohio.

Entries by Tom Bartolomei

Just My Drag Cents

(0) Comments | Posted April 2, 2015 | 11:20 AM

So as I'm sure all of you are aware Religious Freedom has been in the news a lot lately thanks to Governor Pence and his signing of Indiana's Religious Freedom Law. As any responsible gay man, I have been reading and watching as many debates as I can to better...

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Here I Wait

(0) Comments | Posted November 12, 2014 | 11:49 AM

Funny what a difference time can make in one's life. When I first came out of the closet 20 plus years ago, marriage really wasn't something I was concerned about or even really interested in. Now there were many reasons, why I felt that way, however the top 2 I...

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Yes, Facebook, Drag Queens Are Real!

(0) Comments | Posted September 16, 2014 | 5:31 PM

As many of you are more than likely aware by now, Facebook, for reasons unknown to anyone, has decided to start enforcing a policy requiring that users use only their legal name on their personal profiles. This decision has affected many entertainers across the country and seems to be targeting...

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Thank You, Vivian

(2) Comments | Posted July 24, 2014 | 1:54 PM

So any regular reader of the Diary knows Vivian and I have a complicated relationship. She brings so much happiness to Jeff, and I love Jeff with all my heart, so by default I love Vivian. However Vivian the character is a completely different story. She is something that at...

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Art + Drag for Michael: An Anti-Bullying Event

(2) Comments | Posted May 13, 2014 | 6:21 PM

The story of Michael Morones, an 11-year-old boy from North Carolina who attempted suicide in January because he was bullied over his love of My Little Pony, has touched so many people. Local Columbus Ohio Drag Queen Vivian Von Brokenhymen was one of them. When Vivian heard Michael's...

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The Effects of Bullying

(2) Comments | Posted May 8, 2014 | 11:31 PM

At the end of this month, the Von Bs are joining forces with several friends and businesses for an event to benefit Michael Morones, the 11-year-old My Little Pony fan who was bullied so severely that he attempted suicide. More on the event in a later post; however, all the...

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The Von B Proposal

(2) Comments | Posted April 4, 2014 | 2:16 PM

So in November of 2013 I wrote a piece called "10 Reasons to Love the Man Behind the Queen" in it I listed the top 10 reasons everyone should love a drag queen. As much as those reasons were based on Jeff I generalized them so they would...

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Top 10 Reason I Love the Man Behind Vivian

(0) Comments | Posted March 4, 2014 | 3:45 PM

In November of 2013, I wrote an article titled "10 Reasons to Love the Man Behind the Queen." As you can guess I listed what I felt were the top 10 reasons why everyone should love a drag queen. It goes without saying those reasons were based on...

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Days In the Lives of the Von Bs

(0) Comments | Posted February 26, 2014 | 11:54 AM

With the fight for marriage equality making headlines almost every day, and now, state bills popping up to "protect religious freedom" from us homosexuals, I have to ask myself what the hell is there about my life and my desire to marry the man I love that causes these people...

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'Frozen' by Fear and Intolerance

(4) Comments | Posted February 21, 2014 | 10:50 AM

So on Tuesday February 18, Huffington Post ran a story with the headline "Disney's 'Frozen' Slammed By Mormon Grandmother For 'Gay Agenda To Normalize Homosexuality.'" With a title like that how could I not read the piece? After reading the piece and some of the blog quotes, I...

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Soul of a Drag Queen

(1) Comments | Posted January 24, 2014 | 8:02 PM

Drag queens: Can't live with them; can't live without them. Well, at least that is how I feel sometimes. However, when it comes right down to it, I have a huge amount of respect for these entertainers and what they do.

The one aspect I respect the most is...

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Then Utah Happened

(2) Comments | Posted January 9, 2014 | 4:10 PM

So 2014 is supposed to be the year of the Von B proposal, but I have to admit now with what is going on in Utah I'm not so sure. Now let me say for the record this has NOTHING to do with how I feel about Vivian. There is...

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10 Tips for New Queens

(1) Comments | Posted January 2, 2014 | 4:14 PM

I'm not a Drag Queen but I'm married to one and I thought I could offer some advice to new or budding queens for the New Year after seeing what Vivian learned and experienced when she first starting performing in drag. However, before I get into the actual tips I...

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12 Days of Dragmas

(0) Comments | Posted December 16, 2013 | 11:37 AM

It's the holidays, a time for family, friends, good tidings and let's be honest gifts. If you are reading this post you, more than likely, have a Drag Queen you will need a gift for. So I thought I would put together and 12 Days of Dragmas gift list for...

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Types of Queens

(0) Comments | Posted December 4, 2013 | 6:33 PM

Drag Queens are like snowflakes not one of them is alike. Each one has something I like to call their own Dragnality, the attractive and in some cases unattractive qualities that make a Drag Queen unusual or interesting. Even though no Drag Queen is a like another, they can be...

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10 Reasons to Love the Man Behind the Queen

(4) Comments | Posted November 15, 2013 | 7:01 PM

A few weeks ago I received a Facebook message from a drag queen in Portland asking me if I ever thought of writing a piece along the lines of "Reasons It's OK to Date a Drag Queen." I will be honest: I never did, because drag has just become a...

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The Dragopus

(0) Comments | Posted November 11, 2013 | 4:31 PM

When you are married to a drag queen, her art touches every part of your life. There really isn't any way to escape it, and trust me, I have tried over the last four years. To some degree you don't even realize it's happening, until the day you wake up...

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Cancer Is a Drag

(0) Comments | Posted October 30, 2013 | 9:58 PM

I will be the first to admit that there are times that Vivian, and even drag in general, frustrate me to no end. If they didn't, there wouldn't be a reason for me to blog. That being said, I know that if Vivian didn't exist, I would miss out on...

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The Von Broken-way

(3) Comments | Posted October 25, 2013 | 2:57 PM

A little over three years ago, when I came up with the idea to start my blog, Diary of a Drag Queen's Husband, Vivian thought it was a great idea, but she made one simple request of me: that I only use the blog for good. I could...

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Drag Obstacle Course

(0) Comments | Posted October 17, 2013 | 1:06 PM

In my humble opinion, Vivian occupies an interesting position in the world of drag. She is a queen who does not compete, does not have a drag family, is older than most of the other newer queens, and is a big girl. Each factor has its own challenge, but add...

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