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Are You Suffering From Election Insanity Too?

Posted: 10/30/08 04:02 AM ET

Are you finding it hard to focus? When you think about the possibility of McCain winning next week do you feel lost and bewildered at what that would mean to your life? Do you feel like your head is about to explode?

Me too.

Are you hysterically ambivalent? Do you go between watching and reading every single word spoken and written about the election, following every poll and poll of poll and poll of poll of poll...and never wanting to hear another pundit ever again, even Rachel Maddow?

Me too. Well maybe not Rachel Maddow.

Do you go from one frame of mind to another? From envisioning an America which has just elected the first African-American in its history and is in the hands of someone who knows what he's doing...with some hope for the future...to envisioning an America who has just voted out of fear and hatred and believed all of the lies...again?

Me too.

It's a good thing I live in Oregon, where an Obama victory is assured. And if the worst happens, it'll be a good place to stay.

I usually have an election-night party at my house. I may not. In 2004, everyone came over enthused. Remember the exit polls? Remember how you felt when it went the other way?

Think of that times, oh say, a hundred million this year.

Get a grip on yourself, D'Antoni.

I voted last week. In Oregon we have vote-by-mail. I won't debate the merits of that method, but when I filled out the ballot, I didn't have the feeling I thought I would have voting for Obama. I mean, I cried during his acceptance speech in Denver, didn't you?

I made a mistake while voting. My wife and I were sitting at the kitchen table filling out our ballots and I accidentally signed her ballot envelope by mistake. Even though it had her name plainly printed on it.

After absorbing the deserved abuse, I suggested we take our ballots to the election board and make sure everything was Kosher. It was. But instead of handing them to the man behind the counter like I thought I would, the African-American man behind the counter pointed to a light blue plastic box with a slot in the top.

I suddenly realized what I was going to do. I turned to my wife and asked if she wanted to put her own in. She did. It was obvious why.

My action of dropping my ballot in the box was quick but it seemed like I was moving in slow-motion and I filled up and flushed with emotion. I just got the same feeling typing this.

I felt like maybe my life had meaning after all. Maybe in some minuscule way all of the things I had done...written...put on TV...said on the radio...to try to promote love and understanding had somehow paid off.

And now I think, if McCain wins, will that all be washed away and destroy any remaining hope I had for America?

Like I said, can somebody make this election be over?

You feel that way too?


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JBS
Part time misanthrope & full time curmudgeon
10:24 PM on 10/31/2008
Like the pirate with the ships wheel sticking out of his trousers, "It's driving me nuts!"
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dutchgirl55
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11:24 PM on 10/30/2008
I'm from Pennsylvania, and I'm so freaked that John McCain and news sources are saying we may decide the election. I couldn't stand it if Pennsylvania was the deciding factor in John McCain winning. I will be so freaking glad when the election is over and Barack Obama is the winner.
10:40 PM on 10/30/2008
A right-on read, Tom. I cannot remember when an election ever had me so stressed. I feel it is critical that our nation makes a turn off the self- and others-destruction path it has walked on for eight years. America needs not only to take a good look at its own, but also to develop diplomatic relationships with others, soon.
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kymlosang
10:31 PM on 10/30/2008
there is mass anxiety in the u.s.a. right now. not just for the election but also about the economy. so put the two together and you have a double whammy. i also go back and forth from the hope that comes with imaging obama as the next president to the eery emptiness of thinking mccain and palin might steal it. i dont think i can take it if they do. tuesday the 4th cant come quick enough.
08:12 PM on 10/30/2008
Can you read minds? That is how I feel, exactly how I feel. I also voted early and filling in that little circle was a moment I will never forget. I wore my "I voted" sticker for several days after. I cannot imagine a win by mcsame - when I think of it, all I can see is an endless string of gray, cold days.
07:56 PM on 10/30/2008
I'm completely obsessed with following this campaign, and my spirit is soothed ONLY by volunteering for Obama. It makes me feel that I am doing all I can to protect my family's very lives.

I truly feel that the fate of Western civilization -- maybe the planet -- rests on the outcome of this election, and that an end-result of President McCain, Vice President Palin, and a possible succession of Palin to the presidency... well, I truly believe it will be the end of the United States as a power in the world, and perhaps as a unified nation.

No, I don't see Barack Obama as holy, perfect, supernatural, or some object of worship. It's that his leadership ability, his multiculturalism, his obvious respect for people of all nations/religions/dispositions/perspectives... you get the point...

He's no namby-pamby peacenik, yet he will inspire the nation, and the world, to try a little harder to get along, to be respectful. How can that be bad?
07:20 PM on 10/30/2008
I hate to bring even more dread and perplexity upon your house, Mr. D'Antoni, but you don't really think this is going to be over on November 4th, do you?

The Republicans and Democrats alike are readying their Voter Fraud arguments, should their side lose. Like the last two elections, this will come down to an election by lawsuit. Of course, the Republican claims of vote fraud on the part of Democrats are more or less groundless; while the claims against the Republicans have already proven substantial with irregularities in Florida and elsewhere.

So for one thing, Obama has to win by enough votes to offset the Republican-skewed voting machines and voter suppression tactics. And also, he has to hire the best lawyers for the Second Election - the one handled in civil court with zero input from the populace of this country.

5000. - N.
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LarBear
06:03 PM on 10/30/2008
Took me a long time and a lot of deep breaths to calm me, but I have learned to believe in ME... (Still working on that)... I have learned to be somewhat pragmatic in believing I am capeable of dealing with any outcome.... I calculated once I have been, since early childhood, at deaths door 9 or 10 times... Including a week in a comma at about 4 1/2 years old.... Been in the Light and back... Does not scare me in anyway....

I don't tend to allow others to set my inner dialog... I've been playing my "bring it (me) Home" Game for many years... I can NOT change the other person, I can only bring Home my response ability for what I think and feel... It's NOT what the other person did/ does, but more as to what I BELIEVE about what happened...

Having said that, never have I felt such an attempt to "slime" our Nation as that which McCain/ Palin and other Republican's have done... As though they have never met a LIE, they are not willing to Mate With, in order to Control our Nation... Ugggghhhhh and ukkkkie slime spewers.....
06:03 PM on 10/30/2008
Now, when I hear about Joe the Plumber, about Obama and socialism, about distributing the wealth, about questionable associations, about Obama the Muslim, I find I just can't take it anymore. Who in the world is undecided at this point? How come every time I look at the poll numbers they are shifting? There is nothing new being offered by either candidate. Obama is just repeating his stance on the issues and McCain is repeating the same attacks against Obama. It's the same message over and over and over and over again. This has been the longest week of my life. Let's be done with this so we can all move on. And please, let the American people do the right thing this time.
05:44 PM on 10/30/2008
Oy vey! Have you ever described things as they are. I am a family therapist, and my clients and I and all of my close friends are in the same boat you describe. But I have finally realized that it is those who do not feel sick like we do, for the reasons we do, who have a stubborn case of emotional dyslexia. Those of us who care about our country, and cannot believe what has happened in the last 8 years to all we hold dear, are sick with worry that madness will win out, once again. In these months, sick is healthy. "Enough is Enough Sick" has brought all of us together, determined to do something positive, whatever it takes, at long, long last!
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kjstjohn
08:40 PM on 10/30/2008
Welcome. Did you get crazier (healthier) like me when you found out Palin could not speak English? The double association of election = fr@ud and Bush = Palin just about finished me off.
05:33 PM on 10/30/2008
This essay forced me to join HuffPo, which I did through tears. It's comforting to know I'm not alone in obsessing over this election -- that there are others who are experiencing intermittent campaign-related fear, joy, angst and hope, as well as constant STRESS. I hope there is an indisputable landslide victory for Obama on Tuesday. If there isn't a victory .... I can't even bear to think of it. It is beyond my ability to comprehend how (intelligent) people can even consider voting for his opponents, let alone do it. For this 62 year old, white, educated, thoroughly obsessed woman supporting Obama for the next POTUS whose friends and family have considered removing my computer and doing an intervention on me, Tuesday cannot come soon enough.
05:18 PM on 10/30/2008
I too, vacillate from one extreme to the other...

But we have decided to wait it out until November the 4th.

Using personal time to take the day off from work, we plan to show up at our polling station early, to stand in line, if need be.

We don't trust the early voting. Everything we've read about "mis-calibrated machines," to "lost ballots," and "missing forms," etc. has caused us (in our paranoic way) to decide that we will risk our votes being lost on Election day, and not before (We DO have our voter registration cards under a magnet on the refridgerator to take with us, though, along with picture ID...)

Around here, there is no more, "How was YOUR day, honey?" conversations...Everything rolls around, 'Did you read the latest piece of stupidity from the McCain Camp today?" or, "Well, the GOP is trying their damnedest to steal the election in Michigan with mail-in validations..." or other inane, FEARFUL crap...

THAT is what I truly despise the McCain Campaign for, even MORE than the smarmy lies they've perpetuated about Obama for months, now. I HATE the fact that we are all so AFRAID! Afraid of the election being stolen, afraid that somehow, our votes WON'T count (even though, with the Eletorate System, they really don't count past the tipping point of majority vote)...

Tuesday CAN'T get here soon enough.
But I DO have the champagne chilling for Tuesday night, when OBAMA WINS!
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Norge
Rolf K. Artist, worker of metal, writer of poems
02:35 PM on 10/30/2008
No.

Tomorrow the circus comes to town
the kids all gather round
the shooting range and gallery
their face of cotton candy.

High above and out of touch
the pigeons coo and gawk.

Rolf Krogsæther 1977
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ruffmama
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12:13 PM on 10/30/2008
You are describing me to a tee.....I am a total basket case with worry. All of the "what ifs" that are floating around in my head are making me CRAZY!
09:28 AM on 10/30/2008
Tom,

I had tears in my eyes, not just during Obama's convention speech, but while reading your post as well. You brought up everything I have been feeling in recent weeks. Pride and hopefulness alternating with fear and despair.

I live in Pennsylvania, a swing state, and while Obama is way ahead in the polls, I will be glued to the election results, legs shaking and a lump in my throat, until he is declared the winner. If it goes the other way, I just don't know what I'll do. Start learning a foreign language so I can relocate maybe. Any suggestions?